Can a step father give a complete love and care to his step children?

I disagree with you. I had a two year old daughter when I met my husband. He has been a perfect father to her. He has been through us with a lot of problems including my ex boyfriend filing for custody of her. As I paniced, he called a great attorney and got our side of the battle started. He paid over $10,000 for that battle and six months later her dad decided that my husband could adopt her if he wanted. Another $15,000 for attorney and adoption fees, but he paid it and never complained. He adopted her and they have always been closer than he is to his own son. He has been a great dad to her and they are so close that people even comment about how much she is like her dad. So, I know that stepfathers can give complete love and care to his stepchildren if he chooses too.

There are two type of individual in society, decent and indecent. So, you can face both of them. In this issue the man is not loyal to his family and owning indecent manner but there are some step fathers who accept others kids as their own. So depends on individual. have a nice day.

i have a friend who was then a single parent to a very lovely daughter. And then she met a a wonderful man who married her, adopted her daughter legally and they now live happily ever after. i was a witness how the dad (we don't even consider him a step dad. their parent-daughter dynamic is so powerful and at times the dad is the good cop and the mom is the bad cop. :) The little girl grew up to be a teenager and she does love her dad to bits. The daughter is a blogger and if you can read your entries, genuine father-daughter love runs deep between the two of them. Her entries would drive me to tears because she grew up well loved and taken cared of by "step father". But i guess there is always the sad story where step children are abused and even molested. but hey, there are cases that even real fathers does the same-- but that is entirely a different discussion. :)

I don't think a step parent/ male/female will care as much for a step child as they care for their own...just let's think about this... if your own child is in danger and your step child is in the same situation who would you save first?

I believe a step father cannot provide a "complete" love to his step children. I think it will be in "partial" terms. I believe in such because the feeling and the bond between the two parties is definitely different especially that they are not connected in blood but only by law.

Halu johnpillai, as GOD created us,we have different kinds of behavior,and if love someone we will love him/her whoever he/she is,and whatever his/her past.and in this kind of situations there are some step father can give all his complete love to his daughter,specially when he doesn't have a own child,and there is also a step father can't give all his love to his step daughter,only to the mother,but i do believe if he can't give all his love at least he try and do his best to be a good person to the step daughter. becoz sometimes,even though there is a step father that can't give all his complete love,but he is doing good,there are step children can't accept the facts that they have again a father(step father) and becoz of that reality,they are putting their selves(feelings) away from that step father.that's why they can't feel the good inside of him. and in the first place,step father can't give a complete love to his step daughter,but i do believe that when years pass by and if they work all together to help each other,love will showed completely. thanks GOD BLESS

I absolutely believe that a "step-parent" can care just as much if not more about their "step-children" then the actual parent. I am living proof of this. My "parents" (my mother, and my "father/sperm donor") divorced when I was a very small child. My father was a woman beater and use to abuse my mother so she divorced him. When my mother left my "father" she met my DAD when I was still a baby. My mom and him dated and the first thing my mother told him was that she had two young children and he did not care that she had children and was very exceptive of it. They dated for years, and he took care of us we were his children. My "real father" made no attempts to get in contact with us or try to see us. My mother and dad married in 1994 and they have been together ever since. I also have 3 great younger sisters. I do not in anyway see them as my "stepsisters" we are all sisters. Hence this man that is my "step father", is my dad. Any guy can make a child, but it takes a true man to be a father. May sound cliche but it is the truth. I am now 23 years old and my Dad is still there for me. The man my mom was with before has spoken to me once in my life, only to tell me that he didn't care. So for 23 years the man that I call my dad is truly my "step dad" but to me he is the only tue father I have every known. That is why I say absolutely YES a stepfather can love and care for his stepchildren.

if the question is if he can, then yes, a stepfather can. if he is a good person then he can devote love to his step children. patience is the yardstick.

I believe that a stepfather and can be just as complete in loving and caring for a child that is not his biologically. he can be just as giving as a parent as a natural parent can be. some times they can be more because they are stepping into the relationship instead of starting it from the beginning. sometimes more insight into the child can be gained that way.

hello, My answer is a big "NO". I have a step father I am a college student already 20years old. And my parents got divorce when I was 7years old. My mom go abroad and there where she met my step father. when my mom got home she said that he already found a new person which is a good person and we can trust. We are not young when my mom introduce it to us. I am already 14 y/o that time.So, we lived in the same house with my step dad and they got one kid. As times goes by that I am now 20 everything had been change suddenly. My step dad hurt my cousin and we got shocked because it is the first time! As, now I realize that what if he do it for worst? what are we going to do? I am scared. I don't like him from the very beginning because I know he have no good to us.

You are right in mentioning the differences of Western Countries and Eastern countries, because in western countries yes luckily enough those who have step fathers because he really accepted them as his own flesh and gives them good future, although not all. Unlike in eastern countries, the step father's the one who destroy future of the adopted children, they made them slavery for their own interests.

I would have to say that I think that the biological father's relationship with his child or children is always good for the children. Then there are step father's who treat their step children better than the biological parent has. It just all depends on each individual who is a part of the situation. There are a lot of step father's who are great parents. Children still need however their biological father in there life unless of course he isn't a good father at all and still then it may be a hard thing for the child.