Survival of the fittest? Let's look again...
By Amber
@AmbiePam (94566)
United States
April 18, 2011 5:41pm CST
A man organizing a missionary trip to Africa was stopped one day by a member of the church he was with, asking if she could accompany him on the trip along with some of the other people in the church. This young woman had cerebral palsy. The man hesitated and told her that he didn't know if that was a good idea because it was going to be hard for her to have the endurance to get around (what with her handicap). She patiently told him "I ran a 5K marathon last summer. Have you ever done that?" The man was taken aback, but thought of another reason she might not aught to come. He said they would have a hard time understanding what she said (if you are not familiar with CP, it can be hard to understand what that person may be saying). The woman replied, "They don't speak Enlgish. They won't be able to understand you either!"
The man couldn't argue with that, so he along with her and a few others set off for the thick jungle of Africa. Of course to get to the remote party of Africa they were trying to get to was extremely secluded. A little plane would fly three people to the village at a time. When the first three people got off the plane all the people who came to meet them from the village applauded. When the plane came back with three more people, the villagers applauded. When the plane came back with the young lady with cerebreal palsy, there was silence. No one said or did anything. Do you know why? Because they had never seen a handicapped person. In that part of Africa just like many other parts, if a child is born with any kind of handicap they are left to die in the jungle by any number of means. The orphanage the missionaries built there tries to get people who have babies with "abnormalities" to bring them to the orphanage and let them have the baby. But parents don't normally do that.
So the people on the mission completed that trip, the woman with CP interacted with people just as the others. And they went home. Six months later the man who had planned the trip to Africa got a phone call from the orphanage their church had built there. The person on the phone wanted to share some good news. A baby in the village had been born with a club foot. And instead of leaving the child in the jungle to die like the elders told her to, she brought her baby to the local doctor and said, please tell me how to treat this baby, because I want to keep her. She is going to keep that little baby and raise that baby along with her other children, with love. She wanted the baby.
The doctor asked what made her decide to keep the baby. The young mother told the doctor about the woman who had visited a while ago (meaning the young lady with CP). She said she had seen what children could grow up to be despite disabilities, and she knew her baby would be okay too.
That woman with cerebral palsy made a difference by just being her. Just by existing she made a difference in more than one life. Did you know you can do that too? No matter what physical or emotional handicap.
Sorry this is so long. I know people hate reading long posts. But I hope you enjoyed hearing this true story. It was told by a man from that church at my own church this past Sunday morning. And I wanted to share.
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17 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 11
hi ambiepam thanks for the lovely story. it made me think that even if one has handicaps you still can do things and help others too, it
need not hold you back at all.I did enjoy reading it as it was
upbeat and will give hope to others who feel their life is over
because they now have a disability.I am always patient as some of the long disscussions are well worth reading.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
19 Apr 11
Africa is so vast that I would want to know which country the man was talking about. Many African countries do look after their own people who may have disabilities with great love and care.
I do know that the Masai people would take a child that had just been born to the river/sea and put the child in the water. If the baby rose to the top then it would be considered normal but of it didn't then it drowned. Definitely survival of the fittest in this case.
Your story was really lovely and I am happy that people from this country now help children born with disabilities. It is hard to do in a third world country - believe me - I live in a third world country. Blessings my dear. Not around much these days
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@AmbiePam (94566)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Oh Cynthiann, we're talking about places that have never seen civilation. I figured some people might be upset with my story, but I wanted to be clear in my discussion that it does not happen everywhere on the continent. I mean he had pictures that some you couldn't look at because the women were topless and the men were barely wearing anything. It's a very primitive place. However, he did bring a picture of the baby with the club foot who was saved. One of the missionaries still in Africa took the picture to show everyone.
Are you doing okay though? You know we miss you around here. You are the funniest person on mylot.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
20 Apr 11
Funnily enough I am helping my friend with ALS write her story. She has lived twice as long as expected and with the help of a mavchine on loan from the ALS Society can send me emails by blinking her eyes. It also has a voice synthesiser so she can now respond to conversations. She was one of my closest friends when she was out here and I love her dearly. she is in Florida. I have also been busy with work and with helping my son campaign for the General Election next year. So no real time to Mylot So you see I know first hand what a person with disabilities can accomplish. There is a funny story about her that I should share
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
20 Apr 11
I should have added that that is all the movement she has - to blink her eyes as she now cannot speak or move independently. She is so beautiful - like an exotic butterfly and has existed on raw organic foods for many years and this has contributed to the fact that she has lived with ALS for about 14 years and the life span is usually 3 -5 years. she is in her mid fifties and does not have one wrinkle. Her husband regards it a joy to care for her and he still adores her. Never passes her without touching her her giving her a kiss. Now this is a love story.
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@ElicBxn (63664)
• United States
19 Apr 11
There was a time and a place when a handicapped child was a burden that a society couldn't bear. But that time has long been over in the west, and with the advent of modern medicine in other parts of the world, we can be glad it is hopefully soon going to end elsewhere.
I have a friend on Facebook who is rescuing cats off the streets of Egypt - you would NOT believe how primitive the vet clinics there are!
