living a life with my partner's family

LovingLife139: Thank you so much for your wonderful advice. Me and my gf have talked about it. She to is having the same sentiments. We are just waiting for the right time for us to move out. I don't wanna be selfish to her family, but I think it is high time for us to move out. Do you think it is just fair? I don't know, but it is really hard to start a conversation like that with her parents. I feel so awkward talking to them about stuffs like that. Damn! I wish I have the balls. maunesrockford92078: I agree with you. But we have to wait for the perfect time to move out. There's a lot of responsibility when moving out and having our own place. I just hope we could manage it.

It's good to hear that your girlfriend sees the same thing...if only so you aren't alone in your feelings. I don't know what exactly it is that there is a disagreement about, so I don't know whose argument makes better sense. It sounds as if they are the ones being impractical since your girlfriend is siding with you, though. No matter what, it sounds as if you are young and don't have too much experience being out on your own yet. If that's the case, I'm still all for you two trying it out on your own, but create a plan and a budget first. I thought of moving out before I was married, simply to get away from my parents. You have to consider rent, utilities, phone/cable bills, water, car and/or transportation costs, insurance, household furniture, appliances, groceries, cleaning products (things like paper towels, toothpaste, toilet paper, dish soap, etc. will all be your responsibility). If your girlfriend and you want a different plan, sit down and think together on what it is going to cost you. Factor in how much each of you make, and how much each of you will be spending. If you can make it work with the amount you make now and still have some money left over for savings, do it. If not, look for other ways to make money and cheaper ways to live, so you can prepare to move out if things get too hectic. If you think that her parents would be willing to listen to your side, talk to them with your girlfriend beside you. It's more likely that they'll listen to you if she's with you and provides her own points...and it's more likely that they'll see you might have a point if their own daughter voices concerns. If you think these people will be unwilling to even listen to concerns, form a plan with your girlfriend and then do it. You won't have to have a conversation with them then...the only conversation will be, "Hey, we've got an apartment waiting for us, so we're giving you 30 days notice."

You are right needs space to be private a pad or apartment will do, no maater how small the space the important thing is it's yours.

First of, I can't just tell my girl to move out and live with me coz her father is sick right now. If I am not considering my gf i can live on my own, but she's begging me to stay. It is just that, it's making me crazy right now. Maybe I am just venting here.

Thanks for the advice. I will ask her to move out as soon as her father gets better. I actually offered to pay the rent coz i don't wanna be bothered when I am working, but it didn't work. I am so lost. :(

I work homebased. The problem is that they are expecting a lot from me. I have thought of getting a job outside the house but i am earning pretty good with my current homebased job. It feels like I have to keep up with their expectations to gain approval from them. I am doomed. :(

I know I am old enough, but sometimes it is just so hard to decide on things especially when it involves the family of your partner. Well, yeah, maybe I am being to selfless. I hate being good sometimes.