What should i do to trust again to man?

April 17, 2011 2:58am CST
I don't know how to trust again because one of my bestfriend fooled me. I never think that he can do that to me. He is a brother to me but still he hurt me so much. That's why i can't trust a man now.
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9 responses
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I understand how you feel. I reckon it will take time to be able to trust a man again after that. On the brighter side that hesitation can actually help you in protecting yourself from other people who might have the intentions of hurting you in the end. Its okay to be hesitant because you are just protecting yourself but keep in mind that not all guys are the same. There are still men out there maybe few, but still there are others who might be worthy of your trust someday. Just don't rush into things and eventually if the next man that will enter your life may be worth it then you would surely feel his sincerity.
19 Apr 11
Oh thank you for your wonderful response. Thank you for your understanding.. That's true not all men are like him. Yes im not in a hurry i know someday there's a man who is worth my trust. Thank you.. Im happy for what i am now .. being single is really good.. but sometimes i feel lonely .. friend of mine is only around me make me happy.. they are happiness now and my family..
@dimzok (127)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 11
i think nobodys perfect,if you have some mistake with somebody you must apologize and try to couldnt happened again,but if occur repeatdly maybe its habbit of the person,and time to say good bye odf the person like that
18 Apr 11
I know nobodys perfect that's why i already forgive him but i don't trust him anymore. Because he is not worth it for the trust i give and friendship i share with him. Thanks anyway
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
17 Apr 11
Trust is something that needs to earned by one another. It is not something we should just expect to happen. Getting to know the person you want to give and receive trust from is an important step in a relationship. sometimes it is something that only time can give you.
17 Apr 11
Well I've known him for so long but still he done something that i never expected he can do it to me. He destroy our friendship. Well im already move on to what he done to me..
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Apr 11
There is no template on how you would trust a person again but then the thing I can say here is that don't just trust a person easily. As much as possible don't expect to a person because you will be just disappointed in case that he did the wrong thing again. You just have to be alert on other's actions and tactics.
17 Apr 11
That's my mistake i expect from him that's im always disappointed to him Now i know expectation makes you disappointed and hurt. thank you
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
Trusting someone is really difficult but if you don't try to trust someone it means to say you don't trust yourself, it means to say that you are doubting your capacity to accept someone in your life. You are afraid to get hurt, everyone get hurt, when you don't let yourself trust someone you don't let your self learn. nobody is perfect my friend. everyone get fooled and everyone get hurt
18 Apr 11
Oh thanks for your response its make me realize that your right im afraid to get hurt again.. and i lose myself because of being afraid to accept man again. Thank you so much
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
The fault of someone is not the fault of others. I got hurt by a Man he denied and he didn't faced his responsibilities but I was not a Man Hater though. Open your hurts to others. There are Good Men out there whom we can trust
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
Don't generalized all men/guys dear. If someone hurt you,the next one must be there to love you and give you protection and care that you need. Just give yourself time and space to get over with the hurt and pain. welcome to mylot and enjoy mylotting
• United States
17 Apr 11
To be honest there's no explanation or steps that need to be taken to deal with this situation. There are plenty of people who have gone through this dilemma and they have dealt with it. So, maybe what you could do is call someone that you know that is currently feeling the same way and then maybe that person can give you some advice on how to deal with the situation. I think you should have a talk with him, I know that may sound crazy but that might be a viable option. You need to have some kind of closure, the big thing to do would be to have a talk with him and let out every emotion. He may give you some insights or he may tell you how sorry he is. But, it doesn't really matter what he says what matters is what you say. Then, maybe by you getting out all your emotions you'll be able to trust again.
@weqwew (37)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 11
you can see it from his change in attitude, whether if it's goin' better or worse, you can decide yourself whether you can trust him again or not.