life's dilemma

i had a baby at a wrong age. but although entering this fact in your discussion about dilemma, i can still say that my son is a blessing. through him my dad and i had a good relationship again, and through him my family became closer to each other. i know god has his reason why he gave me this, and despite the difficulties im still thankful of my little blessing.

why not find a baby-sitter, or some kind of kindergarten?

I hope that you are able to care for your baby now. I'm sure you will find a way to survive. As I recall, you were having a hard time being separated from your baby because she was staying with family members. I hope all goes well for you! Have a great weekend!!!

Hello my friend raynejasper Ji, Well, as a grand-mother of five children, I woiuld say that you have done very good step by resigning your job for the sake of your babies. God will always help you as you are going to do the job of God. Liofe is full of ups and down I have something to share with you. If you follow even one out of them, I am sure you will be easy going. Fight with the world. Here I go :- [b]"SATSANG (a) ”If you can balance /stable your mind, when people around you are in un-balanced , and at the same time blaming you”. (NO-reaction) (b) “If you have belief on yourself, when others have doubt and at the same time, you strongly oppose their belief of their doubt” (c) “If you can wait for Good/Bright days without loosing patience/getting disheartened of waiting”. (d) “Everyone around you is deceiving you , whereas you are not in any way.” (e) “ Every body hates you and you do not, at the same time, you ARE not proud to be ‘good’ and ‘wise’. (f) “ If you Can dream, but do not allow them to overpower you, and you Can ‘think’ but at the same time, do not plunge into dreams of ‘thinking”. (g) “If you can welcome ‘gains’ and ‘defeat’ OR ‘profit’ & ‘loss’ with open hearts and they do not unbalance your mind”. (h) “If you can accept your own words in twisted/mutilated /distorted form, happily by ‘fools’ and they do not involve you in their bad plans”. (i)“ If you Can bear/tolerate the ‘gains’ accomplished by you ‘raise to ashes’ , for which you took whole life to build, and at the same time you can once again order your tired hands to restart making”. (J) “ If you can take one chance to reduce your gains in your life, ‘loose’ or ‘gain’ (like a great gambler) (k)“If you can, after loosing every bit in your life, get ready fresh to obtain the same with total energy from all corners of your body and mind, without uttering a single word even”. (l)“ If you Can compel your heart, mind and limbs, when they are so tired and refuse to accept any thing, except that your ‘belief’ and ‘desire’ to order them that they have to march forward and not falling back”. (m) “ If you can roam in crowds, but do not allow your ‘thoughts’ and ’abilities’ to wander stray, and you live with emperor, but do not neglect common man “. (n) “ If you are unharmed by people loving you and people hating you”. (o)“ If you Can respect everybody within the limits, but at the same time nobody”. (p)“ IF YOU CAN REMEMBER THE UN-EXCUSED MOMENT/SECOND (time) OF YOUR LIFE, AND EXPLAIN THE REASON FOR THE SAME”. Then, the whole world belongs to you only and every thing that exists on this, at the same time you fall under the category of ‘ACTUAL HUMAN BEING ’, which is greatest achievement in the life than any thing else”.[/b] Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.

We really can't just have everything we want. Sometimes we really have to sacrifice so we can make things going. It also happened to me, I resigned from my job so I can take care of my growing children. My husband also work so I should not worry about expenses but as the children are growing and the expenses also grows, so what we have to do is to make the ends and means meet. No unnecessary expenses, just only what is needed. Well, thank God that my youngest have just graduated from college and I hope that this will be a start of something new in our lives.

I had a difficult dilemma to when I was in college, I had everything going the way I wanted it to be I had great set of friends money from my parents loving family good grades no vices and a lot of opportunities but all of a sudden I became this drooling foolishly in-love person who can forget the whole wold for the heck of it and focus only on one thing, my girl. So everything fell apart i didnt flunk my class but I became ordinary, i missed out on a lot of bonding time with my friends and I almost neglected my family moments, but it had to be done I had to prioritize trying to get a life with this woman whom from that point onwards made me rethink everything in my life set it straight only to one goal prepare for my future with her so I had to decide and up to until now I don't have any regrets so kudos to you my friend, cute kid by the way. Tc...

Yes life is not fun most of the times. I think all women should know the consequences of being married. I think not all have been aware of it and they take the plunge , blindfolded or uncaring ...all for the glory of love. Every woman who will be a married life should know first that they may have to stay home just in case they will bear children.If they think that they are earning enough and can afford the services of a baby sitter, they will get frustrated in the end.Cause nobody , as in nobody is in the best position to take care of her baby but her. So you have made the right decision and don't worry about the future, have faith and be creative and innovative for you can still earn money while taking care of your child. (^_^)

Well that's a good choice you have taken. Family comes first and next comes everything else. I am still kind young so i don't know much difficulties for myself. I will soon know them in due time. i hope your doing well now... Take care of yourself and your baby! Cheers!

Life is indeed a dilemma on its own. We have choices to face upon in daily life, and whatever we decide, there's always sacrifices, be it in the long run or right ahead of us. I don't mind sacrifices because we can't simply take the cake and eat it. It's so true. There might be times we think that we didn't sacrifice anything, but in fact, people around us are being sacrificed without us realizing it. My personal dilemma comes with my work as well, as it's about my promotion and recognition.

hi raynejasper! i also had the same decision just a year ago and i did not regret it. my thinking that time was if i will be working i could not take care my daughter the way i want her to be raised. i guess, your decision is nobel and God likes that. there will be a time that you will find it okay to work and leave your child to a nanny. i was discussing a while ago to my husband about my plans of having a job next year. that time i have concrete plans of what i want. if you are having dilemma now, or you are thinking much about your decision i suggest that you pray. ask God what is good for you and ask Him to give you peace of mind. I suggest that you stop worrying and cast everything to God.

I believe you have been through hard times choosing between staying with your job or quitting for the sake of your baby, which you ultimately decided to do the latter at the expense of your job...I think many people will agree with me that you made the right choice...Although you are in hard situation just believe in God, for He will help you to overcome this situation...Believe me, God will not test you of what you are not capable of... Personally, the most difficult dilemma I have ever faced in my life was when I was offered a scholarship to study abroad...I received the offer not long after my first semester at my current university, and when I received that once-in-a-lifetime chance, I couldn't believe my eyes...The dilemma is to choose between two - should I stay here, or going for the scholarship and study abroad...I was in dilemma for days, and ultimately I chose to stay rather than taking the offer... It was not my personal wish actually, but my parents'...I have always believed that parents' blessing is the most important thing in life, and without that you will not be successful in your life no matter how...As they said, the blessing of God lies on the blessing of your parents ...Now, I am glad that I made that choice because now I cannot feel better here in my current university...