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Wow.... What an incredible touching story! I hope the woman with CP knew or found out what an impact she made on that African community. She deserves the highest honor to have such courage to go in such a place and make such a huge impact on the people of Africa. It goes to show, no matter what your handicap is, you can still make a difference in others lives. I wonder what I can do since I'm considered legally deaf. I've often wondered that. Plus having lupus, I can't be in the sun either. Anyway, not to take away from your story, for it is very couragous and inspiring! Thanks for sharing it!
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
19 Apr 11
You've got a good point there. It's hard but I do try to not let it get the best of me.
I made a copy of your story so my mom could see it since she doesn't ha e the internet. She'll appreciate it as much as I did.
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@veejay19 (3589)
• India
19 Apr 11
Its a wonderful story and very inspiring.Yes people with disabilities have more courage than normal people because they are living their life in a manner which is an example to others. I have been a victim of Muscular Dystrophy since the last 41 years and am completely cofined to a wheelchair existence since then but all my friends and relatives treat me as a normal person and say that i am aninspiration to them on how to live and take life in the best possible manner.Though i cannot stand or walk,yet i carry on my life, of course with help, in as normal way as i can.This lady`s extraordinary effort was an inspiration for the tribal people and even if just one woman learned that life is precious even if there was a deformity, she had given the unfortuate ones among the tribal children a chance to live and face the world.Hats off to that lady.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Hi my sweet Amber! I thought that this story was beautiful. I think
that it was important to read and let people see how just because
someone is handicapped doesn't mean that they are incompetent and
can't do things other people can do. I have a story of my own. There
was a gentleman who lived in my neighborhood that I would meet at
the busstop or on the bus or around the "stores" in the neighborhood
and he would be acting "normally" like taking the bus to work and
school which he went to after work. I thought he was a great guy
and amazing! I couldn't put in a full day at work and then travel
to another borough to go to night school, but he could. He used
crutches, but got around without them too, which I didn't know
he could do until I saw him at work. He worked in the Optical
Department where I went for my medical appointments and he helped
me pick out my glasses. It was the first time I saw him walk without
his crutches. They were leaned against the wall. He didn't walk well,
but he was able to walk. He was one of the lucky ones with CP, his
speach wasn't affected. He was a very smart man and has a lovely wife
and daughter. Then his wife got pregnant and they moved away and unfortuately
we lost touch. I really cared about them and miss them alot! I know that
they are doing ok and are happy wherever they are! And I am thankful for
being able to have Mark and his wonderful family in my life! Love ya, Les
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
19 Apr 11
What a touching story. Definately brought Tears to my eyes, as I know that there are a lot of people on this Earth who suffer from some type of Disability such as I and often wonder why. But for someone to have enough courage to want to go to Africa like this, and know she made a difference what a Blessing that was. God definately had his hand in this one for sure.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Hello Ambie. What a lovely story. This young woman really did as God wants us to do. She had the courage and most importantly the faith To depend on God for her going to Africa. So many of us are kept from going into the field because we have a handicap of some kind. We don't depend on God as much as we should. Thank you for sharing this story.
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@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I am glad she refused to be treated like she wasn't able to achieve anything she wanted to do at any time. Many people can do challenging tasks and just have to want to succeed. I'm glad that mother kept her baby.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I admit I don't read long posts due to lack of time since I started school, but this was worth reading Ambie..I enjoyed it a lot and it goes to show that EVERY PERSON on earth can be used to glorify G♥d...
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@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I really don't mind that this was long! It is a great story! It is nice to know that anyone can make a difference in another person's life! I know I have tried to make a difference in one way or another since my first cancer diagnosis. Just by being yourself you can make a difference. I just hadn't heard many specific examples of it happening. Thanks for sharing!!!
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Great story!
I don't mind long posts as long as they're interesting.. and this one was certainly interesting. I'm glad a life was saved, and I hope the woman with CP knows what she's done. They say God works in mysterious ways.. and I guess that's just one of the ways. Everyone, even handicapped people, have a reason and a place in this world.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Apr 11
thanks ambie. thats quite heart warming and very true. my daughter and i was talking about that very thing yesterday about how some people over come such things and become a help to society against all odds.
@GardenGerty (161221)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Thanks for sharing with us this great account. Many of us never know if we make a difference in someone else's life. We just have to go on being who God calls us to be. It is a good Easter story to hear.
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@zeraeign (163)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
One quick question: Is this a true story?
If it is, which I guess it is, then this is really inspiring. The part where babies with abnormalities in deep jungle in Africa are left to die is disturbing though.
@AmbiePam (94566)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Yes, like I stated in what I wrote, it is a true story.
Leaving physically challenged babies in the jungle to die has been happening for a very long time. I imagine the people in the tribe think they need fit, healthy people in order to keep their village going. While more civilized places in Africa would just put their babies up for adoption if they wanted to, leaving babies to die is par for the course when you step into the jungle. Some places it's almost like you stepped back in time.
@AmbiePam (94566)
• United States
26 Apr 11
The countries in Africa that this happens in have so many problems that this is actually not something they focus on. However, they encourage independent organizations to go in and help. That's why so many of the missionaries are not just preaching their version of the gospel. They are going in with medical aid, building orphanages, and schools. They focus in on the bodies, not just the souls.