What advice can you give to your best friend
@alexandrearose (164)
United Arab Emirates
April 15, 2011 11:51am CST
My bestfriend came to me and ask for an advice and i realy can't decide what to say.
Here goes the story, my best friend Jack found out that her wife had a plan on seeing his ex boyfriend. Well at first i was shock why would her wife do that! I know they have some problem financially but for all people why her ex? Jack is very upset when he found out, and also me of course because i know what its like to know that your wife would be seeing her ex boyfriend without you knowing it. What i have told him is talk to her wife whats the reason on seeing her ex boyfriend and be calm, maybe she have a better reasons. How about you, what would you say to your best friend if your in my shoes? :)
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Hi. alexandrearose. Welcome to myLot!
I would tell him, your best friend, that his wife shouldn't go to see her ex boyfriend for any reason. Do they share a child together? Then if not, she has no reason to go and see him, especially alone. Now, if she has a child by him, it would be suitable if he came over to her house. If not, then I don't see any other reason why she should see her ex boyfriend. Their relationship is over and seeing him may ignite some hidden feelings between both of them sooner or later.
I would tell him, your best friend, that his wife shouldn't go to see her ex boyfriend for any reason. Do they share a child together? Then if not, she has no reason to go and see him, especially alone. Now, if she has a child by him, it would be suitable if he came over to her house. If not, then I don't see any other reason why she should see her ex boyfriend. Their relationship is over and seeing him may ignite some hidden feelings between both of them sooner or later.@alexandrearose (164)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Apr 11
Hello cream97, thank you for the warm welcome.
My bestfriends wife don't share any child from his ex, I haven't yet talk to jack regarding to this issue because i don't want to make the first move to open the topic again to him. I'm just waiting for him to open up with me again and share some advice to him as possible as i can. Thanks for your suggestion cream. Have a nice day
@default234 (46)
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17 Apr 11
no idea
people always solve his problem , even if a lot of opinion from others ,he still face himself in the end .
Don't be fool to do anything ,just listen ,that's good enough for your friend .
@alexandrearose (164)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Apr 11
thanks default, i agree with you, no one can solve his problem except him and her wife. I'm just a friend to lean on whenever he needed me. By the way, i didn't do anything because i don't want to make it worst. I just advice him to talk first to her wife and clear the issue.
Have a nice day
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Apr 11
I would be upset if I were Jack, because I would hope the wife was honest in saying why she needs to see the ex. From your discussion you say he found out, so it appears she did not tell him but rather he had to find out. If there was nothing to worry about I would hope she would have told him. I would tell Jack to speak to the wife and hopefully it is an innocent reason and misunderstanding. Maybe Jack will get the truth form her and realize he is mistaken. I hope so.
@alexandrearose (164)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Apr 11
hello hardworkinggurl, actually someone claiming to be concerned about jack told him about this issue. I'm trying to help jack by keeping him calm and talk to her wife first if its true and whats her reason why she will be seeing his ex boyfriend. I told him not to jump into conclusion that her wife is doing something without talking to her wife in a calm and nice way.
have a nice day
@monasharma (967)
• India
15 Apr 11
Ya..its somewhat shocking also.
But You can ask them what is the need to meet her ex boyfrnd.
And her husband should be calm and try to get the whole story......
Hope soon u get it....
@alexandrearose (164)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Apr 11
thanks monashama i will tell him to know reason behind in meeting his ex boyfriend before my friend starts getting angry. Maybe her wife may have a good reason why.
@tammymarie37 (260)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Your friend needs to realize that that is her ex and if she loves your bf and is committed to him,then I wouldn't think it would be an issue. but, I do believe that she should have been honest with him. As honesty is the key to every marriage or relationship, if you don't have that then you don't have anything. If I was your BF I would be asking her why she wanting to meet him and why she wasn't honest with him. Because there is a reason why she didn't tell him.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
1 Aug 11
very interesting and shocking.
A real friend would give a valuable advice to those things to be careful because they can interpret wrong and you go to blame.
Do I know if I were you I would say to take to share with his wife and to walk together to see it or to wait in the car.
For really difficult situation.
I can wish your friend success.
nice day!
