How do you talk to innocent minded people about your love life?
By sashakiddo
@sashakiddo (1102)
United States
April 19, 2011 10:07pm CST
I am active in bed, but I have friends who aren't. They are almost afraid to talk about it because that is how they were raised. They don't go out on dates either, so I find it hard to talk to them about my life when it comes to my boyfriend. It's also annoying when they ask questions that sort of beat around the bush (like "do you two sleep in the same bed?", and they giggle like children when anyone refers to physical love.
Have you ever had to put up with this kind of conversation?
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4 responses
@damned_dle (3942)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
Hmm.. Depends on their age. If they are old enough then I would tell every detail they want to hear. How old are your friends anyway? And how come they are so innocent?
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
20 Apr 11
They are in their early 20s.. we are living in America but some of them are Japanese and others are Japanese Americans. They are culturally very Japanese, but I know there are Japanese people who are physically active in bed so I think it's just the way they were raised.. really religious.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I laughed when you said you would tell every detail.. I can't imagine telling my friends every detail!
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
21 Apr 11
The birds and the bees in the sycamore trees don't talk about it either, they just do it and seem to get very good results! Too much idle talk, might inhibit the end result, so why bother? Perhaps a demonstration would be better, and could save a whole bunch of conversation!
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
21 Apr 11
lol but they're the ones who bring it up.. I wouldn't talk about it if they didn't put me in a position where I felt they were making a mockery of my love life just because they haven't been devirginized.
@jia521tao (50)
• China
20 Apr 11
hi! If someone else ask me that question, I don't konw how to answer. But I never met it. All the friend around all know that I always go to my bf's house and stay there all the night. They maybe guess us whether sleep together or not, but never mention it. In other side, to my friends , I never and forever ask them about that question. Maybe we still not open enough.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Yeah, especially if the friends are childhood friends. Once you think you know someone at a young age, it can be hard to transition to the new adult life when people loose their innocence and change their habits.
@sweetme329 (500)
• Australia
20 Apr 11
yea, you can be in a embarrassing situations at times when you have friends who are shy. But now that i am married, i don't hesitate to answer if people ask me such questions. I am usually very frank with people to share my experiences. 
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I wish I had your courage, I am only comfortable talking about it when others seem comfortable. If the people I talk to seem fidgety, I get fidgety as well.
