Man or Woman?
By tyronie4cash
@tyronie4cash (925)
Philippines
April 24, 2011 8:25pm CST
A friend of mine told me that a man is much more a good listener than a woman. I am thinking if it is true, and I have experience which I said to myself "Oh, my friend is right."
Not long ago I was so depressed about my Ex-Gf, and of course like anybody else, I like to talk to someone and ask for advice. At first I was thinking that a GIRL can actually help me (You know what I mean right?). Then there, I talked to my friend, say "Girl-1". First she kept on saying things I might do like, "You should give up" and "Just be happy for her" like that, I was like, "Ok" because I thought that is the right thing to do. Then I've talked to "Girl-2" which happens to be my friend too, all I can hear is.. "ahhh ok" and like "That's life". There are no QUALITY response that catches me that can actually help my feelings. Unlike my guy friends, they were talking and talking figuring out what happened or what will happen, a non stop advice.. they didn't even said to "GIVE UP".
so my conclusion is, those Girl friends I have is like they're not THAT interested on what I am saying or the situation, and instead of hearing your stories, they're ending it up ASAP. LOL 
So what do you think? I know I might not be right on this.. just based on my experience.. 
So what do you think? I know I might not be right on this.. just based on my experience.. 7 responses
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
It could be because girls do not like to have a confrontation, and would opt for he peaceful way out of some difficulties. Or, you are right, they are not really interested in your story...
But frankly I would say the same as hem, for you to give up and move on. Not that I am not interested in your problem, because I don't like people to hang on to their problem over and over. You would feel enough when it is enough.
But frankly I would say the same as hem, for you to give up and move on. Not that I am not interested in your problem, because I don't like people to hang on to their problem over and over. You would feel enough when it is enough.@tyronie4cash (925)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
I know right? :) Everybody should move on. LOL :)
Thank You!
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
Well in that case, i cannot judge for there are still women who are a good listener who wants to just listen to your story patiently and wanted to dig up more about what happened because i am that kind of a girl who just listens and wanted to know more about it and think of the situation and try to understand it, but i admit that there are more men who listens than women, because i observe that there are more women who wants to talk than to listen and so they miss the best part of the story LOL. But in some case there are still women who are a good listener and there are Men who also wants to talk.
@tyronie4cash (925)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
Hehehe.. yes, I didn't said that all women are like that. :) just maybe... majority? lol! ^_^
on the other hand, every body is different. so maybe I am not that lucky to have them as my listener. LOL ^_^
Thank You! :)
@theonehush (959)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
tyronie.. there are lots of personalities out there in this world and you can never can tell which is good nor bad by simply one conversation.. it depends on how you know those two people who listened to your story.. but then again with regards to your topic i think that a guy listens better.. you see women like to hear good stuff and not exactly the one that you talked to them about.. since your problem is with another girl.. so what im trying to say is that if something like that happens you can always approach your buds.. (i mean guy friends) .. coz it works for me.. but im just one person.. and others might think otherwise.. dont get me wrong.. im just telling you this based on my experience.. 
@tyronie4cash (925)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
Yea, That's why I said that I am not totally right about this :)
I will now, I don't have many girl friends, so probably I would be talking to my buddies.
I wouldn't say that from now on I will not ask for they're advice or something (That Girl friend) but now I know that they wouldn't care much, and I would be asking different gal next time. :) hehehe
Thanks for sharing your oppinion. :)
@theonehush (959)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
thats alright.. haha.. now you know that they dont care much.. some of them really dont care.. they just say stuff to at least calm you down but at the end of the day, they wont care what happened to you.. on the other hand your buddies will be there for you since they can at least relate to the pain you are going thru right now.. :)
@christine888 (303)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Well gender doesn't even matter tyronie. Each of us have different attitudes,experience, perspective and point of view. Maybe those girl friends of you had a bad experience with their love life others may not even bother or care at all with your decision. Cause sometimes when friends do give advice to a hard headed friend, the tendency is he/she would never follow your advice. He/she only listens and then what? You still have the decision your friends are just giving couple of thoughts.
@tyronie4cash (925)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Ouch! haha.. I'm not a hard headed, though I may not take all the advice, what do I need it for? whenever I find the advice good, then I'll take it, but if ever I find it not good, then I'll disregard it. :)
They don't have any bad experience I think, they're not just interested. That's what I felt.
yea, everyone is different. it's just based on what I experienced.
Thank You for sharing. :)
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hello,
Ha ha , that is funny! Well, obviously I am girl. I dont know that is not happening to me when I give advice only to my girl friends not to those boys. They never been open to me. But maybe it is depends on your friends because if you want me to help you for some advices i will give you more i can give. That I will let you understand what really happened. Maybe your friends are not just in the mood talking about your love story. you better choose your friend who will gonna give you an advice. okay?
you better choose your friend who will gonna give you an advice. okay?
@ssebrinatw (175)
• United States
25 Apr 11
I think it depends on the person and how open they really are to what you are saying. If they feel something personal towards what they are being said, they are more likely to give a personal opinion based on their feelings instead of yours. As a girl, I grew up surrounded by guy friends. Why? Because it wasn't about girly drama, it was about hanging out and having fun. You just have to find the right person who is willing to give you the full un-opinionated truth.
@grazmaniandevil (379)
•
25 Apr 11
well, it's different in my case.. GIRLS are the best listener and my guy friends does not have a single care in the world haha..:) maybe because of the opposite gender that made it a primary factor in your discussion. I think your girlfriends just have a hard time giving an advice to a guy..I would too If I were asked coz I honestly have no clue what a guy is thinking when his heart gets broken whether it's the same as a girl or just really different.
