Stay at home wives

For me if you don't want to became a working mom then you are at home wives.

There's nothing wrong with being a stay at home wife in my opinion although nowadays it's starting to get a negative outlook on it. My boyfriend (who plans on marrying me soon) as actually suggested that I just become one because all of my skills are in the area of the home and getting a job outside of the house is extremely hard for me (due to health reasons). He wants to start having a family soon and that someone needs to be home so there's no problem. When I tell my friends this, they immediately take it as I have no goals, I'm dependent on him, I'm lazy, I basically get the whole lecture on needing to be a strong independent woman and that house wives are lazy women. That's not true. I understand that years ago that's all women could do and now a days we can do anything but there's nothing bad if you choose the option that's best for your family. My mother was a stay at home wife and from what I've seen her do, it's just as hard as having a day job. My mom cooked meals 3 times a day and made snacks, she raised 4 children and numerous pets from cats to dogs, she cleaned, she took out trash, she did minor housework such as re-painting a room, she did outside work like mowing the lawn, trimming bushes, took care of all the bills by calling numbers and mailing payment, dealt with groceries, etc. She did serious work so I don't understand why people say they are lazy.

Hello oscar6, Being a housewife is a 24/7 job,and its hard. Don't mind people making negative comments about you what is important is that you know to yourself that your doing everything for your family. military wife or no military wife still you are the one incharge in molding and nurturing your children, and its not that easy.

I tried being a stay-at-home wife for two years and i swear those were the hardest 2 years of my life. Being a housewife is probably the most difficult job of all. I had to take care of 2 toddlers, cook food 3-4 times a day, do the laundry, keep the house spotless, take care of financials, and do other stuff like take out the trash... I felt like 24 hours was not enough!

I think being a stay at home wife is the hardest job you can have because you are working 24 hours a day. In these households, when husbands are at work, they are at work but when they get home, they are off work and have their down time. A stay at home wife is doing things to maintain the house all the time...from when you wake up till you go to bed which is why I think it is the hardest job you can have. I don't understand why people would say those things to you. People who are mean and demeaning are usually unhappy, negative people who try and make themselves feel better by belittling others. You shouldn't care what they think and shouldn't let them make you feel sad. In fact, I think you should just feel sorry for them and be happy you are you and happy with your life.

i think being a stay at home wive is great my mom was just like that and they are loving wives and loving moms do not let any one tell you that you are not a great person

Hey nice to meet you, I am also wife of an Officer and really glad to meed you though we do belong to different nations but how similar our stories are. My hubby stays a way a lot too and we move around every two years. In fact now I feel uneasy if we have stayed in a place for too long. I also work from home or pick up jobs whenever I can , if its possible in the city. I know people think we do nothing but I think wives of soldiers contribute a lot even if they are not working ,In our country wives are supposed to look after the ladies of other soldiers , counsel them and help empowering the young wives if they need a job, even these keep us busy a lot. Plus I think taking care of a family is a full time work. Just see if we fall ill the whole schedule of other members gets disrupted and we work Sundays too and that too without pay..lol

you know what? i will let you in on a little secret. the people that tell you these things are jealous of your ability to stay home and wish they could do it to. you just keep doing what you are doing and dont worry about anyone else.

you know what? i will let you in on a little secret. the people that tell you these things are jealous of your ability to stay home and wish they could do it to. you just keep doing what you are doing and dont worry about anyone else.

I am a stay at home wife in a way as I do operate a couple of flea market booths but I am far from lazy. I home school my daughter, make my husband at least two meals a day, take care of our horses, work online, clean house, do laundry, run errands, go to the grocery and feed stores, do many yard and farm chores and make sure that everyone is where they need to be. When someone asks you what you do, tell them that you are a household manager or a life skills coach and see what they say then. I told someone once that I had so many titles that there was not room for all of them on my office door. They laughed and I just said it is safe to say that I am a household manager. They shut up about what I did. I greatly respect women who stay home to raise a family and make sure that their children know that they care about them.

You know being a mother is really hard and to add more on budgeting expenses and bills makes our headache. And we become proud on this things. Some doesn't understand this things and they only see are weakness and negative sides comments. Before i was the stay at home wives taking care of our babies. Really hard to do and lots of problems coming in but need to be strong. strong to all situations. And try to accept the reality. Then this will makes our life easy. To live on real situation. it will help us to enlighten our feelings.

I am a stay at home wife also but I do work at home and earn. Not all stay at home moms would like to hear that they are useless or they just wanted to relax while their husband is the bread winner. But I want to ask you this, do you really want to work outside to earn money? well housewives do that also at home in different ways like selling foods, offering service like manicure or pedicure. Do you think you have something that you can contribute so that you won't feel so bad about yourself? You can do something useful at home and at the same time earn money. Most stay at home moms I know do earn a good amount of money and they also have time to spend with their kids and do household chores. It only takes dedication and using the skills and talents you have in order to be creative and help your beloved to earn money.

Don'be interested in them, my friend. Our home need a good woman to care. This is the happiness of man. Why must you think about it?

People who say these like this really don't have any appreciation or respect for those who are house wives. A lot of people for some reason have this view point. Don't let that discourage you in any way, shape or form. If they want to work that is fine and good for them, you aren't discouraging to them about how they should stay home and take care of their family that way. House wives contribute to the stability of a family and do a lot for a family that really is needed. Working outside the home can take more time a way from the family and cause stress because of added things that need to be done after working perhaps 40 hrs a week. It really irritates me when people say such things about being a house wife. Husbands are suppose to be the breadwinner in the family and in fact they feel more of a man when they are able to take care of these responsibilities in such a way. I work part time to because for us it's more necessary but I don't have to spend a lot of time away from my family. I'm able to earn some and at the same time will be able to stay home with our daughter. Tell those who say such negative things that you are happy with your life and what you do for your family, and that you are priviledged to be at home and that your husband supports your family financially while you do the rest.