Older woman, younger man

About 10 years ago older woman/younger men was frowned upon and the woman given a hard time. It was quite ok for the man to be doing it but NOT a woman! At last, society seems to have realised tat age is just a number on a birth certificate or the number of candles on a cake, and shouldn't come into question when affairs of the heart are at play. Nowadays, these females are called cougars and there seem to be a lot more around as the stigma is beginning to die out. For me personally, either way - older man/younger girl or older woman/younger lad -is ok, as long as the older partner is not manipulating the situation, the younger partner is of age and both parties are on an equal footing and it is not a psychological power game.

Well, this thing actually happens, mostly on relationships wherein the man is already old enough to be a father of the woman he wants to marry. However, if it's really love that they feel for one another, then I really have no objections about it. Some people, mostly those who are still conservative, would look at this kind of situation as very improper. They would get to speculate about any reason, which mostly leans towards negativity. For money, a sick tendency for those who are older or younger, and so on with other reasons that would 'explain' why such a thing is happening. There are times that these reasons are indeed plausible, but if it's real love, a romantic kind that does not adhere to what is expected by society, then we just have to let them be. Others may ask "What about their children?" or "Will they still have children?" perhaps "They would probably adopt, but how would the child grow up?" but after all, that's not our problem, right? If a close friend or family gets into a situation like that, I wouldn't really have any disapproval. I'll just congratulate them I suppose. For reasons, I guess I can ask them about it or have my own assumptions which would eventually be clarified once I get to confirm such ideas with the couple in question.

I, personally, am in this kind of relationship wherein I am with a younger man, although he is only 3 years younger than me - not like the example cited her. But at some level, we have managed to make it work and figure out our differences and overcome them. In fact, we are entering our 5th year together and it is quite a feat because never for once has age difference become an issue. I think our differences has helped to cultivate this relationship and make it last the way it did.

I have seen some people like that on tv, and it really is real love between them. There is nothing wrong with that at all, since love has no boundaries, I just hope society doesn't ridicule it anymore- since as you've said, even old guys marry women in their 20s or 30s, why can't women do the same?

Funny, last night, I was watching this TV show with a segment on "cougars" - women who date men much younger than they are. And there are a lot of them. And the people they interviewed - the men seemed sincere. It's starting to get accepted the fact that younger men fall in love with older women and vice versa. The reasons I heard was "older women are more mature", "they're more understanding", "they're more stable", "younger men are more fun", etc... I had an aunt once who had a relationship with a much younger man. Things worked out, and the thing that broke them? Religion - nobody wanted to yield to the other's belief. Other than that, the man sincerely loved my aunt.

Some men are mature enough to have an older woman. I guess every one knows about the celebrity couple, Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, for example. At first I thought it was silly, but then after I heard about Kutcher's life I started to understand how the relationship might work. He seems to be quite mature for his age despite being a silly character in many of his movies. Having a disabled brother, and being very protective of him, I am sure that he would have these feelings for anyone close to him especially his partner. I was just watching a video of them on an interview, and they seemed really cozy and cutesy if you know what I mean.. doing cute little things that cute couples do.. Demi said that they leave each other sticky notes around the house saying what they like about each other. I guess Kutcher might like this kind of thing.. who knows. Maybe they are different in their private life.

I believe that such a relationship can work if there is genuine love. However, there are young men who take advantage of older women especially when they have money. But I am not too cynical when it comes to May-December relationships when the older party is the woman. I know some couples who have made it work. I would be flattered and thrilled if a younger man were to go for me. As long as he has a good character and a good heart, I could fall in love with him. Yes, there is absolutely nothing wrong with an older woman being with a younger man as long as they truly love each other.

I think if it doent bother the 2 that are in the relationship its really nobodies business.

As you said, it is nothing unusual for a man to marry a woman (girl) 20 or 30 years younger than he. In fact, he's usually envied by his peers. On the other hand, if he marries a mature woman several years older than he, he is considered to either have amother fixation or to have married for money. I think that frequentl y too muh is made of calendar age witho ut considering maturity (or the lack thereof).

I have been married over 7 years to a man who is 12 years younger than I am. We are both happy to this day because we both have put the Lord Jesus at the center of our relationship. We met at a fitness gym and he did not think that I was that much older than him. I was initially hesitant to be involved with him but then as I prayed about our relationship, we both realized that God had indeed brought the two of us together. We both aim to glorify our God in our marriage believing that if God is on our side, who can be against us.

Age doesn't matter as what an old saying goes... :-)My classmate in high school married a woman who is 10 years older than him but they are happy and contented in their life with their children. Although soame of our batchmates could not imagine how it happenend. But I think it's love that brought them together. :-)

Hhhhhh nice discussion you know Sachin Tandulkar's wife is 5 years older than Sachin so no problem and my friend everyone knows loves not seen age, caste, money source, family background etc. they know only they love to each other and they live to each other.

If I had the opportunity of meeting an older woman with whom I share things of common interest. I will certainly date her irrespective of the fact that she is much more older than myself. I think what is most important in a relationship is true love between the man and the women. The age is just a number and it does not really affect a loving relationship. If someone close to me decide to have this kind of relationship I will certainly support the person if I find out that there is true love between my person and the woman he loves. I think most woman go for this kind of relationship to enable them feel much younger. If they date a younger man they tend to look much younger despite their age. Most men go for this kind of relationship to enable them get money from the woman,business contract,employment and above all some nice love from a matured mind.

Well, I had a relationship with a man 11 years younger than I am. In fact, relationship lasted for 3 years or so. I could say, in that time, i could feel that he loved me. Unfortunately, a lot of reasons are there, so we broke up. He was the father of my kid. During the relationship, I am somewhat ashamed to tell my friends and nobody from my relatives knew how much younger he was than I am. But it's not about the age gap reason why we broke up. So I still believe in this kind of relationship. There were lots of stories like that in true life.

Age and love go hand in hand. no limitations or boundaries should be set. Love conquers all and should have no barrier to deter a loving relationship.

This is a very interesting topic. Actually, with any issue it always seems to be the woman who is at fault or the woman gets more of the blame. It is possible that some couples to be this way, but it is tradition of man to be older, as he is usually seem to be the breadwinner, the wiser one and the head of the house, and be the one in charge to be able to protect the family.

I don't see anything wrong with these relationships. I have encountered many of such unusual relationships whereby their bfs are much younger than the woman by at least 15 years or more. When man can be seeing woman young enough to be their grandchildren, i don't see why woman can't see a young man. The world is fair and love is blind. Much as parents and relatives disagree, it's their life after all. Let them learn and experience their way of life.

For me, when it comes to love, age doesn't really matter. As long as both of you can handle a relationship in a mature way, there is nothing wrong with that. Besides, if they share mutual feelings, I'm sure that they can make their relationship work.

I wouldn't really mind if a woman dated a man who was 20 years younger than she was as long as it is really true love. However, it's kind of weird when you think about it this way: At the time the woman had graduated college, the man wasn't even born yet! :)

i think that we have nothing to do if to people are together and inlove regardless of their age gap as long as they are both single.. it is their right to be happy and who are we to judge or persecute them just because they have a difference in age.. as what they would say, love does not know any color, race as well as age.. as long as they truly love each other, they should not let age stop them.. that's my opinion.. :)