I need people to understand my dark side
By sashakiddo
@sashakiddo (1102)
United States
April 23, 2011 1:53am CST
I am generally a happy person, but things easily bring me down because there are many things I hate in my life. I think it is a concept of yin and yang, there are opposites that make up one's life.
Sometimes I wish there were people who would plainly agree with me when I have something to complain about or something "bad" to comment about something. I am not being irrational here. The "bad" things I say, I don't consider them bad, I just have criticisms to make about many things. It is the listener's choice to call it good or bad, but what I say is not bad in my mind, so there is no reason others should think it is bad. After all, I have reasons for criticizing.
This is why, if anyone shows their dark side, I will try my best to listen. I once had a friend who said she had urges to hurt people, and although I don't consider that normal, I know she can not help it if she has those urges. People in that position need to have someone to talk to.
Do you have a dark side?
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9 responses
@science86 (14)
• China
23 Apr 11
I very agree with you. I think every human even every thing have two sides. I very admire you know the concept of yin and yong from zhouyi in China . We all have two side in our mind ,like positive and impression ,happy and unhappy ,courage and self-distrust ,even angle and devil . That is exactly that's human being ,no big deal .what shoud we do is not simply opposite our dark side ,on the contrary we should find our kind or nice side ,like beauty ,hope ,cheer ,courage hand power ect,and appreciate it ,strengthen it . Use our kind side to defeat our dark side .So my point of view is that we need not concentrate our mind to the dark side ,instead we should concentrate on our nice kind if we want to defeat our dark side .
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
23 Apr 11
I don't now what zhouyi is but yes I really like the concept of yin and yang.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
24 Apr 11
i will look it up for more information, thank you for explaining it to me!
@science86 (14)
• China
23 Apr 11
In china zhouyi also called Yijing. It's a article about the ancient chinese text,one of the most chinese classic texts. it has impact deeply in China culture ,including thought and behavior .according to it everything in the universe have to side ,you called yin and yang ,and they are interdependent and interactive.So if we are alive people we must have a good side and a dark side.
key word "Yijing" in Wikipedia,you will find more.
@Gorillafootprints925 (3586)
• United States
23 Apr 11
I don't know. I am not sure. How would I know? How do I distinguish bad from good, evil from good. Do you know why such things are bad?
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Things are only bad if people say they are bad. So there is no way to know I guess. Some would say bad exists, but I don't believe so.
I only say I have a darkside because I know others consider my thoughts to be bad.
@Gorillafootprints925 (3586)
• United States
23 Apr 11
then that means you really aren't sure if it is your dark side or the other unless someone else tells you.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
24 Apr 11
i completely agree. I mean, I know it's not truly evil or anything. I just know that people don't like it because it always makes them grumpy or miserable as well. I don't want to drag people down, I just want people to accept me for what I am and not be affected by it.
@heaven_sent64 (206)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
Yes, people always want to be understood, but sometimes not all people have the full wisdom to understand the bad side of others. What you think is right could be wrong to others; this could happen especially when your listener is not in a good mood or is encountering problems at that time. We are only humans, and we have limited capacity to understand everything and everyone at a given time.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
24 Apr 11
that is true, some people listen more while others react more, and some people have more personal problems than others. If I have my own problems I don't listen to everyone else's problems. But I would hope that people don't react to my problems if I need to talk about them. I would at least try to listen to people if I don't have anything good to say to them.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
I am in no way perfect nor perceive to be so I think that if I do it is a gray side. lol.. Reason why I say gray is because the good side is always outspeaking the gray/dark side of me.
I do agree that anyone with a difficult dark side can use help and I don't see anything wrong with getting help. It can be controlled and or helped.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
23 Apr 11
WE all have the power to choose what we deem important in this world. Shouldn't we value happiness, love and joy over hate, meanness and anger?? Since we all have a choice, are you willing to allow problems to define who you are?? NOT ME!! WE can go through life and react to every little think OR we can Think then act. We can choose to share happiness with others simply because that is what will be best for them when they encounter us. Happiness is no more than a CHOICE. You will never find it until you realize this. I will Always be Happy!!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Can't force people to undertand our feeling. Have to ee thi for themelve. A dark ide i hard to let everyone into. A door o often hut intead of open.
