Love/relationship advice needed.
By chorski
@chorski (67)
United States
April 23, 2011 9:15pm CST
My boyfriend recently broke up with me for the 4th time. I feel numb to the pain and I am over being hurt. I am ready to find someone who is better for me and who can threat me right. I believe that I have found this person but the only problem is that he doesn't want a relationship until he finishes college. This guy talks to me daily and has helped me feel so much better. Yesterday I went out with him (though not a date because he says he won't date) and we fooled around a little. He has told me that if this is going to hurt me in the end that we can't do anything. He also thinks we are too different for him to ever consideer dating me. I just want to know what I can do to maybe change his mind about those things. He is a good guy, very smart and career-oriented. Any advice on how I could possibly land myself this guy would be great. I am fully ready to move on.
8 responses
@nhailojaye (207)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
am so happy for you for finding this new guy... some guys are really like that. you are so lucky to have found a career-oriented man. having him fooling around is one way for this guy to unwind... you know, career-oriented persons are those persons who are very serious with their lives and everything. so don't take it too seriously, guess it's just his way of grabbing your attention... :)
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
What, ready again for a new relationship. My advice for you dear is that enjoy your life being single. Give yourself free time and don't hurry yourself in to another relationship. Not especially with this new guy, he doesn't want to enter any relationship again and don't ever do any stupid moves to force him no matter how much you are going crazy over him.
Just continue being friends with him and don't expect much because maybe he has no feelings for you. he just consider you as a friend. But you can always be yourself and show him that you are worth it. Just don't over do it. let him fall in love with you in his own way not yours.
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Uhmm, i think you should make up yourself first that you truly got over with your previous relationship that you are not finding someone that you could use to cover the hurt if you still have so that when you find ways to convince him to have a relationship with you he will not get hurt when time comes that you found out that you are just using him to move on or to forget your past relationship and that you don't really love him. And if you have found out that everything about your past relationship is really over you can still move on girl without a guy in your life for the meantime, but if you really like the guy that you've found then talk to him, tell him of your feelings and that why not give it a try, and assure him that your relationship cannot affect his studies.
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Just wait until he falls in love with you. Continue to be nice and always be there for him but don't push him to love you. If you're meant to be then it will come out naturally.
@chocl8starfish (113)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
First of all, the guy doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. It's pretty obvious, he just can't tell it straight to your face. He just likes your companionship. If I were you, I'd enjoy being single and wait for the right guy to come. The problem with having someone help you move on is they guy becomes like a rebound. That's totally unfair.
@akim95 (8)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Well, to me, I think the guys very serious about this and could be a touchy subject for him, maybe he had bad experiences in a relationship himself earlier in life before meeting you so don't bring it up until he does. Well, if he doesn't like you, I say just be close friends with him for now. By keeping him close, you guys will get to know each other better and get closer (not that you are trying to plot to hook him into you) and do things that you would do together as if you two were dating. So, move on from that di&ck that dumped you 4 times. He is obviously not worth your time, and you can do SO much better than that one boy. I hope this helped :D
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello,
Yes, he you think he is the right guy? because he has everything you looking for?. But dont push him to love you back, just wait until he loves you, remember that true love can wait. Just enjoy being around him, wait until he find his self loving as you are. Maybe he is not ready yet because he wants to treat you with respect and not the other guys you met around, he is different to them and he wanted to prove it to you. okay? dont feel so bored to wait. 
@nicoleherritt (20)
• United States
24 Apr 11
well first why would you want to try to persuade him if he isn't already head over heals for you? In life, finding love isn't about reeling it in, it's about being you and letting it fall onto your lap. Hope you and your friend can start a friendship you appreciate the friendship and in turn he finds the love you hope he finds. If not don't wait for him to love you, don;t try to get him to love you or even be attracted to you, most important don't give him any fooling around crap!
as far as the break up move on for you, don't take the boyfriend back and do what you love and in doing that love will find you!
