Have you ever snapped on your friend?
By inkyuboz
@inkyuboz (1392)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
April 23, 2011 9:07am CST
Last week, for no apparent reason other than being really stressed out, I've shouted angrily at my friend-slash-workmate. I didn't know what has gotten over me and I didn't even apologize immediately. After a few hours, my friend asked me if I was mad at him and I told him that I was sorry, I was just stressed out. He laughed it off and I took that as a sign that we're still okay.
Has it ever happened to you? Have you ever snapped at your friend without realizing it?
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28 responses
@misc11 (384)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Yes, I have snapped when I didn't mean to as well. I think it is easy to do sometimes when you are really close to someone. I think we take out our frustrations on people closest to us because we feel comfortable with them. I was also really stressed out and I snapped at my friend but I didn't mean it towards her at all and I was not upset with her at all. I just took out my stress and frustration with everything on her. I later apologized and she understood as well. I think that's when you know you have a good friend when they completely understand and don't hold it against you!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
20 May 11
Hi. inkyuboz. I have never snapped at my friend, but I have snapped at my husband and my kids before. I do feel bad about snapping at them after I calm down and think about what I have done. That is very sweet of your friend to forgive you though. Not everyone is perfect and your friend understands this. We all get stressed out at times, and it is very important that we make amends with the person that we have snapped at so that they won't think or feel like we are mad at them about something.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Yes, I have. Though I don't think I've ever done it without realizing it.
Happy mylotting!
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
29 Apr 11
I try not to after an incident. So far it only occurred once as I am more conscious of the unhappiness after that. However, I have often snapped at my clients when they get really unreasonable. At times, it really works to use a snap to break a nap - not encouraged though unless you no longer bother about customer service. LOL.
@happy_sunny (19)
• Saudi Arabia
26 Apr 11
Never happened like that.but sometimes,I feel angry with my friend because there has been something was hiden behind the normal life.I found some lies between us or not lies,it is something that he didn't tell me.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
20 May 11
I can't remember having done this with a friend or work mate but I remember doing this with hubby especially when I'm so stressed up at work. I feel guilty after whenever it happens.
@GemmaR (8517)
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24 Apr 11
Unfortunately, this happens a lot to me. Whenever I'm stressed, it always seems to be those closest to me who get hurt the most.
But they all know me by now, and they know just to ignore me and I'll be totally fine with them again when I'm not stressed.
I know that might make me sound a bit of a cow but I can't help it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Though we never feel good when this kind of thing happens in our lives, this is something that will happen from time to time when you are in close proximity with another person on a regular basis. In my case, I'm not in close proximity with my friends most of the time, so I haven't had a blowup at a friend for quite some time. However, there are times that I will blow up at my husband for reasons that I am not able to explain.
@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 11
No, I don't recall having snapped at my friend before. But if I ever do, I would do it with a conscious mind. I don't think I will ever do it without realizing it because there would have to be a reason for snapping at my friend.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yes, I've snapped before. It's natural when you are stressed out, and I wouldn't feel too guilty as long as you apologized or explained what happened. My friends did it to me a lot as well, and I realized they just got carried away.
It's good that you have friends who understand.
@mohitraj321 (496)
• India
24 Apr 11
I snapped my friend when0i was studying in class 12th. It was a rainy day and we were three friend and were tackling about our girlfriends. It was the year of 1999. We were very closed friend and ever went to go watch movie. When we were talking about our girlfriends them i said that your girlfriend is so sweet can i kiss on her face. Then he was in anger and slapped me. After that we did not talk to each other for one year.
@babygurl4lif3 (20)
• United States
24 Apr 11
I did that a few times myself and i never realize how much it hurt my friends until she told me and that's when i apologized to her. Whenever i was very pissed off or out of my mind i would juzz snap on people but it was never intentionally...I would tell them what happened to me that made me and they would incourage me not to stress myself out..
@chie03 (49)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Yes, it happened to me too at work. I was just really stressed out because of the workload at that time that I get irritated so easily. I suddenly just turn my temper on to my friend. I felt guilty after doing it and I did apologize. I am now trying to control my temper in times that I feel stressed out to avoid this situation.
@cpboojp (1)
• United States
24 Apr 11
I have a friend I have been friends with all my life. He is constantly upset about something and stressed out about money. He seems to have his share of bad luck and I feel really bad for him. Yesterday out of know where I snapped at him, first of all I am so sick of hearing it, there is nothing he can do to change what is happening. I think we are okay, but I think friends understand that sometimes we just got to scream.!
@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Apr 11
I think we have all at one time or another said things we didn't mean or had an angry burst. I tried to always be professional but there were times. It does come on you without you realizing it. Tired, lack of sleep, working long hours and such can cause a person to act less than the best they could.
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
24 Apr 11
Yes, there was a time that I yelled out at my best friend before. He was phoning me when I was really busy doing a project for school. I yelled at him and then hung up the phone on him. But after a while when I have finally cooled off I had to apologize to him personally and was really sorry for what I did. Good thing he was really understanding about it.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
23 Apr 11
I never have done that because you know they are my friend and I am not going to take it out on them because they don't deserve it because they didn't do anything. If I ever did that, but I don't think that I ever will, but if I did I would make sure to apologize right away and explain my situation to them because things like this can really end a friendship. It's like putting yourself in there shoes doesn't quite feel right now does it. It really is a mean thing to do because they didn't do anything wrong and inside they will always be hurt hat person might forgive, but one thing is for sure that they will never forget.
They will probably be cautious and even frightened to be near a person that has snapped at them I know that I would be scared because I didn't see it coming the first time so I won't be able to see it coming the second time.I really hope that your friend/workmate forgives you, but I don't think that they ever will forget it. A lot of friendships sometimes end like this. I am sure yours won't if you explain the situation best of luck to you. You should try ways to let out your anger, but in positive ways and not negative ways. That way you won't snap at a friend again. Good luck.
@misterMR (796)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
During my PE classes, I remembered I got angry at two of my classmates and the rest of my classmates were shocked and were like looking at me as if I'm a criminal, which is bad. It was because they shouted and made fun of me and my partner when we were taking the practical exam. I thought to myself, what did I do? Where did I go wrong? It really made me angry yet sad. Others tried to calm me down but they were really scared. They confronted me and I just told them I got stressed out. During the last period, somebody told me it was not them, but it was one of my closest friend. I got angry at my closest friend and I apologized at the other two. Talking about close friend.
@iklananda (1202)
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23 Apr 11
If pretty girl that being snap on surely they will be angry. But it's all ok coz no unpolite published, it will be ok. If we get stress surely that we get angry