Hurting your own children

Basically those women just aren't right in the head. I know better than anyone that parenting isn't easy. There've been many times where I've had to use every ounce of self control not to do something I'd regret later. In some ways I can understand shaken baby syndrome because I remember having times when I was that stressed out that if I didn't know better I could have done something stupid.

Poor babies, oh my God I can't imagine ever being so stressed where I would intentionally and or attempt to kill my children. Although not an excuse all I can think is that the women had to be either mentally unstable and or in some form of deep depression. Such a horrible act to have happened.

i got six sons [with an additional one on the way] and just imagine how our home environment is! Discipline is a big task resorting to a lot psychological thinking, and sometimes physical action also as an option [hopefully the last alternative]. But i would never ever would purposely hurt my children as that would be crucial in their development. I think the mother, as above, was not in her right mind to do such unforgivable act! She must be suffering from a lot of pain, confusion and delusion..

Heinous crime I may say. That kind of woman have no heart or maybe have a nervous breakdown already. The question is "What drive them to do such things?" Maybe financial problem or maybe something that really make their mind out of control and kill even their own children. It's very heartbreaking if you know some incident like that. Children are precious and they bring happiness to the family so we need to take good care of them and our responsibility is to give them good life.

I am mother of a 9-year-old and a 1-year-old. Both of them are boys. My eldest son would sometimes really test my patience that I guess is really normal for his age. It would sometimes get me mad and would really wanted to beat him, but I just couldn't do it. There are times that I will really loose patience and spank him slightly, but afterwards I feel like crying because no matter what, it's just a child, and it's normal for them to misbehave. Killing your own child not something that a normal human being is expected to do. I could say that a mom who kills her own child is not insane, and there's something wrong with her brain.

Hurting my kids is for disciplinary purposes only. I'm not saying that I am always hurting them for them to be good. I'm just doing that act for them to behave properly and learn their mistakes. It's not happening all the time, I only initiating it when they are unreasonably not behaving well or sometimes disrespecting others. But too much physical infliction of pain to your children is not reasonable to the eyes of others and especially to God. No matter what happens, he/she still comes from you.

Usually with things like this its caused by severe post partum depression. Did the woman have a baby within the last year? Whatever the case it is truly horric. If someone doesnt want their children give them up to foster care dont kill them and yourself. Gosh I get so sick reading things like this. What a horrible mother!

She wants to take them with her is all I can think. But that sort of thing just makes me sick.

I myself saw this on the news. It brought tears to my eyes. As you my children have days they get on my nerves really bad. I've been so stressed out I've cried. Have I ever though of killing my children. Never. I dont care how stressful being a mom or dad is there is always a different way to handle things. I couldnt even emagine what goes through these parents minds when doing this. I dont even want to know what goes through their heads. I pray that the little boy the was able to escape doesnt have any long term mental issues. Bless his little heart for having to see and go through that.

Hi. dorannmwin. I think that this is very sad. So sad. I heard about the story about the mother drowning herself and her kids into the Hudson River. She was upset because her baby's father was cheating on her and they had an argument about it too. I could never kill my own children. I just can't. This is very sad and heartbreaking. My kids run me up the wall everyday, and all day, until they go to sleep at night and believe me, it would hurt me to know that I could actually get that stressed out till the point of me killing them. I could never push myself to this limit. I wonder what really goes on into the minds of any parent that kills their own child. I really wonder??? I think that stress and anxiety of the inability to cope, will drive a mother stone mad to kill her children. Satan has to be in her to possess her mind and body into killing her own flesh and blood. Those poor babies cried for their precious life. I just could not imagine hearing and seeing the expressions on my child's face as I am hurting them or killing them brutally! How can a mother that is alive live with herself after this? And how can a mother that has killed her own self along with her kids rest in peace??? I always pray that God will keep me holy so that I will never go in a deadly direction as to killing my innocent three children.

I think people kill their children becuase of depression,they want revenge on the other parent,they don't want or were not ready to have children,mentally! Parents just do this randomly,at least sometimes! With the woman in New York,said she made a mistake right after she drove in the Hudson, before he oldest son escaped! Then I have heard a parent killing their children to get renvenge on their spouse for leaving for example! It is like "You are leaving me. So to get you back I am killing our children"! Then I read a story of people abandoning or killing newborns because they didn't want to be pregnant in the first place. When they realized they made a mistake, they are mentally unstall and do something disturbing! Instead of taking an unwanted child to a hospital or police station,the child is left to die and unfortunely some do die! It is so sad and disturbing! I have a son I gave up for adoption 21 years ago. Even though I never kept him,I could never kill or even hurt him! People who do that to their children are messed up! Really messed up and when you kill a child they can't be brought back,either!

I am a bit of a perfectionist, and I'm easily irritated. So, I could definitely say that more than 50% of the time, my kids disappoint, frustrate, or make me angry. But never in my mind have I ever thought of hurting them. Because the little percentage that they don't disappoint, frustrate, or make me angry, more than makes up for the time that they do. I think that parents that purposely hurt their children are just evil!

how tragic... but this news is not new anymore. there are just women who don't give even just pity to their children. there are many women like that in our country, and commonly their reason why they kill their own children is because of depression, post-partum gone bad, and they're simply not prepared. how sad to know that there are innocent lives taken away due to irresponsible mothers, when in the first place they should be the shield and and armor of their children.

No parents with the right mind will do such thing! That's very cruel and definitely a sin...Yeah I agree with you that sometimes kids get on our nerves but hurting to the point of killing them is not right. Parents who committed that crime have psychological problems.

hi dorannmwin.....i am here after a long time...i might have missed many of your discussions..anyway..how r u? ...yes...i too have come across such stories...the reason might be that the person might be having lot of tensions...and also he/she might be worried about who will look after their kids if they die alone....they might be thinking that its their own responsibility if they have brought them to this world..so may be they are forced to take such steps....but i think people must have courage to face the worst situation in their life and come out of such problems...may God give all the courage to come out of such situations..nice topic...

Hi Dorannmwin, I would have to say that this woman had some sort of mental illness. I have 4 daughters that I raised on my own and talk about stress and frustration at times...especially when they were in their teens! I remember feeling a lot of things and sometimes a great deal of frustration but oh ...I never even spanked them. I mean there were moments that I thought, " I don't even like you"...they were just moments and there were a couple of times when it would have felt good to slap a face for being really mouthy but I didn't and wouldn't. I don't understand this but I'd have to say that this woman was hurting inside more than any of us could imagine.

dorannmwin, Killing would be the last thing on my mind as a father and no matter what or how I do not think I can bring myself to even consider hurting them. Which explains how painful it feels when one has to discipline them. As for this woman, I suppose she might have quite a lot of unresolved issues that eventually drove her to desperation to actually kill her children and herself. Times are tough indeed these days, with this economic crisis. It is just sad.

I also heard the news on TV. It takes me to be aware of that must keep calm and sane in something unforeseen happening or mischieves of children.

I ever never hurt my children physically. i don't abuse them verbally also. But i shout at them. I scold them. I think this is also bad. I try my level best to correct me. Now your story. Mothers killing their own babies is not all a wonder. It happens here and there all over the world. To be a good mother their mental health is very important. if any mother feels that mental health is disturbed for any reason she should seek help to prevent her and her children from danger.

My kids make me angry especially when they fight and hurt each other over toys or other small things. There are times when I think of the days when it was just me and my husband at home and everything was peaceful and quiet. But I love my kids and I would rather have riotous boys who jump on the bed and climb on shelves than having no children at all. Those women who killed their own children must need medical and psychological help.