Do you tell your spouse what you do and don't like in YOUR relationship? Well...

Yes I think these things should be discussed but no I do not think it should be done via text. Relationship issues should always be done in person and in a calm manner or nothing will come of it but hurt feelings and arguments. Start with I know you love me and I love you but this is something that makes me physically uncomfortable. Explain that it hurts or makes it hard to breath. Do not start out with accusations of him smothering you or it will go down hill quick. I have been married only 13 years but we have had our issues and made it through them. Good luck!

Yes I have done and still do tell my partner everything. I cannot see how you can have a good relationship without being able to talk about everything. I would object to being smothered as well. In my case I would be inclined to fight for air to breathe if someone did that to me. There is nothing wrong with telling him. You need to. If he cannot deal with you telling him then he has a problem. I would not call him. It is he who should make the first move.

I have no problem with telling him . I think the problem is that you took so long. With my guy somehow I have felt comfortable enough to tell him what I like and don't like From the Beginning. I think one Must tell a partner what you like and don't like . They are not mind readers! I hope you and he have talked it out. Take Care.

Hi. keshia2007r. I think that it is good to be honest with each other. I think that if you just told your husband that you needed some space, them he may would have taken what you have told him more comfortably. I think that he just got offended and his feelings were hurt. My husband loves playing around with me, and sometimes I take it for granted, but I do appreciate him wanting to be around me. It does make me feel really good. If your husband is smothering you, then you have a right to tell him how this is making you feel. Just make sure to tell him in a nice way. You should also explain yourself more just in case he feels bad about your concern. If he is mad, maybe you should talk to him and clear up any misunderstandings that he may feel right now.

I have the same problem with my boyfriend. He's bigger than me so of course if he lays on me I can barely breathe.. I keep telling him but he ignores it and just gets offended. In a relationship people need to be understanding of eachother, and I think that's something we're trying to work on..

It's not something you 'text' about (and you probably shouldn't even 'wait `til after' to talk about it). That's something more you 'indicate while occurring' ("Don't cover me so much!" etc.) In general, only praise what you DO like and don't even talk about what you DON'T like (except to maybe stop it when it looks like the bad thing is about to happen).

I think being open and honest is very important in any successful marriage. But I agree with previous posters, over text? thats a very bland way to put it so it might be very difficult for him to gage what you emotions are that are attached to this thing that you didnt like. When most likely he is thinking of it as cuddling.

Definitely, it is a must for a healthy and progressive relationship. if you keep things to yourself, you'd be miserable. The purpose of marriage after all is sharing your life with someone. How can you have a healthy marriage if you don't talk about each others feelings, both positive and negative. It would be a great practice to have a sort of a sharing session with you and your husband or with your children once a month, to be able to be open about each other. Share each others ideas, feelings, reactions, solve problems together, things that matters to your family. A good communication is always the best what to a healthy and successful marriage.

Open communication between spouses is good. It is better to be honest about each others feelings so that if there is something to fix it can be fixed right away.This is better than harboring ill feelings and then just burst out one time and separate.

I do sometimes when I feel like it is too much but a lot of the times even though I tell him, he either doesn't care of he forgets very quickly so I don't think he likes listening to me, he thinks I whine all the time which makes me upset.

Well... texting is a very very bad way to inform someone that you don't like what they are doing. I would recommend that you talk in person face to face, and alone. There is nothing fun about getting a text message at work, around your co-workers, saying your wife is unhappy about something. It's uncomfortable, embarrassing, and disrespectful. It's better to discuss such things, together, in a safe place, where you and talk about it comfortably. If you can't do this, perhaps because he, or you, get angry or have a hard time communicating, then you need counseling on how to communicate better.

we have to talk about everything in a relationship...I think men are more unhappy about it hahha...they don't want to hear what is wrong maybe because they don't want to change! I always say what I don't like to my boyfriend and he does the same thing to me. I don't see any problem with that we always get better after those kind of conversation..because both of us have to change to keep this relationship healthy!!!

Of course you have to tell. It is a relationship, which means it has to work both ways. If there is a problem both should try to resolve it. This is the essence of being married.

i think every one facing problem with their partners,but when situation is not in our control we will wait for that and make him to realize.

I think it is important to tell a spouse what we like or don't like. if we don't how would we ever achieve any satisafas=ction in the relationship? there has to be some give and take to reach that reward.

you're right there's nothing wrong with telling him what you don't like...it would be wrong if you didn't. the key to a good realtionship it's communication...this is one of the most important things. and if he cares for you he'll have to understand and accept it

This is really a very important aspect of any relationship,being open to your spouse will most of the times solve a lot of misunderstanding that are bound to happen if you keep your thoughts to yourself.So yes I do talk about my likes and dislikes to my spouse however I do not impose anything her,just for her information sake she has to know.

I think you mean physical smothering but I'm not sure.. If this is the case, I think it's interesting that you texted him about it. Maybe if he doesn't text back, you could bring it up the next time he tries to do it. As long as you aren't always nagging him about what you don't like, then it's fine. I made a mistake of always asking my partner, why do you do this? why do you do that? I thought it was fine because he did the same to me for a while until I told him I'm not going to change everything for him. The worst thing he told me was that I should lose weight, this was the first week of going out, so I was ready to leave him but for some reason I didn't. Anyway, after a while, he couldn't handle my criticism and he had a breakdown. I didn't realize I was making him feel so stressed out. It doesn't seem like you are at this point, so I think it's okay to tell the guy what bothers you.