Better shut your mouth then say what you think? No sorry I cant be that way
By Gothicana
@Gothicana (458)
United States
April 15, 2011 7:43pm CST
I always say what I think.
And it is imported to me,cause:
first of all I hate to lie
The second is that i wonne know what other people are thinking
And a very importend third one is when i dont like something i better tell that right away like when my hubby is cooking for me and i dont like it i better say it before i say yes it is fine and he cooks that all the time cause he thinks i like it.
From everywhere except my friends i hear you dont have to say that so direkt cant you say that more understandeble that the people dont get hurt.
And everybody who knows me also knows that i dont wonne hurt anyone.
Or why do you dont keep your mouth shut?
No way for me !!!
What are you thinking about that???
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12 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Apr 11
I agree completely. See how in the world is anyone to know we like and or do not like something if we don't speak up. Of course we don't have to like everything we just need to let others know how we feel. Because people know how we are they certainly expect us to be truthful and being truthful does not necessarily mean we have to like everything. In my mind it would be mean if I did not say honey I didn't like the chicken, then how would he feel later if he cooked it and I refused to eat each time and or made excuses.
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@Gothicana (458)
• United States
17 Apr 11
I love you lol yes it is altimes better to say it when not you regret it later
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Apr 11
Great idea, I too am picky and do try to let them know as soon as I sit down at the table and say; wow this all looks yummy, just so you know I am a terrible eater so I will try and dive into (mentioning whichever is on the table that I like), this way they know it is not the food. lol, I am loving the discussion, because it reminds me of certain occasions. 
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@killerbullet (174)
• United States
16 Apr 11
well u should always be careful about what you say cuz the word that comes out never goes in again and if what is on your mind is true and unfruitful then you should say it and sure you shouldn't say any thing emotional before you can make you head about it
wait a min ...
did that make sense or i should reboot my mind ??
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@Gothicana (458)
• United States
17 Apr 11
oh no that makes sence but till today I dont regret it.
I wished that everybody will tell me right away what they think it will make things easier
@laineyloowho (4)
• United States
3 May 11
Yes,I believe honesty is very important,as I hate liars.You should tell what you do and don't like.However,when it comes to talking about people I believe that if can't say something good about someone you should not say anything at all.
@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
16 Apr 11
Well Im a naturally blunt person but I have been trying my hardest to tell the truth without the person yelling at me or saying between tears.
"You jerk" or "Your mean" 
I think your right in telling the truth and speaking your mind but be a tad careful about the way you word things.Im working on it too.
I think your right in telling the truth and speaking your mind but be a tad careful about the way you word things.Im working on it too.1 person likes this
@Gothicana (458)
• United States
17 Apr 11
yes it is sometimes hard cause it gives also people that are very hurt only when you say I cant agree with you in this point,
But I think it is better to say that then lieing
@changjiangzhibin89 (16763)
• China
16 Apr 11
Judging from what you said,I may well say you are a person of few reticence.If everybody is frank and outspoken or all people do what is right in their own sight,nothing is better than that.However It is nother but a dream.In real life,not everything is like that you dealt with your hubby's cooking.Sometimes,if you speak without reservation,you'll get into trouble,so when speaking we often have to take the occasion and others' feelings into account,rather than "call a spade a spade."
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@Gothicana (458)
• United States
17 Apr 11
oh yes for sure and that is what i am still working out.
how do i say it the best without hurting someone.
But i still think i have to say it
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
16 Apr 11
I am not the type of person also that I can just shut my mouth and sit at one corner if I know that I was right. I can fight my right but in a gentle way which everyone understand my point. Others presumed it disrespectful but I don't care what other people saying at my back, as long as I know where I stand. I applied this also with my kids, there were times we have little arguments, I hear them out or I rather asked them what is their opinion, that way I know and learned what they feel, I give important to their say.
@nick_ro (42)
• Romania
16 Apr 11
I like this topic, you're right about what you say. I absolutely HATE to lie, I hate liars, I hate to being lied! Lies tend to separate people, to place an invisible layer of coldness. Unfortunately I know all this from some experiences...
Also saying what you think it's the right thing. In this way you are natural, yourself, you flow naturally like a river and you have nothing to hide! If someone tells you to not say what you think then perhaps he is afraid of something you might be saying. Then is his problem not yours! :)
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I am honest when I have to be. I don't just openly speak my honesty right then and there. There are feelings that may get hurt. I try to talk to a person before I become really honest. I don't want to sound nasty and mean. I want to make sure that, I am honest without just saying whatever I want and how I want it. I really consider the feelings of others when I am being totally honest with them. I don't like lying, and I also don't like being honest while hurting someone feelings either.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
16 Apr 11
My main point is get to the point. So I can sometimes be this way, but not so aggressively. If I'm saying something direct, I'm still having a caring atmosphere behind what I say. For instance, if my friend as me what I think about her outfit. I can't do anything about the way she dresses, if I could I would, but I would suggest to make a few perks to put some style in what she is wearing. Opposed as to what you would probably do and say "no" lol, but to each its own.
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
16 Apr 11
I think I'd rather speak my mind because it's not fair that I have to shut my mouth just because people don't like what I'm saying. I don't let anyone ever intimidate me when it comes to speaking my mind.
But there are ways to say certain things to people, because people's feelings can get hurt in the process. I feel bad when I know I hurt someone's feelings. I hate people who call out other people's problems in public where people can hear, I don't like embarrassing people.
But, I feel that in my heart that God gave me mouth so that I can speak and have a voice. So I'm using my gift from God.
@misc11 (384)
• United States
16 Apr 11
I appreciate people like you who are honest and not fake. I don't like the people who just smile and nod and then turn their back and whisper what they really think. I have a lot more respect for people who just say what they think and have the confidence to do it. You can't dislike someone for being honest and speaking their mind, maybe you don't agree but you still have respect for that person. I think most people don't speak their mind because they don't have the confidence to.
@dannyeltoro (22)
• United States
16 Apr 11
Some people say, "Truth huts, lies kill!"
I believe truth outstands not only because it is the right thing to do but because lies never end in happy/peaceful issues. Some say it is good to lie when you are doing it for whom you love for whatever reason. I believe that just by lieying and keeping that person the right to know what it is truelly surrounding them, you are hurting them. Of course, being honest does not imply being rude. There's always a way to say things, yet it leads to the same point. but how you say it, most of the time can change little or huge things of the matter.
@Gothicana (458)
• United States
17 Apr 11
yes you have to know how you say things
i dont wonne hurt people and i try it to say it the best way i can
@jacqsprat509 (6)
• United States
21 Apr 11
I think it's not what you say, it's how you say it. You can be direct without being brutal. I speak my mind as well, I am not brutal with it. There's a way of getting your point across without hurting feelings. I will say that it's not always possible, but 98% of the time it is.
