Our Problem Has Moved Out
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
April 18, 2011 3:15pm CST
Many of you have followed 2 of the discussions I was posting regarding the person we were renting out a room too. He was the one who was trying to control every situation here in the house, and acting like it was his house, etc.
Well, Saturday was the last straw. We confronted him about where was the deposit he said he would have to us, the money he was behind on rent, etc. and he blew up at us, and said we were being unfair. He even said we had a messy house, and it was our fault. He had a big dog who made a filthy mess walking on our Creme colored carpet, and when we asked him to Vacum or Clean the carpets, he said he had only lived here just over a month and it was our responsibility.
He also always claimed to be Broke, but paid his Cell phone bill of $66 on Friday and then went Bowling with some Friends. This was after earlier in the week saying he was going to WalMart and buying his daughter a birthday present, and then also came home with Sodas, Laundry Soap and Toilet paper. Tell me, does this sound like a broke person to you? He said he was on GAU which they only give to disabled and could not afford much for rent, and always had to borrow $$ from his friends, but we suspect it was a ploy as he always seemed to have $$. (We suspect he was Selling Drugs or something.)
But when he started going on, that is when I told him he needed to move. He tried telling me he would be out of the place by the end of the month, and I said I think he needs to be out this weekend. He was only paying us $150 in Cash and helping buy $200 in food. Can you believe when he moved out, he took most of the food with him? Personally I am glad he is gone, but wonder where some people get their life's lessons from. Because personally if he is really hurting as bad as he says he would be acting a lot different for sure. (And when you hide all of your friends from the person you are renting a room from, does this not make you look suspicious as well?)
~~TINA~~
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28 responses
@neenie (343)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Well, at least he is gone! I'm assuming that you guys were friends before he moved in... so it's sad that the friendship is probably ruined. But I think you were totally right in this situation. I remember your previous posts about him and I'm glad he has moved out.
Now, take a big breath of relief and enjoy your house again :)
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
15 Jun 11
Actually I did not know him before he moved in. If I would have known him better I am sure I would have never wanted him in here, and am sure he will have problems staying somewhere from now on until he learns to change some of his habits.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
18 Apr 11
All the joys of being a landlord. I understand as my husband and I have had some of the same problems with the tenants that we have had in our rental house as well. I hate the fact that we have to ask people to move, but it seems as though they do not understand that we figure that money in as income and that bills have to be paid out of it the same as it does out of their paycheck.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 May 11
I think that that can be an issue sometimes, and it is interesting how so many times people never stop to consider people might really need this income too in order to survive. Makes me wonder who brought them up to think this way, or gave them the thoughts like this.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Be grateful he is gone. Sounds like a suspicious character to me. Twice I loaned money to two different friends. They both chose to go gambling instead of paying me back. It took me 5 years to collect from both people. As a result, they are no longer welcome in my life. I was used and it totally irritated me.
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@kris182_2000 (5444)
• Canada
18 Apr 11
Seems like bad renters are frequent. I face a similar situation, except that my problem roommate wont be leaving until June. We'd like him gone sooner, but he's too lazy to find a place, needs money to do so, and he still needs to pay rent here.
He refuses to smoke outside which we've asked him several times to do, the smoke is bothering our pets.
Good riddance to bad rubbish right?
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Apr 11
why dont you put his azz out anyway? i wouldnt put up with someone smoking in the house when they know they not allowed. plus, no rent?
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I can relate to this one, and things will probably be Super tight for us until we can get someone in here, but for us our piece of mind means more to us than having to worry about not having $$ to get everything paid. It will be a rough go of things but I am believing and trusting in God that everything will be OK. I just need to find a better paying job closer to home and that would solve some of my worries and problems as well.
@kris182_2000 (5444)
• Canada
18 Apr 11
No he's paying his rent, but he needs to pay it for May, we couldn't toss him out knowing that we couldn't come up with his share right now.
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@celticeagle (166792)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Apr 11
Some people and their priorities. My gosh! No, that doesn't sound like a person who is broke at all. It sounds like an immature person who doesn't want to be responsible for themselves and wants to blame everyone else instead of confessing to his shortcomings. I am amazed that you would let him move in in the first place with that big dog. People who hide anything has a problem. Life lessons? Some don't ever get any. Their parents either don't care or don't have the skills themselves.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 May 11
The thing that keeps on bothering me, is if his Mom came over and visited one night when I was at work, and he had many other friends who he kept on saying gave him $$ to help him, then why did he not have the Deposit $$ we kept on asking him for, and why did he say he was broke when he had just bought stuff for his daughter, or supposedly did for her Birthday? Makes me wonder where his Mom failed to teach him the meaning of LIFE.
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@celticeagle (166792)
• Boise, Idaho
6 May 11
Alot of moms fail in that dept. They become enablers. And he just wasn't mature enough to know his responsibilities. And people keep let him get away with this type of thing he never will. Someone should take him to small clames court or make him accountable in some way. His priorities are screwed up. Priorities to him is what he wants right now. Mature priorities is what he knows he is responsible for.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
9 May 11
Well, the biggest problem would be to ever prove that he has any $$. He says he was getting GAU which is disability thru the state of Washington and trying to get SSI. Personally I did not see enough proof off of the things he ate, and the way he ate that he had any type of Medical problem proving he was unable to work, and if he always had $$ but not proof where from where would anyone get? I just am Glad he is gone, and going to be more cautious from here on out.
