Do you think that some people come over as good listeners, yet all they want

They call them 'cats'. Catty, you've heard it I'm sure. They will be so sweet and so nice and funny how they know all your vulnerable spots too. Then you hear from some one something you told this person in confidence. And the bomb hits! Ya, I've been there. Some people are just made differently. No Scruples!

Oh yes, definitely. The only reason they talk to you or be your friend is to get info about someone else. I think we have all experienced this personally. it's sad, but true...like you said. It is best to either clam up or move on from these people. my MIL used to ask me certain questions about certain people in my family, I was very vague and general....most of the time I would just say: I don't know. That seems to shut people up.

For me a good listener is a prerequisite for a good friendship and that would have to come from me as well of course. Caring for each other does include hearing and listening to one another. I guess there are those who take advantage of personal information so they can use it to gossip. These folks are not good friends and are faking their interest to use for themselves. I hope that, as I’ve grown older, I have become more perceptive of people who are real versus those who may have ulterior motives.

Some people are good listeners. I have learned who are the gossipers and the non gossipers! If I talk to people who like to gossip, I really don't tell them much! They will tell everyone things you don't want others to know,otherwise! I have learned most men are best at keeping secrets! Men can be bad listeners! It is just the way men are! I can't trust many women to be good listeners and non gossipers in one! At least the men I know don't gossip!

Unfortunately there are some people in this world who only pretend to be listening to what you have to say. they are only paying attention to the small details they can use to spread gossip and rumors. Listening to someone is caring about what they have to say. If you really aren't interested you shouldn''t put on a show.

I think some of those types who spread gossip might not understand that some conversations are meant to be kept secret. They just don't have the tact to discern which conversations should be personal and which can be discussed with anyone. Others are just rude and want people to feel ashamed for sharing their thoughts. I knew a person who was like this and so I did the same thing to her. I told others what she said, and she turned into a grumpy monster. I think they're just drama freaks because they should know they deserve worse treatment. But they always go and try to get even because they enjoy the social attention. It doesn't bother them as much when people talk about them.

Some people just pretend to be listening and that is a sad thing because you really think they are listening and yo find out later they were not paying any attention at all!! Sad but true!! you are right.

Oh yes, it is a sad fact that there are people that are like that out there, but we all get to know who these people are as well as what to say, as well as what not to mention infront of them or to them.I am a person that tries to keep myself to myself, as that way it saves all the agro that can sometimes happen.

hi, i choose the person where to tell some thoughts i have,of course those people that i know and certified not to scattered it.if i dont have trust to a one person i will never ever tell it.its better to be safe than to spread it.

I know there are that kind of people and actually they amaze me. I mean why in the world would they find something like spreading a useless gossip a fun thing to do?? I wouldn't bother doing that, not even if someone pays me LOL. Anyway I'm glad none of my friends are like that and I can trust them with my eyes closed.