shocking news again.

hi, yes,your family is like a soap opera,very dramatic family,oh my,why your brother felt that way,to make it sure that baby is to him,try to go under DNA test to know that child is real blood of your brother.be strong friend.

SHocking is right! Who's fault is it she got pregnant in the first place?! She is too young to take care of a baby! SHe wants to finish school. THis is the type of parent that neglects their children. I feel very sad for your brother. It is like a soap opera. People need to be more responsible!! THen they wouldn't get themselves in such fixes.

Wow that is a really stressful situation! Its even more stressful because there really isn't much you can do since it doesn't directly involve you. Definately suggest a test to see if he is the true father. If he is help and support your brother in raising the child. It will do no good to have a mother like that in his life that doesn't want him. Give the child a loving and caring environment. The baby should not suffer for his mother's selfishness.

hi indahfth I think that the girl just got caughtg up in all this and found she is just too young for marriage and taking care of a child too. If she is only 16 she is just a baby still and having a baby is reall'bad. If this was here in my country here in the US I would suggest she get divorced and that they put that baby out for adoption or let a responsible family member adop the child.b ut as you say the real parentage of the child needs to be proved first. I feel for all of you and I imagine this is even harder for you in your culture. I am a senior lady so I view this as appalling but also I believe that that girl is not fit to be a mother and if she is made to do this the child will not be taken care of properly at all.It is not surprising to me that she does not want to take care of a child as she is herself a child. Iknow ion our country this may seem awful but to me I have seen too young moms forced to take care of a child they did not even want, and I think thats wrolng but also know she will be a rotten mom as she has not grown up enough to even have the maternal love most women dol for their own baby.

Have you talked with your sister-in-law, your brother's wife? If so, has she confirmed what you heard?

Oh dear the situation is a little messy isn’t it? The first thing I have to ask is whether your brother loves this girl that he impregnated? It is what it boils down to I think and that is whether these two people care enough for each other to want to spend the rest of their lives together baby or no baby? If the answer is no I doubt the marriage would last let alone the people involved would be happy. I would sit down with your brother and his fiancé and talk it through and find out how they feel about each other and how they foresee their future. I know your culture is different from ours but we do have one thing in common and that is that loveless marriages very rarely last and that would not be a good thing for a little baby. I wish you all the best.

I am very sorry to hear thsi indafth. Your brother us having a tough time and so are your parents.What sort of woman is this one and why did she get married at all!

how very sad, and i do feel sorry for the poor innocent child. it doesnt matter who the mother or father is, the child needs to be loved for his/her self. i can understand the need for feeling free when you have a young baby, they are a tremendous tie, but enjoy them when they are little, they soon grow up!! and then all your troubles begin!

Hello mrs. indah... :) wow... sorry, but did your younger brother and his wife marry by “accident” before? cos it sounds strange to me... if the girl wanted to get married with your brother, she wont ask for divorce and left the baby alone.. how long that they getting married? did they marry so young? cos the girl sounds like a high school girl to me... good day... :)

Hmm...trust is very important between both people. If there's no trust, they'll break out one day, in future too. So...what if the baby is really belongs to your sister-in-law? Will he regret in future? That he had no more child? It's irresponsible also that he did in that way.

i do feel sad for the baby. seems he is not born as yet and yet nobody seems to love him already. dna is the best answer. then if found that it is not in fact his baby, he can divorce her and give her the baby. well i know this is not a good answer. i guess i am driven by my emotion to speak like this. ann

Hi indahfth I am sorry to hear of the situation with your brother. Sorry that your family could not be excluded with this type of situation. I have heard this so many times here in the US and it is truly sad for the child. The child indhfth because the mother did not take into consideration the babies future while committing to the I want to be married but now I don't. Your brother needs support right now, but he also has to understand that he too needs to take some responsibility because he brought this girl to the family. So as the older sister you and your family can do all it needs to be done in order to assure that he in fact is not the baby's father or perhaps is, but at the same time he needs to do more himself. He needs to help you all out so that he too can be helped. I am so sorry for the additional stress this is causing but as the older sister make sure he understands that he has to fix the situation and make things right, not only for him but the entire family.. but most importantly the child. This may be his child and unless he finds out he will not be able to make things right. Which means he has to move heaven and earth to figure out how to pay for the test and or pay you all back for the efforts. As always my friend my prayers for your family, and you because this is yet more added for you.

Ohhhh no how is your younger brother suspected on her. He has any proof. if yes then proof it. Really friend your life so complicated and you are facing more problems but believe on God they will do everything okkk. Before getting divorce he should prove it.

That is really shocking you know, that girl is still really irresponsible and cannot be trusted still in married thing. So what does your brother planned now about the baby if he suspects that it isn't his.?

This is not uncommon. It could be that she realizes that she just is not ready to be married and be a mother. I know many people who realize that once it is too late. If she feels that your brother can better care for the child, then it is better that she walk away than to stay and maybe hurt the child out of frustration.

It is terrible that your sister-in-law wants to get divorced from your younger brother after their baby is born. Your younger brother should be saving up for a paternity test. Even though it is expensive it will put his mind at rest. It is very strange that your sister doesn't want to take care of her baby when he or she is born. Good luck to this shocking situation.

If it has become a sister-in-law's decision, you can not force to maintain a marriage. Because everything that lived in a forced result is not good. In addition, issues will arise which is not unexpected. Maybe with their divorce, will bring something better.