Matchmaking

@llsling (331)
China
April 22, 2011 10:16am CST
In my area some of the elderly still do the matchmaking for people ,it really somewhat bothers me a bit . I've seen dozens of couples living a miserable life after getting married over the matchmakers . What do you guys make of this kind of thing ,it's rare or usual in your area ?
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• United States
26 Apr 11
Here in The States we don't have many personal matchmakers, well Professional ones. Friends may " fix Up" their friends. " I have a guy/girl you might like..." Is said in many circles of friends. Most of the time it doesn't work.The closest we have to a " True" matchmaker is dating services. You send in either a questionnaire or a video or both , they put it into a computer and the best matches for you pop up. You pick the ones you would like to call or text and then you go out on a date. There are three major services like this! As for being happy And married, I don't believe I could be both at the same time , so I am not surprised to see unhappy married couples.
• United States
26 Apr 11
Agreed. I have friends who are happy and married at the same time. Me? I have known it would Never happen to me. I would have to choose.
@llsling (331)
• China
26 Apr 11
We also have this professional services everywhere ,maybe you can get more choices out there ,but it doesn't make too much difference A happy marriage is really up to the couple themselves .
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
22 Apr 11
There are so many different cultures in our country, USA that I can't say. In the mainstream the growing use of hte Internet for dating and such is popular. Since this is so new we will have to wait to see if it works out any better than the old fashion ways. Divorce is very common here.
@llsling (331)
• China
23 Apr 11
Freedom is always the top priority in America ,in a respect ,it's pretty much more advanced than others .I admire that ,honestly .
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
22 Apr 11
We do not do that kind of thing in our area. We do have some people living in our country that still do it though. They are not happy in their marriages either.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
The matchmaking that we have nowadays here in our area is that there are people who will recommend a certain guy to a girl, then they will go out on a date to see if they would be interested in each other. If they are, then they will just set another date and if the relationship eventually blossoms to marriage, then the matchmaker will get some sort of an incentive for making the match. But to force the two people to get married to people barely know, I think that has been stopped many years ago.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
Yeah I think this has happened before...I'm not sure as to now...and mostly it happens with rich people. And yes, its not really good at all times, but some couples actually learn to love each other. But of course, its better to get married to someone that you really love.
@llsling (331)
• China
22 Apr 11
It always happens within the poor in my area from what i know . I pretty much agree with you on that people should get to know each other and find the spark before getting married .