Can Love be Everlasting or is it a just a Fading "Thing"?

People and things change but if the underlying trust in a relationship is shattered (let's say by walking out on him/her) doesn't that indicate that something was wrong in he first place, bound to happen one day? I also think it takes "two to tango" and cannot be soley the fault of either him or her?

albert911 - No, you are wrong on both accounts. Nothing is ever "bound" to happen. Things just do and there is no foreseeing it as no one can tell the future. You can do your best, but sometimes that just isn't enough. Sometimes things just change and it can be triggered by just about anything. However the change itself does not invalidate what once was. It doesn't change the past, only reshapes the future. As far as "fault", that is vastly varied. Sometimes it's no one's fault, just circumstance and happenstance. Sometimes it is solely one person's fault. And it could be either partner, one who simply decides to leave or one who pushes the other away. Sometimes it is mutual fault, each contributing something to the wedge that drives them apart. There is no one answer for why relationships fall apart and there is no real way to ultimately prevent anything from ever going wrong.

I agree with that. Change is the only things that is constant in this world.

physical attraction has something to do with overall personality it includes how you talk,how you dress how healthy you are.Not just a matter of age. About "right" thing .It isnt right to stay with person with whom you are not in love at all.It can make both people unhappy,miserable. She should have open up and tell you what has gone wrong though and see if things are fixable.

Yes, if people can "fall in love" there must me an opposite as well. But after 8 years of relationship, is it "right" to walk out on s/o? Granted, their can be "optical" changes, and changed levels of physical attraction. But are are expected to just run away one of the components change? Physical appearance and physical attactivness changes over time. Does this automatically give us a "free card" to get out?

I also heard and witnessed myself that the "magic 7" (years that is) is a crucial turningpoint. In my case, however, things turned out to be sour after that. Ther are no rules, no certainties in life. Especially in relationships, where every single one is different from the next one.

I will try to lie to myself and say it's over but in fact it will never be. Call it whatever you will, stubborness, stupid, old-fashioned, not-forgiving,.... the one I love will always be in my heart - irreplacable. I know that I'm just hurting myself for nothing, but that's the truth, so God help me.

Lucky you. Your relationship must be exceptionally strong and enduring. I know what it "could be". Unfortunately, life and fortune deals its cards in mysterious ways, and totally unpredictble. From the number of replies, I can see that this topic touches on many folks mind. For the better or for the worse.

Well said. I do keep my fingers crossed that you can work out your differences. It's like black magic that time can turn once partners into total strangers. Shouldn't character be meassured by how much we try to compromise and how hard we try to make things work?

Ironically, that's whas exactly what I called her, my "Princess"! Unlikely that she will come waltzing back into my arms any time soon as she prepares for going abroad, studying in U.K. for 5 years. But thanks for the kind words :-)

This won't happen as "princess" is off to the UK to study for 4 to 5 years. That's going to really hurt' but I have to live up to reality and face the music, however sad and bitter that may sound.