Turkey
By hmkoct5
@hmkoct5 (2065)
United States
April 25, 2011 11:10am CST
My 19 year old son wants to visit Turkey this summer because he met a girl online and she lives there. I know nothing about Turkey. Would you let your 19 year old travel to Turkey? He is mad at us but we don't think it's a good idea. Do you know anything about Turkey? Is it safe there?
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@yellowocean (22)
• Slovak Republic
25 Apr 11
The more important question is: How well does your son know this girl? There is a lot of swindlers around the world and you can't fully trust people that you meet on the internet.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
26 Apr 11
This is my main question that I am asking too! How well does your son really know this girl? I just think that a man or a female should be careful about going abroad to meet someone for the very first time. It could be dangerous. I wished that your son would change his mind about meeting her. I also wonder how long does your son know this girl too.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
right! yoe never know if that girl is really a girl or just a man posing as a girl to kidnap boys or men for ranson. Anyways, that is being pessimistic. try to communicate with the girl too and ask for information about her and research too.
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@grazmaniandevil (379)
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25 Apr 11
Is your son traveling alone? It's best he has an adult as a company..there's no such thing as SAFE these days.. though I have been there, there are locals that are nice and others not. They've got great ancient history and mosques which are great captures but regarding safety, It's really not a good idea when it's a teen..They also have quite a lot of wise robbers..they have this common mindset that all european countries are rich and they tend to swindle it a lot of times.. If you do allow him to go, then that's the time that you'll have to pray a lot until he comes back home.
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
2 May 11
Thank you for the information. This is what I was looking for in asking the question. I wasn't sure how he would be treated there. He would be traveling alone, at least until he got to his girlfriend's house. We were worried about how he would be treated. I really appreciate the information.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
25 Apr 11
He's an adult so yes if he wants to go to Turkey he can go. I have a friend who went to Turkey to study she was a Turkish major. She married a man from Turkey and she speaks Turkish. He's not a child you are going to have to let him go live his life the way he wants.
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@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
2 May 11
Well, I would agree if he didn't live at home and was completely economically dependent on us. He is not living on his own. At that time, I would say he is an adult and can make his own decisions. At this point, we feel that we should at least present the pros and cons to him.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
25 Apr 11
I certainly would not let my 19-yr old travel overseas nowadays. With all the unrest and such going on I would not be comfortable letting my child travel alone to a foreign country to see someone he doesn't even know. My sister was a foreign exchange student many, many years ago in Turkey and it was not good. She was in a small community with backwards ways. They thought toilet paper was a luxury (they used finger bowls), did not ever open their windows and just generally their ways were totally different from ours (of course). She came home with a horrible staff infection. So if you let your child go there please warn him that things will be totally different from ours and keep in mind to wash his hands constantly so he will remain healthy. Good luck!
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
30 May 11
I certainly did not mean to offend you. I was just saying that when my sister was there over 30 years ago that was the way it was with the family that she was placed with. I know times have changed and not everyone lives the same. It would not matter what country, if my child wanted to travel overseas I would certainly air on the side of caution. Best wishes!
@monist (6)
• Turkey
28 May 11
I from Turkey and i live there we dont think toilet paper is luxry )) open your mind we are 75.000.000 people , if your sister saw one or two poor people how can you say
""They"" ""all"" and healty?? what do you think about us you think we live in sh*t??
open your mind men open your mind !
@shefkata91 (14)
• Bulgaria
28 May 11
My oppinion..don't let him! Especially if he goes to the asian part of Turkey...they're dangerous,and there is a girl in all story.Maybe she have someone else there,and if your son is inlove with her,then bad things could happen.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 11
I began traveling to different countries in my teenager years. I went to Finland to work as a childen's nanny when I was 18 years old. Then I traveled around Europe by train on my own. I stayed in dorms in youth hostels. When I was 19 years old I traveled to Tunisia alone and had a fantastic time.
I have traveled to Turkey: to Istanbul and the coast plus a little inland. I went there in my early thirties with my ex-boyfriend. Turkey is usually safe. I traveled to Colombia this year with my 3 year old son and 1 year old daughter. We stayed safe and that country has some travel warnings. We visited safe places along the Caribbean coast line.
I advise your son to keep chatting to the Turkish girl on-line. He should buy a travel guide book about Turkey and get reading. You could let him travel when he has a very good travel plan. From my home country there are reasonably priced flights to Turkey. If you trust your son I am sure he will have a happy and safe trip to Turkey. It would make him gain maturity and he could stay in daily contact with you to keep your minds at rest. I am really grateful that my parents let me travel around Europe alone at 18 years old.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 11
hmoct5 if he were my son I would say no not at all. If that girl is Islam he would be hard put to marry her if that is in his thoughts. I would sure not let a teen travel in a country whose main religion is Moslem. if you are not a moslem you will not be welcome there any way. Tell him to wait til he is 21 and if he still cares for the girl at least he has some maturity on his side.I would get all the information I could from the turkish embassy before even thinking of letting him go.for me I would not go anyplace where there are moslems at all.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Hi. hmkoct5. Being that your son is an adult now, you will have to let him make this decision for himself. I know that you may not want him to go, but he is an adult. I just hope that if he does go, he will be safe. This is a very difficult thing for a parent to grasp because you don't want anything bad to happen to your son while he is Turkey. For him to travel to Turkey, he has to become familiar with this country's surroundings. Hopefully this girl that he has met will help him to become more better acquainted with this country. I hope that he knows this girl well because for him to be visiting Turkey for the very first time makes him a "baby' when it comes to this country too.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
2 May 11
He should have all the bad things considered first before he can visit Turkey. Is he prepared enough? If yes, it's still 90% let him go. What about the other 10%? If he answers the question are you sure then it's 100% haha.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
if i had a son at that age i would not allow him to travel. we do not know he people in the area and we do not know what they do to foreigners in the place. I would tell him to wait for a year and then maybe my decision will reverse.
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