What's the perfect age for you to get married?

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Mexico
April 24, 2011 1:33pm CST
Hi Mylot friends: MOst of you would love to get married at some poing, if you are not married now. But what's the perfect age for you to get married? Some people say that is better to get married at an early age or ju won't be able to see your grandchildren. Some other persons say is better to get married when you are more mature, like 30-40 years old because you'll be more mature. They also say that most of the couples end up breaking their relationship because they are young and inmature and they don't really know what they want. If you are single What's the perfect age for you to get married? Or do you want to stay single for the rest of your life? If you are married At what age did you get married? Did you consider that you get married at the right time or do you think on the opposite that it was too early or late to do it? In my case, I think that age is important because if you want to get married you are planning that you will last forever. I don't think that getting married at a young age would be a good advice. But that's just my opinion. And how about you guys? ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello Alvaro, I am 22 when i get married and i am not sure if it was the right time to get married. My ex hubby is 30 by that time. All i can say is,when two people are loving each other and are financially stable there is not right age for marriage. Let's say,both are financially stable at very young age,maybe 20 or lower,and they love each other..then they can get married and have a good life. In a marriage life,it's not all about love,age and emotions that matters. Both should be physically,emotionally and financially stable and capacitated. Both should consider the fact that marriage is the first stage of having a family, So,they must think for their kids future too. I hope i was able to give you some bit of advice here. happy weekdays my friend
• Mexico
27 Apr 11
Hi Jaiho: First of all: nioce avatar. I consider that your answer is really good. However I must add that when you are younger you are usually not very stable emotionally speaking. At least most of my friends at this moment weren't but some of them act like if they were thinking that they need to live their lives as faster as they could. ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
4 May 11
hello again Alvaro, Thanks for this br mark
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• Mexico
5 May 11
You're welcome. You deserve it for your answer Happy Mylotting ALVARO
@koperty3 (1876)
26 Jul 11
In my opinion not earlier than 30. After 30 you know your preferences and yourself. Also I tend to agree that men are selfish before 30 ( sorry guys).
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• Mexico
31 Jul 11
Hi koperty: It seems that we share opinions on this subject. For me, when you are at least 30 your ideas are more clever and you know who you are and what do you need. At the smae time your communication skills get better with the time. ALVARO
@rhden123 (48)
• Philippines
5 May 11
the perfect age for a single man - 18-40 the perfect age for a single women - 18-35 At married - i am 24 years old when i was married my spouse is about 29 years old
• Mexico
6 May 11
Hi rhden: Thanks for your answer. Why do you think 18 is a good age. At least for me, I think that when a person is 18 he/she is normally too inmature to assume the responsabilities that a marriage implies. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO
@zhpshql (693)
• China
7 May 11
Hi,I'd like to share.. I'm a man from China and single now.. Most of men in China get married at an early age,about on an average of 23 to 28 years old.. For me ,I think the best age to get married is 32 years old for men,and 30 years old for women... I will get married after 30 years old. ok, I shared..
• Mexico
7 May 11
Hi zhpshql: Here in my country people get married at a young age too. I don't understand why people love to live their lives so fast. There's a perfect moment to take these important decisions. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
2 Jun 11
Hi dear, I know I am so late to come up with my views. I would say, it can be between 25-30, means not so early or too late. I got married when I was 27 and I felt it was the right time. I was so shy and felt exaggerated when I got married. I always though if it was the girl I really wished for, but unfortunate. Still, it is life and we need to compromise with situations. What is your plans and is the right time now for you to... Regards, Thank-s
• Mexico
4 Jun 11
Hi thanks: Thank you for your answer. Feel free to contribuate on my discusssion at any time you like, they are here waitin for your participations to keep the discussion gettin better. Have a nice day. ALVARO
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I always thought that marrying at 25 will be the right age for me to settle. I got married at 26. And we are pretty much doing fine with our married life. We started securing my son's future and bought ourselves a house. It is really not about the age but the maturity that a person has which matters most when deciding to get married. There are people who are old but have the maturity of an 18 year old. The decision to get married is also influenced by the priorities set by the person. Those who want to have a more stable life for their future family would tend to marry at a later age when they are already settled with their careers and has enough money to sustain a better future for their family. While those who really want to raise kids tend to marry at a much younger age. It is easier to have children when you are younger than when you are older. Still, what is important in any marriages is that it is founded by love and the couples will try their best to work hard to make the marriage work.
