pushing children to excel at sports and other activities.

playing to win gives them an outright goalsetting. if you set a high goal, and unfortunately you were not able to achieve it, more or less you will get a value not far from what your goal is. "Aim for the moon so that if you miss, you will land amongst the stars."

I agree with you, children are not supposed to be forced into something which the don't like, just because you like it and want it to happen. Parents, instead, are supposed to figure out what they are good at and excel, if they are given the right guidance. Let it be sports, studies, whatever it is, parents need to support their talent, instead dictating them to be like the way you want

i became a varsity swimmer during high school and college days i know the feeling of being pushed to do a hard training even i was needing to take a rest atleast 2days and have fun sometimes with my friends but i need to train everyday in order to increase my speed and to have a best time during time trial. I know my parents been a stage mom/dad and i saw that they are so proud of me, they cheered when I was on the race and seeing their teary eyes during my victory. And now I'm a mother to my 5 year old daughter also i wanted her to be a good swimmer like I used to be, my worries are she's not interested to be a member of the swimming club in my area although she know how to swim. She loves painting and loves to dance, as a parent ill support her favorite activity she wanted to be in. She's still young and i know in time she will choose what the best skills for her that she can be proud of.

Pushing kids to do something they don't want usually don't have good results. I believe it doesn't teach them important skills. To win by pressure usually is out of anger not by fun or ability of the player. Maybe these parents should be educated that if they want their children to excel, they must be encourage not pressured or pushed. These children being pushed would usually end up thinking of cheating just to show to their parents they won. Children needs to discover their own talents or abilities. Expose them to different environment and forms of arts and sports so they would know where they could excel. Being a parent is hard thats why it takes two.

We all wish for our children to be the best and brightest they can possibly be. And occasionally that means we must push them in the right direction. Knowing how hard and how far to drive requires you to know your child... his/her character, what works and what doesn't, and when to say "When” And in the end, your child has to know that you will not back down and give in just because he/she challenges your choice. On the other hand, You must be sure that you are always acting in your child's best attention and not imposing your own will upon him/her.

I am against pushing children to excel at any sport or any other activity because I think too much pressure has negative effects on their development and it might leave traces or even scars that will affect them for the rest of their lives.A child should be encouraged to be active in a sport he or she likes,but not pushed and forced to do it,and we should never forget that children need to go out and have fun,we must let them enjoy the pleasure of playing.