Do all men really just want a Waitress????

That's good if you understand and apply it in your own household. I guess it is because woman is best in doing things like preparing foods, washing clothes, nurturing the kids while on the other hand woman will expect her man to do things like fixing the leaking roof, fixing the car, fixing the plumber and so on which man is good at.

That is because men are usually very lazy creatures. Not that they like to take advantage of their partners, but.. Don't pamper your husband too much. lol. Thats what makes them feel like 'going easy' on you and they think that you would do the work because, well, you will. He just becomes lazy and that makes him selfish too, selfish enough to forget that his wife is getting agitated with this. You all women know how lazy a man can get. He starts taking you for granted. Now, you either try to spice up your intimate lives, or throw his clothes back at him!

Often in a relationsip women can feel that they are being taken for granted. They can feel that all a man wants from them is to have someone to wait on them. A relationship has to has some give and take. No one should feel that they are just there to do someone else's bidding all of the time.

HI bird: No way. I don't want a waitress. I want a partner. I want love and I want someone that will be with me, helping me to deal with my daily problems. It sounds idealistic but I think that the responsabilities from a house are for both. This is how things work in my house and I hope they'll work the same in my own family with a future wife. ALVARO

I totally agree with your point and understand how you feel , the majority of man just regard their other-half as the waitress and ask them to do anything for the granted , so i just want to enjoy my life as the single .

Lucky me my husband is not like that. Cultural differences aside. Husbands, needs to understand that there are only 24 hours a day. His day at work may end in the late afternoon, and while I'm sure husbands works real hard for the family, he has to realize, that his wifes' day continues. I don't see no reason why husband cannot do dishes, not once a week but every evening, by doing so this would give wives some time. He gets down time to recharge, and so do we. Husbands don't realize that the wives needs down time too. Especially if you are a stay at home wife. Being a stay at home wife/mom does not mean that you have an unlimited energy, no schedule, and no life or than stay at home and looking after the "farm" as it were. A soak in the tub. A time to just relax and not by doing something to maintain the household. A time to kick back and not be on 24 hour call everyday can go a long way to helping things in my opinion. Yes a lasting relationship mean a good communication between husband and wife. If the wife wont scream her heart out then how can her husband know that he's taking her for granted??

I'm a woman, but I feel I need to answer the questions you posed to the men, since my husband does most of the housework. I think many men can take advantage of their wives, but I also believe wives find it easy to take their husbands for granted as well. My husband doesn't want a waitress...he seems to be the waitress. When we were married we began to do the chores that made the best sense to each of us, and he just so happened to fall into a schedule of laundry, cooking, yardwork, and dishes. I manage the finances, keep things organized, fix things or build new things, and then feel guilty for not doing more. I'm going to go ahead and answer the questions you posed to men, since our household is switched. I don't want to take advantage of my husband. I often feel terrible when he's always in the kitchen making food, especially since we eat multiple meals per day, so he's in there a lot. There rarely seems to be anything I can do to help him when I ask. I feel stupid in the kitchen...I can do our household finances in my head, but I don't know the first thing about what kitchenware to use. Even when he insists that he can do it all, I'll sit out there with him and talk to him rather than do something in the other room. To leave him out there to do everything by himself doesn't sit well with me. Mostly, though, he shows his appreciation for the way I keep things together in the house. If something breaks, I fix it, and he doesn't know the first thing about tools. If we need a new bookshelf, I'll build it, and he has a new place to put his books. If our bank statements don't match up to my record, I figure it out. I constantly update our household budget as bills increase and decrease, and since he's terrible with math, he loves this. I guess you could say that even though the gender roles are switched in our home, we still appreciate what the other does best...and we try never to let things go unappreciated. Even if it's your partner's "job" to do something, let them know you're glad they do it, even if you just told them the other day. Knowing you're appreciated goes a long way.