Is He The One???

If you keep on looking for the "One" you may end up feeling frustrated. You fail to mention why all those previous boy friends and husband disappeared from your life. That you have kept on trying is a good sign that you have a lot left insofar as the capacity to love (and trust) is concerned. I can only offer the wisdom of Kahlil Gibran who says that when you love, you do it expecting nothing in return, for loving is for its own sake.

I can definitely sympathize with you! To make a long story short, I thought my first boyfriend was 'the one' too, but the guy I'm with now is so amazing and it's just love and support between us, nothing else. No misunderstandings, nothing we don't like about each other,no need for compromising. It's just...a perfect match.That's simple. And to be honest, it seems like you're in the same boat. Just that due to your past, you're doubting the sincerity of the whole thing. The truth of the whole feeling. And it's understandable. It seems too good to be true, don't it? Don't be scared. If it feels right, it is.

Well if you're not sure about him being the one then he isn't. That's just how it is. You will not be thinking if he's the one for you if he's the one. Even if you thought of your other boyfriends as the one but never felt like he's the one then he's not the person for you. When you've met the one, there is a certainty that will never be shaken by anything. Even he will feel it. You both will know it. It's just that our capacity to love others is great and so we can fall in love with anyone. That's not a bad thing (unless one or both are married) but we do have to be careful who we fall in love with and why. =) Try not to look for someone to "complete" you. Life is simple but it's also complicated so don't make it more complicated by looking for love to make your life seem better. Love is a boon.

hello, You just said that you have husband right? did your husband know it? If your husband knows about it then go for it, but if he doesnt know it you must tell him first whats your feeling about that guy. But you make sure your feeling first because maybe you are just getting blind of it because you think you and your husband is not "the one". if you cannot work it out maybe you can talk to your husband first before looking for something new. good luck

Depending what that short time is, is it in a matter of days, weeks or months. But, in my humble opinion I feel that love isn't something to be rushed because they tend to fall apart or loose its magic after a couple of months. So, just wait until it's like 9 or 10 months because then you'll have a clear understanding as to what he means to you and where your relationship stands.

I think you only know that answer. I don't think it is ever too early or too late to have those feelings and feel that way. If it is different than you have ever felt before, you probably do. If you don't have any doubts, you probably do. In my experience, you only goes through that "honeymoon" phase where everything is perfect because you don't know everything about the person yet. You think the person is perfect and perfect for you and everything is great. Later on down the road, you get to know the person and find out the person isn't perfect and has flaws but if and when you get there, you still believe the person is perfect for you and you still love the person just as much, I think it is meant to be. I am not sure what stage you are in, but take your time and enjoy your feelings and see where you two end up. You will wake up one day and know....know if it is meant to be or if it isn't...but you will be certain about it and not have to debate it with yourself.

i can't give you a sure way to tell if he is the one... i've always felt that feeling to all my exes when i was still with them, and when things go wrong, the feelings change.... but i think, this is just my opinion all right, i think the mere fact that you are still looking for answers (like how you are doing here at my lot by starting this discussion) -- i think that is already a sign that yes, it is too early to tell. and that you are not 100 percent sure yet. take your time. it won 't take too long to tell anyway. just take some time. only you can say how much time you need.

well some people belive in love at first sight some people belive in testing the water by living together and some do it the way god what it to be married first and then grow together and fall in love so i guess that you have a decison to make