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I am happy to hear that this person moved out without any kind of confusion or altercation. My advice is to do a thorough background check on the next person. Give more specific rules. No 1 should be no pets. I pray that the next tenant be a person that is easier to get alone with and more dependable. You have my prayers in the matter.. Be Blessed.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Well, I can guarantee the Pet issue was enough to drive anyone crazy. Since this time we have acquired a Pomeranian again, and this is enough for Pets in the house for size. We have done better checks now on when considering someone living here and more upfront as well.
@GardenGerty (160642)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Tina, you have had such a go round with both of the renters you have had. I hope you find someone really nice if you do this again. That is why I do not care to be a landlord. I try to be nice, and they take advantage all over the place. Good riddance to this guy.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Yes, it is Good riddance and feel Sorry for the next person feeling Sorry for him. As for the one I work with who tried to live with us, at least we occasionally say something to each other work related. But we are considering renting out again, and have been talking with someone. Not sure if we are going to do it, but it would not be until around June 1st if we do. Just going to see how things go Financially for us for now.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 May 11
Well as for my Health I know I am definately able to relax more. As for the money things are very tight right now, but I know God is in control. Just know that in time we will find a better person more suitable to want to rent a room from us.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Apr 11
For sure, and my husband did remove some of the steaks and stuff from the big freezer to the freezer upstairs above the fridge, and moved stuff in front of them in case this was too happen, so that did save some of the meat. But no matter what we might have lost in $$, getting our sanity back just to be able to relax and enjoy and have peace and quiet is worth it all for sure.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 11
hi tina it does really sound suspicious to me too. I think you are
well rid of him as he did sound like he was a constant disruption
and not any fun to have around. and he had a big dog too. wow.
well if he was so broke he should have got rid of a cell phone
as they do cost a lot for poor people. he sounds like he did not
manage his funds very well. I know what it is to have limited funds
and I spend accordingly.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 May 11
Well, one minute he would tell us he was broke, and had to borrow $$ from someone and could not pay us the $$ he owed, etc. and then the night we told him he needed to move, and preferably that weekend I heard him say something about he had like $1100 so he was not worried where he was going to stay. So I think he was just pulling a fast one, and just a little leary still about getting someone else in here.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I'd say good riddance to bad rubish. U are lucky he didn't cause u some bad problems when u ask him to move. U can't help some people & he sounds like he fits in that category well.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 May 11
That is what I have been thinking all this time is we are Lucky we did not really have any problems with him when we asked him to move, and when he moved out, as he could have caused us more problems then too. There has been so much he was hiding from me, and told my husband, etc. it was unreal.
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
18 Apr 11
Hello Tina.
I have missed the previous topics, but only reading this one was enough to make me realise the guy was a jerk who was trying to rip you off in general.
I am glad you got him out of your place, you should avoid such persons.
Glad to hear that you solved the problem already, and not waited for a month like he was so "generously" proposing.
Alex.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Apr 11
He was really hoping we would be kind and nice and let him wait until the end of the month, or not bring up him owing us $$ still. It has really made me cringe to think we did not get clear with him from day one what we expected, etc. and asked for all the $$ upfront, and then played it by ear from there. Personally now it is to the point where I cringe when I hear people say they need to be on Disability, and I wonder are they really?
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
18 Apr 11
At least he is moving out, and you regain your house under control again, that is a good news for everyone isn't it? Some people are sneaky, and they want other people's sympathy and trying not to pay or something. There is no charity here, and if he needs a place to stay, he should pay and follow up the agreement. That is what it is.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Well, he was sneaky, or thought he was until I started catching him in his lies, and calling him on them. And when he was refusing to want to pay us what he owed us, saying he was broke, but after paying for his Cell Phone bill, going bowling, buying stuff like Toilet Paper, Laundry Soap, etc. makes me wonder where his real priorities really are?
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Tina 
I am just happy to read that the headache of this person is going to be a distant memory for you two. You will no longer have to worry about his unfairness. It appears that he just does not care and no matter what you say to him he will not see it your way.
Hooray soon you two will resume back without this disturbance.
I am just happy to read that the headache of this person is going to be a distant memory for you two. You will no longer have to worry about his unfairness. It appears that he just does not care and no matter what you say to him he will not see it your way.
Hooray soon you two will resume back without this disturbance. 1 person likes this
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Apr 11
It has been really nice since Sunday night around here. Nice and quiet and not having to worry about someone else always trying to control everything. We are still considering renting the room out again in the future, but for now enjoying the Peace and quiet as well. Learning a lesson is sometimes the hardest thing to do.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I am glad he is gone, for your sake. It does not sound like it was going very well. I wish you better luck if you have to try it again.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I'm glad you were able to get this guy out without a problem! I know that I have lived in places where people trusted me and I sometimes fell behind. I still owe my last landlord about $200 which I intend to pay him the next time I go into town and he is there. He was willing to let me move into the apartment I was in before I went to China without checking my credit or anything else. But he got screwed by so many other people while I was living there that I hope that the old man doesn't lose any money! Some people just don't know how to take any kind of responsibility and it sounds like this person was one of them!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Lesson is if you are going to rent to anyone do so in a business like manner and all will be much happier. Get up front money for first and last month's rent and make sure you have an agreement in writing. I agree that renting a room in your house with kitchen privileges is one of the hardest situations to live with. But you need to protect yourselves.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
21 Apr 11
I am glad that he left but I hate that it happened the way it did. I know you were trying to help him..maybe you did. Maybe he will take from this more than just the food in your fridge. What comes around goeas around and if it comes areound..people can usually track it. Maybe he will take a needed lesson from all of this. You can't treat people that try to help you badly and not feel something.
