Do you wish you had/have a better relationship with your parents? I do!
By keshia2007r
@keshia2007r (2880)
United States
April 22, 2011 11:29am CST
I grew up with both parents in the household. Later my parents decided to separate. This kind of separation is suppose to have an affect on the kids, but it didn't. My parents separating was for the best. Love was lost in that relationship and it was something that they needed to do. So, I did grow up with my father in the household, he was there, but was never there emotionally. I hardly see him, or talk to him to this day. I can honestly say I don't know if I love him. Sad to say, but again there was never an emotional connection.
As for my mother, I still live with her, but she has issues. She is always looking for a fight, and i'm not the kind of person who always like to argue. Sad to say, I look forward to the times she isn't home. I do love her, couldn't live without her, but to live with her, as in the same household is completely difficult. Mothers are suppose to be someone you could talk to.
In my case, I can not talk to her, tell her how I feel without her trying to put me down, or criticizing me. The older she gets, the worse she gets. I don't know about you, but I could really do without waking up and so soon as I step out of my bedroom she finds something to criticizes me about. Anyway, how is your relationship with your parents? All in all, I wish our relationship was better, but I don't see that happening.
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6 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Apr 11
I like the relationship i have with my mother. It has almost always been a good one.@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Thats really great to hear! Everything would be so much easier and better for families if they were all like this. But everybody is different.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
22 Apr 11
I wish I had a better relationship with my mom. When we were starting to have a better relationship she developed Alzthiemer's disease. She ended up dieing from complications from the disease in 1996. She was in her early 70's.
With my dad I wish I had a better relationship with him but I never will! He verbally abused me while growing up. Thanks to him I grew up with really bad self-esteem and confidence. It has taken years to overcome that! He is 87 now and I still can't trust him! To me he will always be the father who verbally abused me,didn't nuture me enough,never said he loved me and he thinks he did the best he could to raise me,my sister and my brothers! Of couse he didn't and never will realize it! It is sad but true!
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
22 Apr 11
Thats too bad to hear about both your mother and your father. My she rest in peace. I can definitely understand where you are coming from concerning your father. My father was verbally abusive to my mother, and sometimes us kids. Never my brother, not that I know of. But his verbal abuse to us, happened ever so often. When was got mad at my mother he would some how bring us in the situation. But he has always been this way to my mom. To this day he still is, and they are separated, but they still keep in touch, for financial reason, basically using each other for benefits. i.e health insurance and such.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Apr 11
There are times, when I wish my relationship with them was better. There are things that I would love to change, or simply were different. But I know that they do try, and I am going to try in return, but I don't if it will be the kind of relationship that I would like. I'm still going to try and I can still hope.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
22 Apr 11
Hi, Keshia2007r I have a pretty good relationship with my parents we are actually very close though we do have our ups and downs as well as disagreements that's normal, no parent child relationship is perfect
My parents and I have differences of opinion on certain issues but I'm still very grateful to them even though we don't always agree
When I was a teen and even younger I could not always talk to my parents about everything and everything, I think that was because at that age they felt that a child needs a parent not a best friend.
There are some parents who believe in trying to be best friends with there kids, my folks did not believe in that method of parenting. my parents were strict with me when I was a teen, and they did what they thought they had to do to raise and protect me, and honestly I appreciate that they loved me enough to watch out for me, even though I sometimes feel looking back they were a little too strict. with that said I still love and appreciate them, and now that I'm an adult my parents and I are closer then ever especially my mom and I.
I'm sorry you're having a rocky relationship with your folks but maybe that will change someday.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
24 Apr 11
Hi keshia, I hope that in time you and your parents find some meeting point, it does happen in life ! I have had a wonderful relationship with both my parents. My father was the best , my only regret is that I couldn't do many of the things that I planned to do with him before he passed away a few years ago, and I miss him to this day. I wanted to visit Calcutta with him and my mother because that was his favorite city and he was particular that we should all visit the place together. Other than that, my mother is a gentle and very understanding person and the only irritation is her absent mindedness. She absorbs part of what we say and then there are many hilarious episodes because of that.But, honestly I wouldnt want to change anything, I am extremely happy , grateful and feel blessed to have had such wonderful parents !All the best and happy mylotting
@albert911 (168)
• Thailand
22 Apr 11
I unfortunately had a difficult relationshp with my parents too. I therefore can sympathize and understand why you are not happy. If you will have a family on your own one day, hopfully you can avoid one or the other thing. As for me me, I couldn't. Actually, things turned out worse........
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
22 Apr 11
Thanks for sharing, I do plan on having a family in the future, with God's willing. I've always told myself, I will never treat my children how my mother treated us. I still can remember so very hurt full things she has said to us all, and I just don't see how a mother could act like this. I know we can, or I can forgive, but I will never forget. If my kids wanted to be the president of the USA, I would tell them the sky is the limit and they could do whatever they want to do.
