Do you have neighbors that want to come around you all of the time?
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
April 21, 2011 8:35pm CST
I have a neighbor that fits this description perfectly. He came by our home today. This guy is do darn annoying!
He doesn't know when to quit and he knows that no one always wants to be bothered with him either. Ever since we have moved here, he has been coming by and knocking on our door. There were some days that I would not even bother with answering my door either, especially when my husband was not at home. Can't he just comprehend, that if no one answers the door when he knocks, that should be a sign to him saying, "We don't want to be bothered by you!"
I have had a brief conversation about him coming around so much. He said that he will respect my wishes, but he still continues to come by every so often. None of my other neighbors come over and knock on my door constantly like he does. I am assuming that he is not slow or mentally insane because by now, he should realize that I don't want him coming by whenever he feels like it. He feels as if his time is always a good time, but he has no idea what we are doing in our house. My hands are up with this dude! I have nothing further more to say to him!
He doesn't know when to quit and he knows that no one always wants to be bothered with him either. Ever since we have moved here, he has been coming by and knocking on our door. There were some days that I would not even bother with answering my door either, especially when my husband was not at home. Can't he just comprehend, that if no one answers the door when he knocks, that should be a sign to him saying, "We don't want to be bothered by you!" I have had a brief conversation about him coming around so much. He said that he will respect my wishes, but he still continues to come by every so often. None of my other neighbors come over and knock on my door constantly like he does. I am assuming that he is not slow or mentally insane because by now, he should realize that I don't want him coming by whenever he feels like it. He feels as if his time is always a good time, but he has no idea what we are doing in our house. My hands are up with this dude! I have nothing further more to say to him!2 people like this
15 responses
@neenie (343)
• United States
22 Apr 11
I've never had a neighbor that bad! I once ending up my neighbors and we became best friends... so we were constantly over at their house and vice versa. But they were wanted guests!
I'm guessing this guy is just lonely. Does he live with any family? Maybe go buy the guy some books? Give him something to do! lol
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
22 Apr 11
Hi. neenie. As far as I know of, he has a wife and three kids that are staying at the house with him now. He told my husband that he has five kids, but I have only saw or heard from just the three children that he has. I guess the other two must be from another woman, that is his baby mama.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
Luckily we dont have neighbors like that. Our neighbors just keep on bother ing us by always playing very loud music with their stereo. They are the most inconsiderate neighbors you will ever have. Sometimes I wish their sound system would blow up.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
23 Apr 11
In my old neighborhood, which is my moms place, we have several neighbors who would love to spend the rest of the afternoon in our house, just talking to any people at home. If we are doing something, they would try to help, or just stare at you until you finish. For instance, if you are doing the laundry, she will just be there talking or doing other things, sometimes watching TV, listening to the radio you are listening at or just plain talking. At first its fun because there is someone who accompanies you but it gets annoying when they come very often, eat in your house, and use other things around the house. I'm glad we don't have it now. I have a different neighbor now, this time my neighbor is demanding. If I don't want to listen, she would just tell me to stop and listen. Oh my, but I confronted her in a nice way. She stopped and seldom comes over ... because I never go over to her place. I am nice to our neighbors, my mom says always be nice all kinds of people. In the future they could help us with errands.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Apr 11
Oh..I hate it when you have a neighbor that does that. I would be miserable..lol..I have neighbors that we talk to and visit with but never unannounced. It's usually when we are outside at the same time and strike up conversation. I would never go to their house, knock on the door, and just hang out.
My house is my private place and I don't like unannounced company anyway..much less a neighbor that was over everyday. Good luck with getting your point across...sounds like he likes visiting a lot more than he is welcomed.
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
23 Apr 11
Omg he sounds like a creep Don't get me wrong but it also sounds like that guy may have something for you. I don't know how he can d that even after the talk you gave him.
Anyway I don't have neighbor as such. Actually I don't really know my neighbor except maybe 1 or 2 of them.
Don't get me wrong but it also sounds like that guy may have something for you. I don't know how he can d that even after the talk you gave him.
Anyway I don't have neighbor as such. Actually I don't really know my neighbor except maybe 1 or 2 of them.1 person likes this
@dellahappy (260)
• China
22 Apr 11
woh,i have to admit that he is so boring and in considerate. could it be that he have no other place to go and other things to do,i think this guy could distribute his dull time to me,i am so busy that i barely have time update my mylot...he is strange you might as while talk to him straightly about your feeling and told him if you have time then you will visit him...he needless bother coming personally ever time...
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
12 Jul 11
nope.the way this neighborhood is now,they're all standoffish.
which suits me,because it's peaceful.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
22 Apr 11
I am glad that I don't have such a neighbor as described. Back home, I love my privacy without being bothered. It should be a quiet and peaceful time at home. I wish this neighbor of yours would know how to give privacy to his neighbors. Good luck with you, cream.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Apr 11
hi cream nop;e no problems that way as I am in my room with my roommate
Kathy. But I have had neighbors that came to borrow stuff and never ever returned anything without having to go get it. Perhaps he is a bit off. I think if I were you I would just refuse to talk to him. also get your hubby to talk to the man.maybe he is a few cards short of a fu ll deck and if so its best to let him know you do not want to be pestered. Odd if he was lonely why would he not seek other men? Maybe he thinks you are pretty and really this guy worries me too. have your husband talk to him man to man as it might help.
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@celticeagle (166939)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Apr 11
I really think that people now days are very self serving. They don't care about others feelings and it doesn't even enter their minds that maybe others don't want to be bothered. I think you should just tell him. Tell you are busy and don't have time to set and visit. You really are not interested in establishing anything with him.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
22 Apr 11
Oh wow that has to be a pain. I don't have neighbors like that and don't recall any in the past. I did have this Uncle though who would come over every single day. He knew my work schedule and often times was waiting for me outside when I drove up at night with the kids. It was a pain, because I had to sit and entertain him daily and he would not leave until after 11pm. I was so sick and tired of his daily visits because I had to get up at 4am with the kids to their daycare's and then me to work.
I spoke to him constantly and let him know how I felt but he still came over every single day, so one day, although I felt cruel I came home an hour early and left all lights off so as he rang my bell I did not answer at all. Did this for 3 consecutive days and it stopped him from coming. It was a terrible time in my life because he insisted on coming over every single day and then I had to drive him home each time. Yikes, I have having a few flashbacks. lol
@Bellapop (1279)
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22 Apr 11
Maybe, this guy is in love with you! Does he come round more often when your husband is not home? However to be careful, just in case. Sometimes, it might just be because the guy is lonely and has no one else to talk to, and he craves some social interaction, it's sad and frustrating at the same time, you of course would like to help, but of course you have your own life. It might be worth trying to stop answering the door, gradually he should get the message... I hope this helps!
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@chocokreme (319)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
Here in my place its common to get a visit from a neighbor. Its like strengthening the bonds within the community. Just a small chitchat is enough. Your situation with your neighbor is quite annoying. I guess he's not sensitive enough to feel that he's a bother to you. Maybe you could try and ask him why he's been visiting you and tell what you want. Its not about getting rude. You just want to know why and if you attend to what he needs or telling him that your not comfortable to his frequent visits. Probably he will stop.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
9 May 11
Hello my friend cream97 Ji,
Well, in case I happen to be in your shoes, I would display a notice-board near my door-bell requesting particular person not to ring the bell as I am very busy and would call upon him/her as I get free. If such knocking does not stop, instead of his/her visit, I will visit so that he/her underrstands his/her wrong way of troubling others. Thanks.
May God bless You and have a great time.
