How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?

Yes friend this is nonsense arguing and arguing even a small event. I also observed this that most of the couples are fight and argue every time. But here both should be understanding to each other. In my married life I always treat my husband like friend means lot of comedy fun with my husband means we are not feel we are only a husband and wife. Because every time you will fight with your spouse then that relations should not be established for long time and love is also not possible such type or relationship. Nice discussion.

I think my boyfriend is my best friend. Because of some events in the past and present, we do argue a lot more lately. But I know we both love each other and we are in this together.

Totally agree with you, I think friendship is needed before two people can develop to be lovers. I never have big argument with my boyfriend, but I do have small one sometimes, but we can end it nicely. I do have a friend whom argues with her lover very frequently, most is non-sense, I don't really understand why. But they still are together after many years have past. They still love each other, but I don't see that it'll be any good, since arguing over and over again must make you stress and down.

friendship is probably the equating factor for a relationship to work as it ingest a common ground to work on... arguments are inevitable as it is a tool to invite change in every relationship, it either breaks or binds you together, it unleashes the worst or best of ourselves and in the end, it gives the opportunity to realize what we want or what we don't want and to survive it, friendship is a common ground..lol! so, better be friends and lovers to better compromise a resolution of problems..

My thoughts are that if they are constantly fighting to no avail then it has to be way too difficult for them to get along. If they value one another and want the relationship to work then they do have to come up with some method to try and get along. Not doing so will surely further ruin the relationship. I also feel that they can have differences but the constant fighting will not allow the relationship to strengthen.

I really agree. My wife and I were best friends before we got married. There is nothing like a good friendship, as a foundation for a long lasting relationship.

friendship is the best foundation for love, arguments are unavoidable but if you have strong foundation, you can go through whatever trials you will have.

I think that it's hard for us to be a lover to someone if we can't be a friend to them first. Friendship should be the base and foundaton for us to build a relationshi of love and unity on.

I am going through Such situation,Many Kinds of doubts come in My mind About My Lover, I get angry when she doesn't respond, I feel helpless as she is far away from me, But I Think I still Love her.I miss her so much

I don't know if you can. To me, lovers is just a deeper version of friends. Everyone argues but you can still be friends. It depends do you spend more time arguing than anything else? If you can't have a good time together what is the point in BEING together. That needs to be thought about.

Friendship is definitely the basic essence of love.Without friendship I dont think any love is possible between a couple in the same breath I dare say that there is no friendship without love aswell.As far as fighting with each other is concerned it is a good thing untill and unless it is not way over the head.These small petty fights infact result in making the bond stronger be it love or friendship.