I am so sad.

Don't worry dear we all go through ups and downs of life and some times one seems to be longer than the other but eventually it all passes. I also come from a big family and I am the youngest of all, like your family my family also had financial problems but luckily we did not have any arguments or fights but I can certainly understand how you must be feeling with lack of money and to top it all up the unpleasent environment. Every time when I looked at my parents and saw them worrying about all of us I also felt sad and them I would just go sit infront of a god's picture and pray hard that my parents get all the happiness in the world. I think you can also pray for better understanding amongst your family members. I believe that one can ask for money or happiness etc. from god but if they don't have wisdom and knowledge of how to take care of everything then money and happiness will not last so I always pray for wisdom and always ask the god to be with us and help us all make right decisions. Hope this helps. good luck.

Ohhhhhh friend really you are facing lot of problems but my friend behind this problems may be some happiness for you and you are lucky because your sister ready to bear all responsibility. Read my discussion "Two sisters who locked themselves inside their house" But remember my friend don't leave alone your sister when she is need you because she can't bear this shocking news. So always stay with your younger sister.

Being eldest in the family is always hard because all of your siblings will depend on you especially now that you are already working. Maybe you can try to talk to your sister to lessen going home late or she can try to get a part time job to be able to help you financially. I know that it is hard on your part since you are working and when you go home you want to rest but instead you will hear them arguing. Another thing you can consider is moving out of your house and leave independently but of course you will need to ask your parent's approval and it is also depend on your salary. But the best thing you can do is talk to them and let them know how you feel, I am sure they will understand you. You are a good sister and a daughter to your parents so I am sure you can resolve all of it.

hello phoebe, If you are working and you think you can live by your own,why not rent a room near your working place. You can use it as a reason to your parents so they won't feel bad with your decision. If you can convince your sister,then she might join you too..maybe she will become more mature when living separately from your parents.

...Hi there phoebelance, I have no idea how old you are or if you are still in school or not. So the best I can say to you is to try and get yourself involved in meditation. You need as I see it to build a resevre of strength and ability to be in the situation you are in, if you are not able to change locations, but to not allow yourself to be so disturbed by all that is going on around you. Mediation is a form of relaxation and helps you to find inner peace. Everyone in this world has problems of one sort or another. Even rich people have problems, no one escapes. So the thing I would hope that you will do, is to read up on and practice daily mediation sessions and you will find that the inner turmoil that you are feeling will calm down and you will be able to endure everything until you are able to change the situation for yourself. Please research and start to meditate. Good luck. Cheers.

you said that you are poor and miserable but you still have food on the table every day, you still have a house and you still have your family what will you say about people around the world who does have even one of those things. if the problem is the fact that your parents argue every day with your sister why dont you try to bring your sister to her senses like you said your parent got a point so you have to try to talk to your sister to stop making your parents angry every day because the worst can happen because something can happen to your sister or your parents when they get angry. i dont know if you believe in god but the bible says we shall honor our parents so that we will live long. if you can pray ask god to change your sister behavior god does do miracle.

Well, you never said how old your sister was but I am assuming that she is over 18 due to the fact that you mention that she can't not get scholarship for college. Is she working at the bar or just taking classes there? If she is old enough to be in college, she is really old enough to make her own decisions about when she comes in. I personally think that you should be both discuss with your parents how the fighting makes you feel. You mention beatings in one of your responses- do they beat her? IF so, that is not right. She might be trying to do something to make extra money for college or something. You should concentrate on your life and have a job where you will be able to get out on your own. It might be that you and your sister could get a place together.

I am sorry that you have to be in this situation. Life is hard sometimes but what I usually do when im feeling down is look at all the positives in my life. Yes some things may be bad but Im sure you can think of other things that are good. Maybe you should try to talk to your family and let them know how you are feeling. Let them know that all the yelling really gets to you and that you hate the stress it brings. However make sure you approach this calmly and be caring about it. As for the money issue, I'm not sure what country you live in but there are many opportunities online that could allow you to make some additional income for free. I would refer you to my blog but sadly blogger took it down with no fault of my own. If you want some help though with sites you can use feel free to email me. I dont get anything for referring you, except of course the pride in helping another person. I really hope things work out for the best. Good luck! Best, Oscar6