Understanding the difference between control and influence
By mallu30
@mallu30 (461)
India
April 22, 2011 8:22am CST
If we become upset with someone in our family or at work, it means we are trying to control him or her. And the moment other feels that we are trying to control them, they distance themselves from us,and that reduces our ability to influence them in that situation. These, in turn, kills our effectiveness at getting things done through others, and leaves us frustrated and stressed. Wondering why the world does not behave the way we want it to. This finally turns into a very important realisation -the more we try to control, the less influence we will have, whereas the less we attempt to control others, the more influence we will have.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Control equal balance. influence i motivation. Influence ithout control end in regret.
@ajp387 (60)
• India
22 Apr 11
HI Mallu, its vital to have right balance between control and influence when one needs to use it, lot depends on the subject and circumstances one has to deal with. To me the control is a matter of trying to force a particular outcome, trying to find someone to do something they may be hesitant or even opposed; this is to push your agenda. Influence on the other hand, is the flow of your relationship with the other person. Its key facets are the core values you share with them and your acceptance of them, the acceptance which makes change possible.
