How can you handle such person?
By raven16bb
@raven16bb (8)
United States
April 22, 2011 2:21pm CST
I am so confused about my feelings towards my husband right now. He had these dreams about me cheating on him. I have told him that what he did has hurt my feelings because he always tell me that he had a dream that I was cheating on him whenever I have to work longer hours in the office. I always tell him jokingly that you're accusing me and this is not true. I tried telling him these without hurting him because I still respect and love him. And its been our usual argument now and he's telling things that scares me. Like, he will kill if anyone will take me from him.
Is it bad that I have to work longer than usual? I am only trying to make both ends meet especially now that our youngest child will be studying this coming school year. I am the only one that is working and bringing home the bacon for the family. He is not working at all and only manages his brother's computer shop so he does not share that much. What should I do?
3 responses
@urbandekay (18278)
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23 Apr 11
You should explain to your husband how destructive to a relationship it is to make false accusations
all the best urban
@raven16bb (8)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Honestly, I already told him that many times now. But it seems that he never gets tired of it. Urgh, it's really frustrating. I wanna know, does any of you have given your (personal emails, even facebook) password to your husband? I did, just to prove him that I have never ever betray him. And now, I felt like he got worse after we got married last year. I felt like I'm about to regret it.
@LatinKing213 (6)
• United States
22 Apr 11
I recently had a dream about my girlfriend cheating on me as well and i can tell you first hand that when he says he will kill someone he is doing it jokingly. even if you dont think its that funny or even if he doesnt think its that funny the killing someone part will never be more then words. And no its not bad that you have to work morw hours cause you have to think of the kids first. I think the problem is that you are working and that he is not and i say this because I first had this dream when my girlfriend got a job and i currently dont have a job. so I would say encourage him to pick up a hobby. something to keep his mind off you while you are away it worked for me plz let me know if any of this helped
@raven16bb (8)
• United States
22 Apr 11
I appreciate your suggestion. I'll let you know soon and I'll definitely try this.
@raven16bb (8)
• United States
25 Apr 11
Hi, I have asked him to meet new people or play lawn tennis again. He decided to meet new people or friends and it does work, for a while. But when he's finally home and we're alone, he would later ask me, the 1 million question: Are you faithful? Urggh, he's getting into my nerves sometimes.
@elaidha (95)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
My husband is working abroad. Me and my daughter lives here in the Philippines. He was always being paranoid then, too, and he was always telling me about his dream that I am cheating on him. He was always like this, saying "don't ever ever ruin my trust for you!" He was like a broken pirated cd. When I finally said to him "If I ruin your trust for me, then it's like ruining my family and my whole life," he stopped repeating those words again. Because he knew that I said it wholeheartedly. And I really mean it.
@raven16bb (8)
• United States
25 Apr 11
Congratulations. I have said that once, just the way you have said it. He had stopped asking me for a while until I started working again and he didn't. I guess this issue is only been triggered when I'm working, huh. I have asked him a lot of times or let's say, begged him to do other stuff (like playing lawn tennis again or make new friends, meet other people) just to make him preoccupied. And it somehow worked for a few days, then he goes back to his old self again.
