how do you feel about having kids out of wedlock?

Hi Misc and welcome to my lot. I think that children deserve two loving parents. They need a dad to teach them stuff and they need a mother to teach them too. Being unmarried don't give a child security. Say if one of them fall out of love and move on to another man/woman then the child is left with only one parent. Say the woman/man die the child don't have any financial benefits because the one parent don't have proof that this was the other parent of this said child. I was brought up in a real Christian home having a child out of wed lock wasn't an option either. I wonder what a child out of wed lock thinks about the parents that bore them into this life! I think childern learn what they are taught and it is a good thing to teach our children of God and Gods love. I think it is important to give our children good education too.

I'm a Christian and don't agree with having kids out of wedlock. Also, if the parents aren't married, it doesn't seem like there is as much commitment to each other and to their child vs. if they were married. In my opinion, in addition to what marriage is biblically/spiritually, it also shows that you're ready for commitment and responsibility.

I agree ... i t really depends on how the child is brought up. Some children could turn out to be bad even if they're in a complete family.

i met my wife when i was 35. she had a 7 year old son in a previous relationship. when i was 37 i had my first child, a daughter called Hollie. when she was 4 we decided to get her christened. so we got married on the same day. on the day of the christening/wedding my 10 year old stepson walked my wife down the aisle as i held my daughter in my arms. a perfect day in front of friends and family. Soooo...i feel pretty good about having kids out of wedlock lol!

I don't agree with you.though it's more open now than before,but traditional concept bave not changed in most of people.in your opinion,all people can have children without marriage,in that case,the children maybe didn't know who is their father/mother,it's terrible!In the other hand,children need a unbroken family besides love,it's important to the kids growing up

I became pregnant with my daughter and we wernt married. My mom was very upset and told me we needed to get married. I didnt feel that to be that true. we did get married two weeks before she was born. there were a lot of discussions though. one was I didnt want o be dragged around so if he wanted to be with me than I needed to see more of a commitment before bringing a child in and than breaking up. I know you can get a divorce, but marriage your shwoing more of a commitment. If your willing to have a child with someone you should be willing to marry them. Kids bring just as much joy as they do stress. You can get an argument with the other parent and just call it quits. Really there isnt much holding you together anyway. There was no real commitment to begin with. This is a to each his own, but in my opinion I believe you shld get married. Kids are born out of wedlock, nothing new. Being married though eventually I think shows your kids a good moral standard. If your child is born and you dont stay together thats a different story.

because we are Christians, we believe that you need to get married first before living together or having a kid. i think it is better for the kids anyways. if you are married, you are more commited (just my opinion).

When I was a child I imagined I would grow up, get married and have two children. I got married and had my baby son when I was 22 years old. Sadly we got divorced six years later. I had another relationship and through that have had my second baby son born when I was 34 years old and have had my daughter born when I was 36 years old. Having been through divorce I am not keen to get married again. Now I am in my thirties I think it is fine to have kids out of wedlock. My own parents divorced when I was 10 to 11 years old. I have my own ideas based on my experiences in life.

It's not the worst thing in the world that could happen. For myself if I ever had a kid I would prefer to be married but if I'm not and it just happened then oh well. My brother was born out of wedlock and his life is just fine. I don't believe too much in marriage now anyway so as long as you are stable and can afford to take care of a child then so be it.

I think as long as the child has two parents who love them it doesn't matter if their parents are married or not. It's a loving family home children need, whether this comes in the form of married parents or just co-habiting. Many people don't get married these days, due to disillusion, money worries or previous divorces. This doesn't mean they won't love their children. My views have been influenced by both my generation and my mother, who's always allowed me to make my own mind without steering me her way, but talking through everything with me.

I agree with your Mom. If you look at the statistics of single Moms, the story is often tragically more poverty and problems. If you are saying the couple would raise the child and just not be married, I think that too is not in the child's best interests. A loving couple raising children is the best atmosphere for everyone, IMO. The family unit is still the basis for a strong moral society.