Life is difficult. Any advise how to make life a little lighter?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
Philippines
April 19, 2011 1:07am CST
I am going through a lot of difficulties right now. The politics in our office is forcing me to jump out of the company. I am standing right between two varying forces, and each trying to win over the others. I am tangled in a situation where relationship between my co-employees matters and that I may end up making the wrong decision and in turn ruin my own reputation of being fair. I am losing a very close friend because of misunderstanding and I am not meeting the demands of my devotion to church activities. My family is not a good source of help either. They don't understand me. I pray that I'll get over this with my heart in one piece. People are hurting me without their knowledge. Still I have to maintain this facade of proper decorum. I am being stalked by a married suitor and I don't know whom to run to except pray.
Hayyyzzz... Why is life so difficult when you are doing the right thing? Any tips on how to live life a lot easier?
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11 responses
@zeraeign (163)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I don't think there's other way. I first thought life would be easy if you study hard, get high grades, and find a good job, then you get a light life. However, that's not what I see. I see a lot of graduates who are jobless.
In your example for example; you have a job but due to politics, you are forced to jump out of your company. I believe you studied, worked hard for it, but see what's going on right now?
I guess life just isn't fair sometimes.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Hi zeraeign.
I can't say that life is not fair. What we make of our life is our own doing and what we allow to come our way. Our decisions and how we treat life is up to us. Right now, I am feeling difficult situations because of my own fears. I guess I just have to overcome this fears or run away from them... depending on how much courage I can get.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Okay. You may be right that not all that happens to us our own doing. Yet still, we need to struggle and find happiness. For me, I sometimes need to block the causes of pains. But it will not be resolved by doing that. We have to confront it at the right time or when we are ready.
See you around. 
@zeraeign (163)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
For me, its really just a matter of opinion. However, I really disagree with the phrase 'our life is own doing' something within those lines. I can compare some of my friends who are disabled. Was their doing that they became like that? I don't think so. Although they're quite satisfied, I'm sure deep inside they've once told themselves 'What if I have legs? What if I have hands?'. I'm sure they've crossed this situation once before.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Hi. snowhybiscuis. I think that you should just take life one day at a time. I also think that you should pray to God and read a devotional Bible. I read one everyday. I read a message for everyday out of the month. This helps me to stay unto track. I also stay busy doing something so that my mind will not wander off into gloom and despair. Life is what we all make it. It does not have to be this way. If there are issues with someone that you have a problem with, talk to them. Treat them kind and don't get nasty with them at all. Spend time with God and he will give you the peace and the guidance to withstand any situation in your life. Just keep the faith and trust in him!
Be Blessed!
Be Blessed!@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Hi cream97.
Thanks for your advices. Actually, I get comfort through prayers and listening to our religious program at top channel.
Best regards to you.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
19 Apr 11
Dear friend,
I feel that it would be better the face those situations that is unchangeable. Moreover the changes can occur any time any where. Once the change will occur for the better side. Lets face the situations as long as the change occur the better side. Moreover lets make changes for the betterment of our self and also others. There are many other sides one could get relaxations, put that side on life whenever feels depressed or tensed. I feel life is simple live it simple with less unnecessary thoughts that is wasting time and energy. Wish you all the best soon to recover all those unpleasant things.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I think I need to do that jump and not mind what will come of the morrow. My personality is that sometimes I worry to much. Maybe that's one thing that aggravates my concerns right now. Another is that I feel so down at the moment for the rejections I received from the people I care about.
Anyway, time will pass me by and I believe that things would soon improve.
Thank you so much for sharing your views.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
hello to you. you are not alone, know that. we all carry our own burden; some may look at them as easy while others deem it difficult.
let office politics be. you do not have to be affected, although i know it is easier said than done. i do not agree that you have to leave your job because of that. you have to think for yourself. do involve yourself too much but work just according to the rules.
friends come and go. i learned this the hard way. eventually, the hurt will go away. you will find another friend much more deserving. live live to the fullest as in giving importance to your own.
your family may not be the perfect one but i assure they will be the first to help you when you are in trouble. for now, it seems you can handle things that is why there is no panic, or worry from them.
report to authorities about the stalker.
live life. live happy. especially for yourself.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Hi bingskee.
