I'm not getting married to her.

There's no reason for you to continue the relationship with her cause she already prove herself unworthy of your love. I mean, how can you trust her when you were already planning to get married and she cheated on you. Apologies are not accepted for situations like yours.

gerald , first make sure that she is cheating you or not .... may be she is testing your faith on her. Ask her clearly about the things in your mind which drag her to think about you seriously ... even about your relation. She soon find you as a honest guy ... and always keep in mind ... gals loves a man who's HONEST !! And if you find her cheating with you ... and try to compare yourself with the guy she loves ... and try to be better than him ... there are also a chances of might be she misjudged you. All you need is patience and proper communication with keeping your head cool. I think this may help you out of your current situation.

well if i was you i would have dump her right there.Also you need to have strategy to pick up women.Looks like oyu are picking up all bad one.Dont get seriosu till you know she is loyal to you.

...Hi there gerald, Welcome to the ranch, nice to meet you, enjoy yourself. I am very sorry that you were cheated on and you are so disappointed in your life with the lady. I can think of one thing that might make you feel a little bit better about things. That would be that you found out about her cheating before you married her, suppose that you had been married for six months and you found out she had a lover, you would be devastated, so you should be thankful for that. At this point I will say that if you can't trust a person you should not be with them. As it is now if you married her you would always be wondering what she was doing or who she was with, that is no way to be in a relatonshiop. Put it behind you and move on. Next time, try to take your time and learn as much as you can about a person before you dive in. There is no rush. Good luck. Cheers.

I think you can do better. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Why was she cheating on you in the first place? Being engaged is a big commitment, and it doesn't sound like she was ready or willing to take that commitment. You should talk to her and find out why she was cheating and what was missing that made her do it. If the answer is acceptable and understandable to you, forgive and move on and see where yall end up. Only you know the situation and what is right. Listen to your gut. I think it always lead you in the right direction,

relax gerald god will give you the best cuople for you in the future ,dont give up just only you failed with this relationship. trust that good guy only proper for good woman

Hi. geraldhon. Welcome to myLot! If you feel as if she is not the one for you, then decide upon what you want to do and stick with it. Never marry someone that you know that you will have regrets with later on down the line. She should have never cheated on you, that is the most saddest thing that a woman can do to a man as he is getting serious with her. I am sorry that this was done to you.