What is your birth order? How's your relationship with your siblings?
By writermom8
@writermom8 (913)
Philippines
April 17, 2011 1:46pm CST
I'm the oldest of three children. I value my role as the oldest sister because my sister and brother usually ask for, and respect, my opinions.
We have a very close relationship and enjoy being together with our spouses and kids whenever we can find time for family get-togethers. I just wish we could do those more often.
I'm also crazy about my nephew and two nieces and get along well with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law.
How about you? What kind of relationships do you have with your extended families?
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16 responses
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
18 Apr 11
I'm the baby but a lot of years. I have a half brother and half sisters. My sisters are from my father and I didn't grow up with them. I've really only seen them a handful of times. They are a lot older than me so we are not close. My brother is from my mother and he is 15 years older than me. We are not close either but the last several years we've been a little closer.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
If you get chances to keep in touch with all your siblings, I hope you'll take advantage of those. Having a connection with blood relatives is still very different compared to relationships with friends.
@dellahappy (260)
• China
18 Apr 11
i'm the youngest child in my family,and i'm always the one who are being protected.because i have long years of absence to go to school my parents still treat me like a little girl seems like i am still a dependent child. they do not let me do anything but i love my family,mow i have a sister-in-law,our family become increasingly lively and full of laughter,family is harbour of love....
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
When you have a good relationship with your family, it does serve as somewhere you can always find love.
@Monkeyrose (2840)
• Canada
18 Apr 11
I am the oldest of two children. My brother and I are only two years apart. My parents are divorced but still get along. My immediate family are all very close.
My father has been living with his girlfriend for over 10 years now. I consider her my step mother and her son my stepbrother. We are not as close because I did not grow up with them but I like to keep in touch.
My mother just remarried. I consider her husband my stepfather as I lived with them for a few years. Him and I do not get along very well but we can be civil.
I have many uncles and aunts and cousins. I'm closer with family on my dad's side. I also have step-grandparents, and step-aunts and uncles.
As the oldest child my parents were a lot more strict with me.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
You can always look at the bright side and cherish your close relationship with some, if not all, your family members :)
@sathishkumar3660 (325)
• India
18 Apr 11
I have one elder sister, she is married having a new born girl baby. I and my sister are the only 2 children for our parents, i don't have any cousin brother or sister. I am still single, my sister and her hubby also helps me in many ways and also fun with them in many times. We also go out enjoy, understand each other well and solve problems together.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
Great to know you have a good relationship with your family :)
@DJAmnesia (25)
• Canada
18 Apr 11
I'm an only child, and grew up wishing for a sister, now that I've moved out on my own I don't really feel I missed out on much, but the constant companionship might have been a nice change from the way I was treated by my peers. I always enjoyed family visits and have lots of aunts/uncles and cousins.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
Maybe when you get married and have a couple or more children, you'll finally be able to experience having more fun times with your own family :)
@EnslinPorter (1718)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
There's only two of us kids in the family, my older brother and me. Both of us are still single so we get to share our time together often. I'd say we're close with each other. Hahaha, lately, he's even telling me about his "love problems" and though I'm listening to him, it feels awkward to hear a guy talking about it and being emo, lol (I hope he's not reading this right now because he has a myLot account too but hasn't been active for a while ). It's just nice to know that our world revolve with each other as a family. I remember my friend who is the same as me. She also has an older brother and there's only two of them. Unfortuntely, they're not close and I think they tend to fight each other too.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I'm glad you have a great relationship with your brother. Treasure those moments whenever he confides in you. That's a real gift. When he finds a girlfriend of his own, you might not get the same bonding moments as often as before.
@la_chique (1498)
•
17 Apr 11
2nd oldest out of 4, most responsible, and the most outcast. Its them against me 99.9999% of the time. Dont really associate myself with any of them much to be honest.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
So sorry to hear that. I hope you have at least found very good friends whom you could share a lot of things with though.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
17 Apr 11
I am the oldest of four children. I have two brothers in the middle. We didn't always get along when we were growing up. It was not until we became adults that we became betrer frends to each other. The youngest sibling is my sister. i can never remember fighting or not getting along with her. She is my best friend. I have a good relationship with all of my siblings now. i can't imagine being without any of them.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Same here, I can't imagine not having my siblings around, whether physically or virtually (we often communicate via email, facebook, and phone calls).
And yes, relationships with siblings do get better when everyone has had time to grow into maturity as the years go by.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
17 Apr 11
I am the 2nd of the two sisters. I share a great relationship with the little one, but the old one is quite moody and we have totally incompatible views on life, family and career. So I cannot stand her. I feel she is responsible for my parents clash and other dispute we have at home. So I am trying to move out. She is quite depressing, if you ask me.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
As they say, we really can't choose who our relatives are. Perhaps it's better if you don't have to see each other often.
But hey, sometimes, being apart for a while could also do wonders to a relationship. Who knows, you and your sister might get along better when you're both older and if you don't live under the same roof anymore :)
@misterMR (796)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
They say the eldest will take full responsibility. In my case, I take responsibility and I'm the youngest! I had bad times especially during high school about sibling rivalry. Most of the times, I get scolded. I guess my parents knew the theory of being the eldest, having full responsibility on younger siblings, guess they knew what was coming. Unfortunately, it reversed and the younger one had the responsibility!
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Well, there are people who do grow up to be more responsible than others. Think of it as a blessing.
When you're older and living on your own, you'll find out that learning responsibility while you were young would be very useful when you have a family of your own.
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
18 Apr 11
i am the only child to my parents, so i think after few years all the responsibilities of house will come over my head, i had never got the love of brother and sister, and nor of my cousins bro sister have good relationship with me, i can understand how life is boring without brother and sisters
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Being an only child also has its advantages you know. And you should not think of life as boring. Even if you don't have siblings, you can always find friends you can hang out and have fun with.
When you have a family of your own, try having two or more kids. You'll experience a different joy raising them and seeing them bond as brothers and sisters.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I am the eldest in our family. When I was young I really hated it that I am the eldest but when I grew up I just realized that being the eldest is a blessing from God. It was me who was given much attention by my family and relatives. I don't have an extended families as of now.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Yes, being eldest is a blessing. God has put you there for a reason and it's up to you how to use your position as firstborn to become a blessing to your younger siblings :)
@ivane07 (76)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I am the youngest in our family and I have seven sisters. We have a close family tie and whenever we have gatherings, we make sure that all could attend in order to bond with each other. Six of my sisters are already married and I could say that nothing has changed-we still find time to have get-together. Even my eight nephews and two nieces are very close with each other. They're like siblings and I love this kind of set-up because I never experienced having a close relationship with the relatives of my parents. I also know that we can rely on each other when problems arise.
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Wow, you have a large family! That must be a riot growing up with so many siblings! :)
It's nice to hear that you've remained close to each other. It's also true that when siblings are close, you can always be sure that they'll be there for you no matter what. I have the same relationship with my sister and brother and am very thankful for that.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 May 11
I'm the eldest of two children. I have a younger sister. I can't say that I'm close to my sister. We usually do get along, whenever we see each other, but otherwise we aren't close. I have tried to stay in touch with little success. The thing is that I feel like I'm the more responsible one, and the one who wasn't given as much attention. My sister and I have different personalities, and she was just the one who had more friends and such. But that's just the way it goes. Growing up it always feel that I was the responsible one, and it still does feel that way.
@sanijas83 (270)
• Latvia
25 May 11
I have a sister who is two years younger. She has a son who is three years old now. I am his aunt, godmother. I do not see my sister often as she lives in another town. My nephew is glad to see me when I appear and comes to greet me asking "Where were you".