A relationship out of loneliness

hello babyanna, We are both baby For me entering in a relationship because you need someone or you are lonely is selfishness loving someone will always be a two way street the feeling of being love and beloved is something somehow some people rather have a relationship with someone even without love and it is sad because it will be useless at the end. The time and effort will be throw away later one because things did not work out you are just both wasted your time instead looking for true love. have a nice day!

Hi babyanna As long as I was lonely (as you imply on this discussion, I was all single, spend a secluded life as a kid too) but I never felt the need of a partner those days. I was qyute happy wuth the liberty and freedom to eat, drink, do my thing the way I wanted - trust me, I was a spoiled brat - the b/f g/f thing never came to me and never did I gave it a thought that I should have a girl around me or I should be around girls. My TV shows(the good days of Star Trek, the He Man, The Tom and Jerry), my friends and we doing the social works(like shows of awareness for cleanliness, education, sanitation at the backward areas of the town), my friends and Cricket and Badminton and later Carrom and Chess, my movies and of course, the food and restaurants kept me so occupied. Then some years back(no, not that long, 6 years) we met and I was in love.Eventually we got married. No loneliness still. But then enter 2008, my Arthritis that came up and I was bedridden for 8 long months. Alone in the house, heck, even this time I was not feeling lonely but the pain and suffering did make me feel other things. But since then, it has been a kind of loneliness almost everyday as she goes out to work,I stay back at home. I feel lonely and more empty today than ever before. I am already in a beautiful relation and I know there will be no more of this kind of relationships, lonely or not.

Hello BabyAnna, At least you get the chance to date at that time, but i guess you thought he's going for the next level and all the way with you to courtship. I believe people change as they grow, am very sure this foreigner will do change his views after those years. No, i don't think you weren't thinking straight but if you "think" with out the heart? how can you learn from those mistake. we have to get to this stage of our lives in order to avoid it in the future. But passion is really what can relationship works. Having common friends (with out secret telling) is the best option there. then, let the flow go through. . You'd think i'd want to go next level with you with only loneliness and emptiness? i think it would be selfish on my part, i know i have something in me that i need to let it out so that i can appreciate life..and in turn you would appreciate it. Though i don't want you to drag into my emptiness but i would love for you to fill it. Have A nice day.

yup a lot of relationship started because of loneliness and emptiness, if a person is happy and full of live , why in the earth the person want to start a relationship. However, the relationship growing from friendship is the best, but not many best friends are also your lover, it is rare , some prefer to maintain the friendship rather upgrade to be boy and girl friends.

No I don't think I could ever do this and or feel it advisable for anyone to do. It would appear to me that it is not for the interest of the person and one could possible not see the early signs of trouble and or the person not being the right one. I would hope to always be in a relationship because of love and or and or interest and not to fill a void of some kind.

hello, If i were you dont do that because your relationship wont last because if you dont feel that you needed him you will feel bored. You are just feel happy now because he is around but dont you think that it is just for now. It happened to me last year I found my self leaning on to someone that I dont really notice and after I move on we gone up so fast. I dont know what I feel that time that is why all i do is to be happy again. I just learned from my mistakes

I am single right now and no i would not want to start relationship because i am lonely.If i do that i will be up front about my intentions.Telling someone you love them just to be with hem is cheating.

Being onley i condition. hould not make a relationhip built on loney mind. Everyone need affection and balance for life.

No, I would never start dating because I'm lonely. However I would start making new friends or meeting new people with interesting life to share with me. Starting a relationship when one has just ended is never a solution to recover from loneliness as this might make matter worse when you expect that person to ease your loneliness.

Loneliness has always been part of my life. And not because I had friends, not because I liked to sit with them, but sometimes, often, I like to be alone, just me and me. But I could not live in a world without someone to be with me. I am absolutely convinced that if we were to arrive on a desert island would soon die of loneliness than of hunger or thirst, or anything else. I never tried to be the other way for someone to stay with me. I believe that those who must remain with us or near us as we are accepting. It's sad and friends love to build on lies, on the masks. We must not fear change for anyone not to remain alone. We are each unique and beautiful in our own way of being, and just makes us love in the hearts of others. Changes for the others can continue to help the relationship, love, friendship, but in no case does it last, to be eternal, to be forever.Hope exists!

interesting question, one of my friends stuck to me because she was lonely, and I think it was bad for her because she was only able to make distant friends. I think people could sense that she was looking for people to attach to and that was kind of a turn off. She really had a great personality and she was a likeable person, but she ruined relationships because of her clinginess and her fear of being lonely.

i am a perceptual girl always but at the issue of b/f&g/f i would prefer to be alone rather than jumping to a relationship without true love.at this point i 'm quite rational,even if he treat me nice ,hold me in hands ,say some sweet words ,do very considerate things if i have no affection for he or feeling just of the kind of friendship,i will keep alone,yes i have to say many of my friends start their relationship simpling beacuse they are empty even some i know have a foot on two camp,i hold in contempt for such behavior,but i no not rule out the true love after a long time together.now i quite enjoy my single noble life and happy with the liberty to eat,travel,have classes do whatever i want sicnce my mum urge me to find a b/f many times...

i don't think i will ever a relationship just because i feel lonely.. i just think that it would be unfair to the other person.. also, no matter how we try, one way or another, there is this big possibility that one of you will surely get hurt.. i am the type of person to enter in a relationship not just because for the sake of having one.. it is because i want something that is real.. :)