I hate seeing my sis in-law's family staying in our old house
@julialaurene0206 (1262)
Philippines
April 21, 2011 11:55pm CST
My Mom died 7years ago and last 3years ago my dad is now having a relationship with a widow too. My Dad and step mom used to stays in our old house, since I and my siblings both married and already we moved out in our old house and living in our own. Now my Dad decided to live in my step mom's house because she is sick and dad needs to take care of her. My younger brother who is married decided to stay in our old house, It keeps me irritated seeing my sister in-law's family staying in our old house too. I always visit our old house coz my house is few blocks away in our old one. They acted not just a visitor in our old house, many times i saw them staying in my dad's master bedroom and watch tv. My brother's mother-in law sometimes doing the laundry and cook their food and even her grand children were staying there too the worst thing is they touches my dad's appliances. I feel bad everytime i visit our old house seems like im like a visitor, and my sis in-laws family were the owner.
What can I do, how to confront my brother in a nice way?
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4 responses
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Personally since it is your brother and his wife living there now, unless it is bothering him the way that her family is taking over the place like this, it could draw a wedge between you and him, and he might take it personally. I would just let it be for now and see how your brother is reacting towards everything. It should be up to him to be discussing it with his wife, and everyone first.
@julialaurene0206 (1262)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
thanks KrauseHome, I'm now avoiding visiting our old house but i hope in few weeks time my sis in-laws family will realize that they should respect my dad's thing. I will let my brother to be responsible with that.
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
That really is very bad.
Better tell your brother about this.
They should respect your father by not touching his things.
You can also lock his room.
@julialaurene0206 (1262)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
yeah very right, they are not allowed to touch my dad's thing. Dad told me yesterday to lock his room but my fear is hope it wont hurt my bro's feeling.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
22 Apr 11
Problems like this are common. We just need to accept the situation. Now the house was already occupied by your younger brother and his wife, it means they are entitled to do whatever it is at home. Your younger brother lives in your old house, on your approval or not? if so, inevitably, you have to accept. When you visit, you do not be so position yourself as a guest, but as a brother than your younger brother.
@julialaurene0206 (1262)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
thanks, our old house are now divided in to 2, they occupied my dad's. They stay there without my dad's approval but before my bro moved in dad and him agreed that they will occupied the half of the house not my dad's.
@allknowing (137552)
• India
22 Apr 11
It has happened with us too. My sis in law and her family now live in our old house as we are all married, our parents are no more and my mom had bequeathed this property to my brother who is also no more. She could atleast offer something from that house to all of us which she has not done.I don't feel like visiting that place any more as it looks like a strange place to me. It is not the house but those living in make that a home. And that home is not like it used to be when we were living in there with our parents.
@julialaurene0206 (1262)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
i really feel bad, and yes,really like a strange place to me. I hope my dad will get home sooner,
