Living with an Alcoholic

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This is tough to admit! I live with an alcoholic. I didn't realize the magnitude in the beginning. We ended up getting pregnant very early into the relationship. He is a wonderful father and his alcoholism is up and down something terrible. It used to be I would fight constantly for him to stop. Now more than anything I just want him to leave. He is so bad in the drinking he has nothing. I had the home, he moved in and often doesn't shower for days, will get up and leave first thing in the morning and not come home until late afternoon and is drinking. The relationship is non existant, I am too the point where I am happy when he is out of the house. I live with two very different people. I live with the alcoholic and this absent person who is completely hollow. I can't begin to describe the relationship between he and our daughter and then him and my son and I. I feel as though the live style is ruining both of the children. And while you read this you may think, just kick him out or break up with him. I have been asking him to move out for months. I ask him to pay bills he pays none. He is talented when it comes to construction he remodeled my bathroom but that started 3 years ago, he has all of the essentials running but just can't seem to throw on the finishing touches I have all kinds of trim work laying around the house. All he needs to do is finish the last few pieces of the puzzle. Why am I sharing all of this? I am wondering who else out there goes through this. Is it this extreme for others? He won't leave, when I do manage to get him to leave he goes into a terrible stage where he stalks my house, drives past real slow. Our daughter is old enough to know the sound of his truck and runs out to see him. It's as if I were to try to get out my only hope it to move to where he has no idea where I live. I am contemplating evicting him and then going to domestics. What would you do? Please don't judge, this shoes are tough to walk in. Loving an alcoholic is as much a disease as being the alcoholic, though I don't love him anymore my daughter adores him... I am sad for her and my son, for having him in their lives...