Should i just shut up about it?

If you have shared your feelings with your friend you have done all you can do. People will decide on their own. Your better off staying away from the guy and not even discussing him. Being her shoulder when he eventuallys finds himself another mistress is the best you can do.

I guess your friend doesnt understand anything about love. I guess she doesnt really love this guy cause its obvious she doesnt love herself. Because if she does, she would put herself into that shameful situation she has now. I guess you're the one who sees the real picture of it, just continue being a friend to her. Maybe one day she'll realize and be thankful of you for being there for her.

Personally, I can see how something like this would bother you, especially if this was a friend of yours who had done this. I know it would bother me if it was someone I knew that I was close too as well. Even had someone leave a marriage once because of someone like this. Was not really sure what to think, especially when after the Divorce was final having her ex-husband try to ask me out even. I think the Best thing to do is be there for your friend, and supportive of her, because it could happen to her. It could be the guy not sure who he needs to be with and could change his mind again on her as well.

you have done your best , I think. It's her life and the sad thing their is we can't interrupt what she decided. So just be on her side to remind her sometimes to be careful. Life is complicated we can't stop other people what they really wanted to do with their life even if it's actually wrong.

The least you can do for your friend is advise her. let her know what you think. Although it's her decision to make, at least you've already told her on why it is not good for her. Her situation is complicated and days may come that she will need you for advise or just for someone to talk with. Just be there for her.

Love is complex most of the times. They say if you are a part of "love" every wrong thing in Earth may seem right. I think your friend is experiencing the love goggles. I for one do not approve of such action but I also think that a good friend should not come between love. The only thing i think you could do right now is be with your friend. Be there for her at the best and worse of this relationship. And if the guy would ever do that to your friend than be there to catch her. You are a good friend to want to protect her.

HI Lyamsitiy, I think if it were my friend, I would have given her my thoughts as you did and then I would just hold my opinions to myself. She knows how you feel and to keep reminding her will do nothing but had tension to and maybe even ruin the friendship. Will he do the same thing to your friend? He might. That's usually how these things play out though not always. If and when that happens, your friend is going to need you.

Hi. lyamsitiy. Welcome to myLot! I think that you should just not say anything. I am sure that they know how you really feel about her boyfriend. Let her boyfriend try to be a pimp, because sooner or later, all that he is doing is going to come to an end. I do hope that he finds the strength to get out of this relationship because this guy does not mean her any good. She is so much better without him.

If you have already given your piece of advice to your friend and still she went on doing her own thing then I think you should stop there 'coz you have already done your part. I understand your concern and I am one with you. But your mind is not the mind of your friend. She is foolishly in love. As a good friend I know you mean good for her but she has already decided so what can you do but to just pray for her.

Just shut up about it. After your friend is destroyed by him (and she will be), be ready to put an arm around her and cry with her. Hopefully the pain will make her learn something. But honestly, she's made her choice, and bringing it up before the crash happens, will only make her angry at you. There is something truly evil about the human heart, that we are so prideful, and self-assured, that we'll reject the care and warning of those closest to us. She's made that choice. There's nothing you can do but get ready for the crash.

Hi lyamsitity: I am sorry to say that you have done all that you can do. Relationships are complicated and if you have talked to your friend before and she still want to be with her boyfriend you can't do anything but wait until she find that you were right. If you insist on the same subject she will probably consider that you are not being a good friend and that's not the point. Sometimes people just want to do the things that are not possitive to them. ALVARO

Hi..Welcome to mylot!! I think your friend needs you this time more than ever to teach her a lesson. Well, I bet no one can advise her like you do so better not shut up about it. Maybe you can tell her everyday about how you dislike her boyfriend. Tell it to her again and again just like how she tells you about him. If the guy is really a bad guy for your friend, keep convincing her to stop the relationship before things get worst. Good luck!

yes,i toally can understand your feeling,how lucky to have a friend like you who can give you a hand and care you sincerely.i don't know why your friend is so infatuated with a guy like that,if he have some difficulties but his true love is your friend,then don't mind it.but if the man is a playboy and cheat the other's feelings then you should stand out,cause the one in love can't think straightly,their intelligence quotient is zero,be rational and give your opinion...

I think the worst thing you could do is to 'shut up' and not talk to her about it. She is your best friend and you need to help her. If you were doing something foolish wouldn't you want her to at least give you her opinion? She may be temporarily unhappy with you but I think you need to do what you feel is right. When we are all infatuated and even in love, we don't always think straight. She needs you now. You told her how you feel and you don't need to continuously keep repeating it, but be there for her. If there are any beginning signs of the same behavior she will need you. Good luck!!

hi Lyamsitiy, It's normal to feel the way you are. That only means you are concern with your best friend. If I were in your position, I would surely feel the same and would not be contented to just shut up. Well, the only best thing to do, is to be always by your friend's side. Keep on finding ways to let her enlighten in her situation. Now is the time she needed you most...someone who will show her the path of doing the right thing. She must be blinded by her feeling towards the guy. So keep on showing her position in the guys'life. Always tell her that it is not only her that will soon be in pain. What if the guy finds another girl? He will then leave his present girl? Always remind her that it's not only her being abused but there will be more if they let the guy used them. The guy sees that it is okey with her to be the other woman, so he's taking advantage of it. You never know what your bestfriend will do if this guy walked out of her life, so be patient staying beside her. Hopefully she would be enlightened by your friendship and concern. Good luck.

For me if your heart said yes then stop if not then go.

For em if your heart wouldn't heal if you are shoot up then go to discuss it to your friend until such you are heart ache if vain.

That is really disturbing when you know something is not right and yet you cannot do anything about it.Maybe you try talking to your bestfriend but if she has no intention of following your advice, I suggest to just do other things that will be good for you.Sometimes if we meddle with other people's affairs, in the end we will be accused of destroying the relationship or is just out there being nosey. I think your bestfriend is fully aware of the situation she is in , and she doesn't at all cause she is in love.

If you care about your friend and you don't want to see her suffer you should tell her your opinion,although this might make her upset with you,but if she has the wisdom to realize that you want her to be well she will take your words into consideration and maybe she will open her eyes and see what kind of evil character her boyfriend has.I think that's the best solution because if she realizes the truth later her suffering will be much bigger.

As you have said, you have already talk to her about the matter and yet she did not listen to you. At this point, you don't need to do anything. Although it is not bad to give her some advice occasionally. Just always be with her to comfort her whenever the time comes that she need it.