What are you gonna do if you break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
By dimzok
@dimzok (127)
Indonesia
April 18, 2011 1:27am CST
you have a girlfriend/boyfriend for long time,maybe 3-5 yeras.and both of you have plan to married make some good plan in the future. until for some reason you must break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend. what are you gonna do?
8 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
aaaawwwwww......that is so sad 
it's fine she is not that pretty and doesn't cook well 
it's fine she is not that pretty and doesn't cook well 
@lexirose7350 (459)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I was into a relationship for 7 years - we had plans of getting married and starting our own family but things did not turn out well, we broke up. It was hard coping up with the break up but things happen for a reason and probably we were not meant to end up together.
Eventually, you learn to accept why it has to happen. You may not find the answer now but later on in life without you searching for answer, it will come to you.
@lexirose7350 (459)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
The first few months was the hardest.I even went into a semi-depression period. I would reject friends invitation to go out.I would stay in my room the whole time and didn't want to talk to anyone. Then slowly, I started living my normal life until after a year, i've recovered.
In my case, it helped that i gave myself the space to mourn and not suppressed what i was feeling. I am not sure though if that would also apply to other people since every one of us has his own individual differences and approach to problems.
@dimzok (127)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 11
thank you for shared your experiene, i think i agree with you,if we needed much time to recover from that feeling,sometimes we need support from our nearest family or buddy indeed. its hard to forget all the beautiful things which is was happened between us,and sometimes it comes when i feel alone,and before we get new girlfiend/boyfriend. thank you.
@singuri (571)
• India
18 Apr 11
Its really a painful situation
as far all the 3 years we have got addicted to them its not so easy to get breakup even there might be a big reason but if i have to break up with him first i wish he must be happy forever and then i dont like to meet him for ever in my rest of the life and get married to another person who knows me well and lead life happily but to make all these it takes some time thats it
as far all the 3 years we have got addicted to them its not so easy to get breakup even there might be a big reason but if i have to break up with him first i wish he must be happy forever and then i dont like to meet him for ever in my rest of the life and get married to another person who knows me well and lead life happily but to make all these it takes some time thats it @bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
hello dimzok,
In a relationship years doesn't matter what matters most are how you treasure those years together if the reason is reasonable enough to end up the long years of relationship let go and move on it's useless to whine and be bitter life must go on start a new life
have a nice day
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
healing will not be easy you will struggle a lot just always think that life is too short to be wasted go out have fun, appreciate every little things around you
@kfroman (86)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Go out with my friends and get over the other person! Yeah, it was a longterm relationship, but no use crying over spilled milk! My sister dated a guy for 8 years! She just KNEW they would get married someday, but then the broke up suddenly. It took her a while to get over it, but soon she found a guy soooo much better and married within 2 years of meeting him. They're the happiest couple I've ever met. So, if you just broke up with a longterm bf/gf, I'm sure there's someone better for you out there. :)
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
If i really love that person i would probably cry all day long. And i think it would be hard to move on. But it also depends on the reason why you have to break up. If the guy loves somebody else then you cant force him to still want to marry you. Still breaking up is a big issue for me, i don't really go on short term relationships thats why i take up break up seriously.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
19 Apr 11
Well, if I a breakup is unavoidable, then there it is. Keep on living after the breakup. It pains a lot, it hurts a lot, but then life goes on, maybe life will hand over a better chance around the corner to you?
here's something about an enforced breakup and the better chance after that:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1374886.aspx
@kinkar19 (7)
• India
18 Apr 11
Say my relationship is for 3-5 years, but we will need to spend the rest of my life with her. So if it does seems that we need a break up we should surely go for that. Because we can not adjust the rest of our life. Or we can have a mutual break up, that means we will share our own times for a certain time and again if we feel for each other we will bond again.
