when do you say enough is enough?

When it is enough! I think we all have family and/or friends that have problems and we do from time to time ourselves. Each situation is unique. If we have certain values and those values are being trompled on then we need to make some changes and set up very strinct boundaries to safeguard or sanity and our hearts. It is never easy and isn't something we like to do but we can't have people using us or hurting our hearts in the pursuit of idiotic things either.

I don't know if I can say no to a person or even give up on a person because I know that one day that person's going to need my help and I may not be there to help that person. I know it's frustrating when you look a person and tell them to stop those bad things and they don't listen to you. I know you know that deep inside that they need your help but they're just not asking for it. All I can say is that hang in there because they're going through a more rough time than you.

Hmmm...I don't know. Well, since this is the virtual world, it's easy to walk away when you think it's too much or pretend not to be around when you don't want to read about someone venting. But it's harder in the real world when one is face-to-face with the person who is venting (I had a similar issue with a friend in real life and didn't know how to say 'enough'!). But out here on mylot, I find it a lot easier to ignore and choose what I read and respond to. So, I've never had to say 'Enough' to anyone.

There really isn't a formula nor a text book to decide when enough is enough, that is decided by the individual, and when that individual "feels" enough is enough.

Well i think that point would come when someone crosses a line which is somewhat like the line which one shouldn't really cross. Then you could say "Enough is enough". Well i think people discuss issues here because they are concerned about them and wonder what might happen if they took the wrong advice. So they seek advice from some of the mylotters in here. They feel good when they get some solid advice. Everyone's opinion is concerned. But in some cases you are right. It's just too much isn't it? Cheers!

I have no family member that is a leach, though some cousins of mine are wasting their parents money jumping from a major to another major, or dropping their classes altogether, I guess my family's problems are too minute by far...