getting married, are we prepared for it?
By investor211
@investor211 (474)
Mexico
April 21, 2011 10:35pm CST
I always ask myself, if we really think what getting married is, we usually meet a person have relationship for a while and thinking this is the one only because we get long, but sometimes is very short the time we have to really know this person, what they like, what kind of family they come from, were they married before, have kids, the hole life in the past.
and i was thinking if its better to have counseling before taking the last step and decide to get marry? you, you are about to get married what could you say about this? or you are married already, do im i right?
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7 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hello investor,
I am the kind of girl who wants to walk down the aisle and exchange vows to the person i want to spend the rest of my life (i still need to find my groom LOL)
Marriage life is not that easy for me you should be financial stable so your family can have a better future, you must be responsible enough to face the new chapter of your life and willing to be a loyal partner till the end.
We should think about it over and over again before we settle down.
happy mylotting
@investor211 (474)
• Mexico
26 Apr 11
thanks for your answer,
what if we get single forever? its just a great idea instead a bonch of problems we can get a bunch of good things like vacation, no worries, a much more money to spend, i think sounds better this way rather than getting married LOL
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
It will be always our choice to be single or to get married
But for me everything you have in life is wonderful if you share it with someone special 
Single or not life has still bunch of problems
have a nice day!
Single or not life has still bunch of problems
have a nice day! @obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
for me, marriage is a lifelong commitment, so if ever you're planning to take that step, do it with the right person and think 100 times before you do so.. i got married because i found the partner who i want to grow old with..
@investor211 (474)
• Mexico
23 Apr 11
good for you, tell me who knows who will be the right person? for sure we dont know that person well to say that he or she is the one, because we have never ever live together or share all the problems once we re living together, like all the shores at home who will clean, who is financially supporting who has get up early, whos gonna do laundry etc,etc
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
the right person? probably it's for you to find out based on what you feel for that person, but rest assured when the right one comes surely you will know..
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@shibham (16977)
• India
25 Apr 11
Hi...
I am just over 31 and still confused that i ahve to marry. I am really afraid of about how to step in this prime step of life. I am really in dilemma. Its almost happens to them who has no affair and they have to search for an arrange marriage. Oh no.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
Better prepare for the marriage rather than just decide on it. Marriage needs a lot of preparation cause marriage is not what we sometimes think it is. If a couple is already having problems before marriage, they are going to have more once they get married. That's why marriage needs a lot of preparation cause there are plenty of adjustments that couples need to do.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
25 Apr 11
I must say, I don't quite agree. You are correct that if there are already problems they will only get worse. However I absolutely do not agree that there are adjustments to prepare for. I do not believe that marriage should change anything at all. Whatever makes the relationship work before marriage is what is going to keep working after. Changing things only causes problems. Marriage is just a label.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
23 Apr 11
Marriage needs proper preparation, not just by feeling ready. IT's the same for couples being together for years or for weeks. Living together under one roof is so different from staying together in a relationship. There are a lot of changes to be made and respect for each other's habits. Marriage is not just about starting a family but also responsibility towards all that concern marriage.
@investor211 (474)
• Mexico
24 Apr 11
thanks cutie for your answer. you are always on good answers i like them
are you married already cutie?
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@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
22 Apr 11
You know what? Close friends always saying before that when you getting married or when you choose who is the best for you to marry, you should choose the one that who loved you most even though your love for that person is not as depth as him because it is easily for you then to fully develop the feelings of loving him more because of his love for you is eternal and sincere. They are pointing out that loving is also learning.
@investor211 (474)
• Mexico
23 Apr 11
ye s somehow we learn how to love the other person because of his or her habits sometimes we dont like the same but we learn how to get along just because we love each other
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I am not yet married and seems not clear if I can get into it for the next two years, but I am sure I am already prepared. I've a father who is a pre-cana lecturer and often listened to his lectures, so more or less I am aware of the deep responsibility of being married. It is a lifetime commitment and there are two valid reasons why people get married, first is because of genuine love, second is because of companionship. Before taking a plunge you should reflect and meditate hard if that vocation is really for you and very sure about it. B
