My Mother in Law wants to break us apart

Stop listening to her. You are giving her way too much power. Until you stand up for yourself and your family she will continue to run your life. You are a grown woman you need to put your foot down and tell her no more.

ccenad315, you should try to talk to your mother in-law and your husband about this. "Talk" like adults telling her how you would feel and why you intend to have birth later. i know some mother in-law are really annoying. U should proof her you're right. Conflicts is common in a family. whats more a new family of your husband. you already gave birth to a child, and your mother in-law is proud of you and the grandson. try making things right for the family, ya. :) Good luck and may God bless u.

Hi. acenad315. Welcome to myLot! Your mother-in-law should be very thankful that I was not her daughter-in-law. If I was, then she would never be able to tell me what to do and run things in my marriage! No not at all! Are you living with her? If so, I suggest that you move out of her home and into your own home. If you aren't staying in her house with her, then why does she feel like she should butt into your marriage and personal life? I think that you should have a talk with her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you don't appreciate the fact that she is trying to control how things should go and be in your marriage. She could also be feeling sad because her son is now married to you. She wants her son at home with her. Just keep her far away as possible. The more that she is around, the less that she will know.

For me don't live together to your mother in law go in your mother home who knows everything in you.

Hi acendand: That's a really hard situation. But at the same time I think tehre must be a polyte way to tell your mother in law that you are in charge of your life and that you have your own way to be a mother. Even if you appreciate her point of view you also need more space. I think that's the message. ALVARO

It is your life, and you should be able to make decisions for you and your family. It shouldn't be up to your mother in law. If you haven't talked to your husband, I think you should talk to him first and see what he thinks the best solution is. See if he is willing to talk to your mother in law and explain things to her because she might understand better coming from her own son. If that doesn't work, I think you should talk to your mother in law yourself and express your concerns. I do think your husband understanding your feelings and frustrations is the first step because if he doesn't agree, this might be hard. Good luck, and I am sure everything will work out for you and your family.

I think, you should talk first with your husband about your mother-in-law. Then, your husband could talk to her about it and suggest that she have to give the both of you the chance to decide on things to do in life, since you are now married. Not that you are disrespecting your mother-in-law when you do that , but it's one way of preventing her to further meddle with your married life.

What about your boyfriend.. if your boyfriend will understand & support you with your decision. then your mother in law cannot intervene anyway. afterall getting married is a common decision of couples

Have you talked with this with your husband? Its the first thing that you need to do. Second try to talk to your in law. Say what you Want in a nice way. Maybe your in law was too excited for her son to get marry. She has to know your stand regarding this. Carefully point out that you want to raise your family on your own.

This problems is common in our country too .Especially in China ,parents invite children's marriage is a traditional culture. In old days young people had no right to chose his or her lover .This condition is gradually getting better ,but it exit . You have rights to make your own decision . I support you do anything in your own . For everyone the chose which just like yours is huge for a person ,so you should think carefully . Good luck .

how can you follow my opinion when you are not taking words of your mother in law.when you thinking to be free how can you birth child.