Who's mistake is it?
By chicko
@chicko (86)
India
April 14, 2011 11:22am CST
Today when we went out for lunch, one of my friends asked me to keep her keys in my bag for her, which i did since she wasnt carrying a bag with her. Well, both of us forgot about it totally till evening, when she was leaving for the day and couldnt find her bike keys! And I had already reached my home (I left earlier than her).... She called me up, I said I've already reached home..I asked her to go home by public transport for today and she can take her keys from me tomorrow at work.. Then I offered to go back to work and hand over her keys... She was relieved at that, since she was hesitant to leave her bike in office unattended and doesnt normally use public transport.... Well, I was just fulfilling my role as a friend and wanted to avoid any kind of bickering later on about not offering to help out much..
When I went back to work and gave her keys, she passed a comment saying, "we must be careful in future not to repeat this mistake! etc and smiled" Ok, now I was baffled coz I do think it was my mistake at all!! It was her keys and HER responsibility to remember to take it back from me on time... I carried her keys during lunch, my part ended there. I'm furious, because she partly blames me for the mess and waiting in office while i went back to drop her keys etc...
She did say sorry , you had to come back all the way for me...but why place half the blame on me?? She's not a baby that I remind her to take back her keys!
Do you think I am also responsible for her keys in my bag?!
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8 responses
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
14 Apr 11
Well, in my opinion, once she said "WE must be careful ... " she is kind'a sharing the responsibility of herself not remembering to ask for the keys back, and, if I can put myself in your shoes for a while, I would take a little blame for it since I accepted the task of taking care of her keys, by common sense, I know and both of you know that it wasn't intentional for you to take them with you.
I would share a little the responsibility, but if you feel like she's referring it directly as totally your fault, I guess you would know what to do next time, right?
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@chicko (86)
• India
14 Apr 11
I accepted the task of carrying her keys, which is actually a favor to her... When people do favors, you just need to accept how much they do for you...You cannot make demands or expect anything extra!!
I really dont see why I should share any responsibility of her forgetting to take back her keys!
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
15 Apr 11
Maybe it's just the concept of responsibility I have, again, placing myself in your shoes, it would've been totally different if the friend had left before I did and she forgot to ask me for the keys, that would've been totally her fault, but since I left first, I still had the responsibility I accepted in the first place, don't think it was the friends idea for me to take the keys home without telling her.
Anyways, it would be good if you let the friend know in a fair way how you feel about how the situation was handled.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
I don't think i am half responsible for that.
See,she gave me the keys in the first place.
Second,i am not a key keeper so that i should have a photographic memory to keep reminding people who leave their keys in my responsibility.
Another things is,why put half the blame on me when it's not convenient for me to go back to work place when it's my rest time already ( i am at home and suddenly you are calling for your keys)
I won't blame you for getting furious.
I might feel the same way too.
She's even inconsiderate for saying or commenting...she should keep her mouth shut.
Next time you know what to do then..never keep her keys or any of her possession.
have a great day
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
hello again,
thanks for the br mark and have a great weekend ahead
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
17 Apr 11
Are we being a bit too sensitive??? Her comment had nothing to do with blame. It was about a shared experience she hoped neither of you would have to experience again. Since either of you could have prevented it, that is what the comment was about. Remember, she was SMILING!! Go smile back. You are really good friends!!
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
For me both of you have a mistake you never do your responsibility to the key.
@cakcibor89 (23)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 11
hi chicko,for me it is not your fault or your friend fault.your friend is maybe just too tired and accidentally say something like that. it is fine, normal ways of friend interaction,some day is good,some day is rain. just apologize her and be good to her,there is nothing to lose.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
clearly, it's more of her mistake than yours.. she asked for the favor and you just obliged. Well, if on the first place she states, "keep the keys for me and then remind me..." then that would be a different story, lol! but on the other hand, it is just a simple misunderstanding and i think could be resolved amicably, okay?
@christine888 (303)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
From my own point of view that wasn't your fault. It's her responsibility to remember her things. If that's the case that she was blaming you of what had happen, then you better tell her that next time she should bring her own purse or bag. So that she wouldn't bother you anymore.