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• Mexico
11 Jun 11
Hi sweet pea: I have to agree with you. However, as you get older you get more mature. At least this happends in most of the cases. I valu stability so I think that in case I get married I'll do it when I'll be 30 more or less. ALVARO
@hopejordan (3561)
• Australia
30 Apr 11
hi there starsailover i am single mother never mmarried and i would love to one day i am 35 my mum and dad married in there 30's then divorced but anyway i hope it happens to me soon when i do not know happy my motting to you.
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• Mexico
30 Apr 11
Hi hoperjordan: Good luck with that. Hopefully you will find a person that will be the best loved one for you and also for your child. Have a nice day. ALVARO
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
25 Apr 11
Hi. starsailover. I got married when I was 22 years old. My husband was 23 years old. My birthday was next month, so I turned 23 years old then. We have been married ever since then. Yes, we have had our problems, just like all married couples do. I have separated from him about three times. But now, things have gotten so much better between the two of us. I had to pray and ask God to change my marriage and he did. My husband is a wonderful man, he still can get in his little moods, but our marriage is more closer and mutual now. He communicates with me and we play around a lot too. He enjoys making me laugh and so do I enjoy doing the same thing with him too. We have been married for nine years now. It will be ten years going on July 12th. I have a friend that has been married for over 15 years, I think. She got married when she was 18 or 19, I think. She is around the same age as I am now, too. I am 32 years old now. I think that for two people to be married, they have to love each other and keep God first. Communicating and respecting each other will make a marriage very closer. Prayer changes thing too. I just think that if a person is young and they feel like they are ready to settle down with each other, then they should consider marriage. It should not be rushed. It has to be the right time.
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• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi cream: Well, all I can say is congratulations and I hope you and your family have always God at first place in your lives and that your love grows deeper everyday. I agree with you that for a young couple things could be hard at first but if they work together for the sake of their relationship they can make it work out. ALVARO
@mhaibless (210)
• United States
27 Apr 11
I was married at the age of 27. I believe there is no perfect time to get married, as long as you feel that you are mature enough for the adjustment of marriage life, then you are ready. Getting married is not really a game, you should be emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally ready.
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• Mexico
29 Apr 11
Hi mhai bless: I think 27 is a good age. You have mentioned some of things that will indicate you that you are prepared to get married. For me, these signs are better adquired when you are older than 25 years old. ALVARO
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Lets say 40 or older. When we are in our twenties, we do not know everything about life yet. We are naive. In todays world, marriage is not as sacred as it used to be. When you look at statistics, we change as we get older. So we change from age twenty to age twenty five and we change again in our thirties. So getting married young is a gamble unless you know for sure that that person is your soulmate. I got fooled years ago myself. I did recently run into my true soulmate and I knew because it felt like nothing I have never felt in my life. It was automatic and comfortable right off the bat.
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• Mexico
29 Apr 11
Hi inertia: I haven't considered this age but you are right and you have also given me the most cautious answer in relation with age. I agree with you on the fact that marriage is not considered as it used to and that people change because in our twenties we are growing up so we don't totally understand our feelings. ALVARO
@majody83 (46)
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
hi for me i think age is the most important thing you should consider,some young couple ended early because they are still immature, and cant sustain their life because of not finishing their studies that made them hard to find a job.Let us face the reality that a human cannot leave with just love in it ,it also need financial to have a good and harmonious family.
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• Mexico
30 Apr 11
Hi majody: I think you have understood the whole point of the discussion. Even if some young couples succed it's more difficult when one of them is inmature because let's face it, when we are too young we don't even know what we want to do with our lives. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
hello, I have a boyfriend, and I am still a college student. I want to be successful in life before getting marriage and I dont know when was that, So, I dont know when was my marriage would be. Seriously,I want to get married at the age of 30 , 10 years from now. That is just my opinion. thank you,
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• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi tiina: I think that you are taking a good decision. Everyone have their priorities and it's really good that you don't get married until you feel sure that you are ready to make this choice. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO
• Netherlands
4 May 11
Hi Starsailover, When I was young I met my first boyfriend and the love of my life (I thought). I wanted to get married at a young age and have children with him. The relation ended after 7 years. Now I don't know how I could be in love with that person and whe are the opposite. My whole life changed after that and know that if I got married, the relationship ended with a divorce and children. Now Iam happy and single. For me is an age over the 30 the best, because you have develop your own personality and you are mature and realistic in life.
