do u want the nice guy or the one that stands up to you?
By misc11
@misc11 (384)
United States
April 16, 2011 1:39pm CST
my friends and i were talking about this the other day, and we all had very different opinions on which type of guy we would prefer.....the nice guy who does everything for you, the "safe" guy or the one who gives you a run for your money, the one who stands up to you, the one who doesn't let you get away with everything.
I think over time my opinion has changed. Growing up, I always wanted the wild boy because it was more fun for that period of time. As I get older, I am more attracted to the nice guy, the one who always makes you feel good about yourself and you know will never leave you. I just think about the future and having a family and it just seems like the right choice, but does that mean I am too scared to take a risk with the other guy? What type of guy do you prefer?
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15 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
When i was young,i want a guy who is good looking that can make other girl's heads turn once we passed.
Okay,i got one,not the looks of Tom Cruise,but a good looking one with a golden voice that can make you dreamy and wish upon a star.
So,now i got headache..girls after him..the more he gets older,the more he seems lovable to girls...so kick him out of my life.
Now,i want a man who is not a good looking,but someone who will stand with me.
Someone who can't live without me,or can't stand a minute without hearing my voice (hehehe)
People may change,so with preferences dear
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
hahahah and better find that man now while your ex husband will come after you and hurt you again. yahoo....
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I was also in that situation during my teen years the guys who are rude, wild bad boy image was the ones who always caught my attention, even in movie dramas but when i was in college, things changed. I noticed that i am not attracted to guys with the bad boy image even in drama series, i now shift my attention to the nice guys. And right now i am liking a friend of mine who is nice not like my ex who is so rude and have this bad boy image.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
17 Apr 11
Hi. misc11. I want a nice guy that will allow me to make my own decisions. I want him to let me be a lady and choose what I like and not what he always likes. I would like for him to do everything for me in a way that is not making me feel selfish. I don't think that you are scared to take a risk with this other guy, I just think that you want what you want.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
17 Apr 11
I am not a girl, so I can't give you this kind of opinion. Well, I think that I am a nice guy, and I am willing to do everything for my ex before. But on my previous failure experience, she wants someone who is wild, and dangerous I think, like what you described when you were younger. I am not that type of person for her. She wants someone is fun and give her some sort of excitement to hang with. I am quite the opposite. I am not quiet, and not into those dangerous activities. So, Finally I broke up with her. Maybe I should be more wild and careless to those women huh! Anyway, that is not my style, if someone truly love me, she will appreciate who I am.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
I don't want me or my guy to be in a dangerous situation, so I'd rather have someone who knows how to protect himself and his companion. There is no use showing bravado when the other person is out of his wits and is armed. I'd always go for the nice guy anytime.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
Have you observe the time about your ovulation period. There are sometimes that before or after our period or menstrual cycle we like nice guys or a wild guys.
all of us girls sometimes like wild guys or nice guys. we have crush to other guys even we have bf. because of our ovulation period.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
16 Apr 11
I am for the guy you love, and the guy that loves you . When I met my husband he was the kind of the wild guy, and with the time, he has changed to be a nice guy. It has been really really hard. But now with 13 years of marriage, and three children he has been domesticated, haaaaa hahaha.
In the other hand I used to be girlfriend of a nice guy for 7 years, and he turned wild, and he cheated me with an ultra nice girl who put her eyes on him, because he was a "nice guy", he broke my heart.
What do you think?
Blessings!...
Dainy
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
16 Apr 11
I like a guy who will stand up to me. I know that he will not take any grief from or about me. i know that i can depend on him if the need should arise. having a guy that will stand toe to toe with me makes me feel good about the relatinship because i know he won't let me down.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
hmmn, you can't really put labels on men...my man seemed like a wild man (we were common friends but not that close), and yeah I wasn't into wild guys, I imagined being married to a nice man who would be doing all the housework
, actually I got what I wanted, my ex would do everything I ask him to do, and then boom, I fell in love with my fiancée, I got to know him and realized that not all wild men leaves you feeling bad about yourself, I think he's my other half, my soul mate....in love, there are no labels....when you love someone, you'll love them no matter what...
, actually I got what I wanted, my ex would do everything I ask him to do, and then boom, I fell in love with my fiancée, I got to know him and realized that not all wild men leaves you feeling bad about yourself, I think he's my other half, my soul mate....in love, there are no labels....when you love someone, you'll love them no matter what... @interactivelearning (451)
• United States
16 Apr 11
Guys Almost all of them will admit, The Good Guy Comes in Last and Honestly it seems to be true. Girls will deny that I am sure.
If I was a woman, Why Not Have Both? I would be nice and if anyone did anything or disrespected my girlfriend of course I would stand up for her, Any Self Respecting Man would also do the same.
-Your Friend,
Larry
@nj_1022 (251)
•
17 Apr 11
Depending on your situation and interest. I would rather have the nice guy who will be there for me than the wild guy. The nice guy you changed somehow to be an exciting persontoo.
@neenie (343)
• United States
17 Apr 11
I'll have a mix of both!
I don't know if I want him to give me a "run for my money", but I do want him to stand up to me. I want him to call me out on something if I have done something wrong. I'm not an easy person to stand up to but I appreciate someone who will tell me "you are wrong" (when I really am!). But I do want someone who is nice and treats me with kindness.
And yes, you can have it both ways and still have a future with that person. I've been doing it for 8 years now :)
@misplacedbrit (69)
• Canada
17 Apr 11
I think if I were single, I'd want to the guy who stood up to me, and not let me get away with everything. I respect those who stand up to me, because it reminds me that the relationship isn't always about me, but about the halves coming together, and making compromises and promises to each other.
As much as the nice guy is what I call a 'safe' bet, I don't NEED a man to make me feel good about myself. I can do that on my own. I like someone who gives me a run for my money, and stands up to me. A relationship should be about two people, not just one.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
16 Apr 11
This is a good question to think about, Especially if you are not married yet. I am but just for the sake of wisdom in this and trial and error with the two...I had 3 serious relationships. The first two were really hard. They were very controlling and not only stood up to me but over me as well. To me I am worth more than a dictatorship in my reltionship. With that being said, I prefer my man with dash of both along with his own personality. My husband and I are a team and no one feels the need to stand up to each other really. But we do have voices, ideas and opinions that we are able to express and still love one another and still do many things for one another.
