Rich or poor

You know what, I really don't understand people, we do have the same problem the differences is that my parents already accepted the fact that they can't change my mind or my decision. People around us didn't like the fact that I get involve with my current boyfriend. We've been for 5 years already, and its tough for us. Sometimes I'm the one paying for our lunch or dinner date. I don't see anything wrong with that? Yes money does matter when you both decide to settle down, but as they say if there's a will, there's a way. I think the only time you should give up on him when he continues to borrow money from you. When he has no plans to have a better life with you, then you better call it quits. Its tough to be in a relationship like the one's we have, but patience, understanding and trust is very very important. Its really up to you if your tried of him, tried of your relationship. So if you really love him, hang on with him, but if you don't want to be with him any more then you decide. Your the one whose in the relationship, your the one who knows him well than you family or your friends. Love is a sacrifice, it is patience, and knows no boundaries. If your willing to spend a life with him, for richer or poorer, then fight for your love. Love is really complicated, but trust yourself, believe in real and true love.

money can buy anything today in life but can you tell me if you are rich will the money can buy happiness your love to you?today every body is going to make money and relations are far behind ,but we should think money is not the only thing that can give us love so tell your parents that your life can only be made by love and happiness , money can not buy and give you the happiest life so you should not think about money think about you life only .

It is not in your BF's control if he was born in a poor family, but the question is, what is he doing to change his current situation? is he content with being that way all his life? How does he plan to provide for you and your future kids when you get married? I believe that you have been together for so long, that you are contemplating about marriage right? It is not wrong to love a poor person, but it is not wrong to consider the facts and use your mind not just your heart. In the end, only you can decide if you are willing to commit to the relationship for a lifetime or not.

Money can make things easier in life. But it does not mean one is better when they have more. Or one is less when they hardly have money. As long as he is not using you to get money, then why should you move on? You love him, he is good to you? What others say is not the issue. How will you feel when you move on? Will you miss him? Sounds to me, like you are better off to stay. You can't buy love, real love is hard to find. Don't throw it away because others tell you too. Follow your heart.

You mean that your boyfriend's family is poorer than your family? And you don't believe that you won't be happy if you will get married with him?

Money makes life interesting, but money can't buy love, if u let him go, you'll definately regret it cos you might never meet anyone that loves you that way, you have to decide what you want, you have to let your parent know you are old enough to decide for yourself. Happy mylotting

Money shouldn't be a reason to be with him one way or another. I would however, figure out why your parents hate him. Your parents are older and wiser, and perhaps they see something in him you don't. I would talk to them and see if there is a good reason they hate him. If you love him, money shouldn't be an issue, if it is, it's not love.

This is the same problem me and my girlfriend have she's from a quite a poor family so i have to rely on my own financial backing to help her, and getting to go out and socialise. I mean i dont mind because she is my girlfriend and i love her since i've been with her for so long but we dont use to much money anyway like you said money doesn't buy happiness.

I don't have too many dating experiences , From what you said up there (sorry ,I didn't have the patience to read 'em all .) I kind of feel you are still somewhat doubting your bf ,maybe your folks did distract you a little bit ,but if you really are sure he's the one for you ,I think you shouldn't have bothered to ask for suggestions .

Hi there, Though issue. Some people also face the same issue just like u. I am responding your email not to give any good suggestion. Actually, i am aslo face the similar issue. I have a severl year GF. She works in my hometown, Nanjing, but i work in a different city, shanghai. My problem is mainly job issue rather than the money issues, although her family is also not rich. If i marry with her, i have to go back and work in Nanjing. I am not sure if you are a Chinese. IF yes, you may know that the house price in Shanghai is twice than in Nanjing. But my job in my current working field only locats in Shanghai and Beijing, not in Nanjing. So if go back to Nanjing, i have to find a job in unfamilar field, and of course got a less salary due to less relevant work experience. I am hesitating to make the final decision. Hopefully, we can both resolve our issues in the near future. Cheers

it doesn't matter what he have now, what matters more is that what he is capable of having tomorrow. Is he responsible? As you told us, he'll make a good husband. And I suppose that to you, he'll do his best effort to provide his family with a good future. He might not have everything but does what he have can make you alone happy? I guess, you are the one who is in the best position to answer your question. Is he worth giving up? He may not be classified as rich but if he is capable of making you happy and capable of making you feel loved, then i guess it would be ok to lower your strata a bit. If you think he is industrious and will do everything to make things better for you and for him, i don't think it will be a good choice to dump him over another bratty rich guy. It is your choice to make.

Well which would you prefer? Be rich and have a bad husband or be a middle class with a good husband? If you're boyfriend is working hard, soon enough he might be able to help his family's standard of living. You don't wanna end up regretting letting him go because of reasons such as money. But wait, why do your parents hate him? is it because of his financial status?

of course money is important but money is not everything and i thin you should give your boyfriend support for his work to get rich and rich again i know maybe it's a theory but if we seriously work hard and work smart we can also be success and success will bring you a lot of money that will make you rich just don;t give up you and your boyfriend must work hard and work smart and prove your parent that they wrong about your boyfriend just don't give up

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If you think he will be a good husband,then maybe if will be. I hope you don't mind asking why does your parents hate him? Sometimes its our parents who May be able to see a persons true intention. People change and i am not saying that your boyfriend will change for the worst but what if your parents see this possibility in him? That if May not be able to provide well in case you get married. How does your boyfriend take the rejection by te way? Is if doing anything for your family to at least like him a bit?

this life is all we have(unless you believe otherwise)and if not for the ones we love than this life is not only boring but unsatisfying and wasted. if you think you guys will last through the hardships any that relationship has than i say go for it. parents often try to correct there children's mistakes but rarely their own. it's your relationship! also i want to warn you anything done out of scorn never ends well. so don't do anything just to get back at your partents. best of luck, it's your decision.

hello, My opinion here is, if you love him it does not matter what is the standard of living as long as you are loving and enjoying its company? Why do you care on the other people says, you've been together since 4 yr. and you known him for so long time than your parents, So, why are you still affected on what will happened to you if you stay with him. Actually, It is depends on you if you are gonna let them control your life. All you have to do is to follow your heart if what you think is much better. good luck hope it help

Just suggest him to earn more money by doing something that earn money. it must be better than give him money. That will increase his income and might be your parents won't hate him any more