When should someone stop holding on?

If after three years you feel this way, with what you describe your own best friend, I think it can be said that it will never get any better. If you have endured these problems and it is always one sided or at least the pain is you can pretty well count on it staying the same or only getting worse. And if you were to get married for some reason it will most assuredly get far worse. I was married to my first wife for 37 years. We had our differences but we were always good friends. I found out many years after the fact that she had many affairs early in our marriage. I was devastated at that but with help I found that because it had been so long ago, and had not happened sense, and because we were still good friends I could forgive and we went on. However there came a time when it happened again and this time I could not forgive and forget. We divorced. I am happy to say however that I found love again and was happily married for about 4 years when she passed away from a heart attack. As hard as that was to take I knew that I could not just give up. I have since then found a new love and am very happily married again. Had I given up after the first marriage or just went along I would have missed out on two very wonderful ladies that have made me very happy. Please do not let that happen to you. There are others out there that you can be so very happy with and you must think of yourself now. I am 70 years old and I can tell you live flies by. You have no idea how fast it goes and for you to just settle for unhappiness is the very worse thing you can ever do for yourself. Please just let go and let yourself be happy again. It can and will happen but you have to let it.

I would respond to this post by an advice my friend gave me. If you think you have done all in the relationship and still feel the lack of love then look back on what is important. Look at yourself for once. Think about what can make you really happy. Relationships should not only be about hardships and self sacrifice, you should also learn how to receive from it too. And if you think you won't grow on a relationship, it is better to severe it while you still have you hands and feet left to move on. And if your still hoping for something to change between you two, then change yourself first before trying to change him. Learn to love yourself more, give yourself the room the grow. Best of luck..

I was dating my best friend in high school and every time I turned around he was with another girl on me, including my sister. I forgave him over and over again and finally I had to let go because I realized I was the only one holding on to the relationship. I'm not sure if your going through that type of thing but if you are it's time to let go. My favorite quote helped me with my decision maybe it will help you. "If you love someone set them free if they come back they are yours if not it was never meant to be." Hope that helps!

The only thing I can visualize in this matter is the doubt you are spreading towards the relationship and your love for him if you see the pattern , I think in just by observing your interpreted case that you probably are not going give up on him too easily there is a invisible but misaligned connection between your doubts and your relationship as it is overshadowing your own perspective . Once the confusion clears out the best response is that.. :confusion is in you fill yourself with love ?

I understand exactly what you are going through sometimes you lose yourself in the one that you love, and leave yourself neglected. You're making sure his needs our met, but the question is are yours? I think you should definately put yourself first and love you above all else. I recommend evaluating your relationship does the good out weigh the bad? or the bad out weigh the good? Once you realize this than maybe this will help you in your decision. You also have to ask yourself do you have anymore to give or are you all used up. If you are all used up because all of the pain he put you through than you need to let it go and take time to heal yourself. Ultimately this your decision and no one could live your life but you, and you have to do what is best for you. Much love and Peace and best of luck

Falling in love and being in a relationship There will be situations wherein your relationship will be tested. It is up to both of you if you will overcome those problems together or you'll just decide to let go. If you truly love the other person, no matter how hard it is, as long as you know that he/she will be there for you no matter what, you will not let go.