You give good advices and it shows you're wise in life. Thanks for your insights and suggestions. I will keep that in mind.
Happy mylotting.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Life can be difficult at times but it can be fun as well. Sometimes, looking at things in another perspective can give you fresh ideas on how to approach life. Another thing I found out is taking it easy even if things get rough can open your eyes and mind to things you were previously not aware of. Hope this helps.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Thanks for your suggestion. Your boosting somehow helps. It's just like at times like these, I feel weak, frustrated and helpless.
Thanks again.
@pengyachu (296)
• China
19 Apr 11
Dear friend,
I am the same like you.Now I just do not know how to do ?Anyone,can you give us some advise.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Hi pengyachu.
The people here has given me good advices already. Read through their messages and you'll see, you'll get good answers for our concerns.
Regards.
@blueangelwrites (149)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Take up matters one at a time and start with the most immediate. Solving problems that you can will eliminate it from your list of worries, won't it? Those others which you can't do for now, you pray that help would come or that you'd eventually solve it later on or a solution comes your way. Praying is a very big thing and it will surely help. Just pray without ceasing.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Good suggestions. It's just that when things pile up, you don't know where to start. Thanks for the tips and I'll try my best to sort out everything.
Happy mylotting.
@astreadido (608)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Keep on a positive attitude. Live each day one day at time and treat each experience as an opportunity to learn. Never lose hope that everything will turn out for the best. That everything happens for a reason.
I too faces difficulties in life, though in different aspects than yours. But my past experiences taught me that things happen for a reason. Whether to teach us valuable lessons in life or make way for something bigger.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I strongly agree that things happen for a reason. I hope I'll be able to know soon where these things would lead. I think I need a break. I think, sometimes it would be easier not to care for just a very brief period.
@arsenalliang (148)
•
19 Apr 11
Hi,I think life is not difficult ,but it is complicated.we really want to back to a time things were simpler,so we need to simplify our life.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
The complications makes it difficult. Complication is a situation and "difficult" is the feeling that I have right now. I wish I live a more simple life. I noticed that as you grow older, life becomes more complicated and disturbing. Unlike a child's life, their openness and less defensiveness makes it easy to live life to the fullest.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Remember that life goes on regardless of what you do. Whatever you do, someone will suffer from it. People will never be completely happy with the actions of others, and the good thing about life is that there is continuous change. If the decision you make hurts people right now, something can be done later which makes them happier. It is natural to worry about the issues facing you. Just think about how you will feel when you get past this.
For now, show that you have everyone's interest at heart, and even if they don't like your decision, they will have to deal with it. There is a reason you are in the position to make whatever decision you are facing. Someone has trusted you to make the decision. Trust yourself.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Thanks for that vote of confidence. Yes, they indeed trusted me to make a decision. This is actually something that gives me worries. Because, in the end of the day, my decision would reflect the kind of person that I am. I don't know much about myself except that I know I am just a simple person with simple outlook in life. However, the complications of my job and the responsibilities coming my way seems beyond what I can handle at the moment. I want to quit but I cannot do so because as you have said, everyone's interest is in my heart.
The fact that I am sharing these things here with you mylotters is of great help already to me. I cannot voice these things to my subordinates, my families and my friends. I don't want to give them worries. I am greatful to all who reads my post and even give suggestions.
May He bless you all.
@heavenrenz (190)
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19 Apr 11
we are all going through difficult times but sometimes it depends how you inculcate in your mind how difficult life is. You have to think positive and tell to yourself, believe in yourself that life is so wonderful that you are more than conqueror.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I am a very positive person. As I've mentioned to other posters here in mylot, I am grateful for you who reply to my post and even take time to read my messages here. It somehow relieves me that there are people who shows concern to strangers like me. I express my worries best with strangers. I know, I need to trust my friends. However, at this time, I am afraid to do so because I may give them worries or wrong impressions.