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• Mexico
5 May 11
Hi delicious: Same happends to me. My first love was when I was 14 years old. I thought she was perfect. I really love what I call her sense of humour- which really was that she made fun of everyone and her confidence- in reality she was too egocentric and she acted as she think she was perfect. The last time I've seen her I asked myself why on earth I was so in love of her. ALVARO
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
hi starsailover,... Just like to share my thoughts on this topic. :) I will be married when I find life is too hard to handle on my own. I am still single now, so it means i still find that i can handle my own life. Don't get me wrong here hey, because some of my friends have asked me this: "so in another words, you'll get married when you are bored already, to live by your own?" that is also not true, because i believe when you find "the right one" you will see that without him/her, you will loose your way, you will not able to handle your life like you used to. so there's no perfect age to get marries, you just have to let your heart decide what's the best time to tie the knot.. :)
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• Mexico
29 Apr 11
Hi astry fernandy: Thanks for sharing with your point of view and also for this clarification. I think that's a good way to make you know when you are prepared to get married. You just have to be totally sure that you have really found the right one that you need to live with or is just the excitement that makes you feel that way. ALVARO
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
i got married at age 29, too old because right now i am having difficulty having a baby, if only i could have gotten married at an earlier age, even 23 or 20 i would do it so that i am still strong when my children matures and i am still young to have a job. just imagine having a college student at age 60.
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• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi agie: I think it could be difficult but it really depends on how you educate your children. I have seen some couples that had babies at age 30 or even 40 and they do a great job. Yes, it will be more difficult but it's possible to deal with these problems. I mean, even young couples don't know how to raise their children. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO
@sonusd (1547)
• India
25 Apr 11
Getting marriage is depend upon country to country, the stability of the guy or girl and also the willing ness, In India generally 26-30 year is the best age for a guy to get married because he has got the job ( not always) also has the decision taking capacity, so that can take care of his wife and his children, but some time guys get married very soon like at the age of twenty one or two because they are in love and they feel insecure .
• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi sonusd: Well actually I agree with the tradiction from your country. At age 26-30 you are usually a more stable and mature person and this si really important if we are trying to find a match to live forever and both work for their relationship. ALVARO
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
I don't think there is what you a "perfect age" for marriage. Well, I am still single at a mature age. There came into my life that I want to get married but because of fervent weighing things if I do or not. Maybe before I was afraid that my marriage would fail or anything disaster to ruin my marriage. I was not emotionally prepared the.I settled to be single until now. But it doesn't mean that I want to stay single forever. Of course, I want to grow old with my family whom I can call my own. It just that I find a hard time to look for someone to marry... hehehe... I hope he will come along in a mysterious ways.
• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi adeena: I honestly wish all the best luck with that. I think that saying no to a wedding compromise because you didn't feel prepared was a very honest and mature decision. Sometimes, people get married just because they feel the pressure to do this or because of the emotion of doing that but not because they are really prepared to do it. Thanks for your answer. ALVARO
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
25 Apr 11
Its not the Age that matter its the Mind Which matters. When u feel to get married.
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• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi jagjit: Ok that's right. Sometimes people are never prepared for marriage. But there are some ages where people are wiser to take this important decision. ALVARO
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hi alvaro, I am still single and planning to settle down soon but the problem is who will be my groom Getting married is not easy For me it's not about how old are you some get married at the age of 30 but ended up not so good some get married at the very young age and ended up unhappy Marrying someone is a choice and decision to make and how will you able to face your new life with someone you love, so better to think many times before settling down have a nice day!
• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hu bhaby catch: I have to agree with you on the fact that is not only about the age. This is just a good point that can help us to know how mature are we to take this decision but we have to consider some other signs. And marriage is about love and commitment. ALVARO
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
Hello! I believe we can never really determine what the "perfect" age of getting married really is. I think the word perfect is way too heavy and powerful. But IDEALLY, it would be good to get married at the age of 28 or 29. Since by then, I assume that we most likely have attained stability, not only in finances but also in emotions. I mean, things like that should be really put into consideration. I think it would really be great to get married with a good financial standing. It would be very good not only for the couples, but also for the children-to-be. :)
• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi altir bonganay: I think you are probably right. And I have also need to add that 'perfect' is way too different for everyone. Sometimes a young couple can work out sometimes it doesn't. It's all about stability. ALVARO