Have you heard your parents argue?
By r3jcorp
@r3jcorp (1382)
Philippines
April 27, 2011 12:46am CST
I never heard my parents argue until the time of my father's death. I wish my husband and I have the same patience that they have, especially me that I talk a lot. Though my husband likes to see me talking when angry than by just being silent, it is more of a torture for him.
How come that couples nowadays fights more than the older married couple? They could easily decide to leave each other and finally get an annulment or divorced just because of small arguments which become big because of being selfish and without considering the feelings of children. I just hope that the younger generation would be sure of themselves before going through any relationship and I hope that there would be more couples who had a peaceful relationship like my parents.
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8 responses
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
hello,
My parents always argue for some reasons, because my father always drunk when got home he wasted all my mom earnings, he has other girls etc. in that age I was 7 I realize how difficult to handle a family if both of them cannot understand each other. my parents got divorce and not so happy. Now that I am 20 i have lot of experience in relationship and nothing really last because we also fighting and since then I am scared to love because I cannot able to handle it like my parents. But I was really amaze to a man who is ready to wait for me and give me everything that I wish for he is different. So, now that we are in a relationship we already been 2 years and I was so happy because we have a happy relationship.
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
I'm too happy for you that despite of what you've been through, you finally found the right one for you. I believe that God would give us our perfect match but on the right time. We just need to pray hard, have faith and be patient in waiting. I could understand your disappointment that you feel with what happens to your parents, maybe that's why your previous relationship fails. Just remember that your parents fate is not the same with yours. Goodluck and regards...
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
28 Apr 11
Wow your parents must have a lot of patience and understanding between each other. I have never seen any couple till date without arguments. Yes my parents they argue at times and I hate it when they do it. But they try hard not to have them when we, the kids are around.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Hi. r3jcorp. I have seen my dad arguing with my mother a few times. Every time he would argue with her, he would be fighting her. He was so angry when he would yell at her. He made her cry every time. I hated him for how he treated my mother when I was a child. I do love him now though as I have grown up to be an adult. I was so scared when I saw him fighting and arguing with her. I thought that he was going to kill her or hurt her really badly. Many people argue today because of lack of a communication. If couples actually sat down and took the time to talk to each other honestly and patiently, then so many things that are happening now would not be happening. Respecting and caring about each others feelings, plays a big role in determining if the relationship will be able to withstand disagreements and arguments.
@jeromar (11)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
My parents too, I heard they argue about a lot of things or we could say earthly things ehehhe because when my mother see a sparkling things in her eyes she buy it. Then my father was a money saver, he wants to save money for the future, that's why my mother and father argue with this and that but Im happy now because my parents are God-fearing! I really love my parents now unlike before they are sooooo ...uhhhmmm dont know what i call them..hehhe
Hopefully what they are now will stay the same
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 11
Like or not, suitable or not, I always listen to my parent argue. I do so so much care with them and hope never dissapoint them. I'm kind of obedient daughter, even sometime I dont know what to do and what to say in front of them. We're not a real close, but I hope someday, something can make us a better close.
@AmourHelen (136)
• United States
27 Apr 11
I hear them argue everyday but most of the time, it's my mom that starts everything. She comes home from work and the first thing she does is complain and complain. My dad gets so tired of hearing her argue everyday. There's like not a day that she puts on a smile and talk about how good her day is. Constant complain.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
I hear them banter once in a while because my mom could be such a pain sometimes. But, it rarely develops into a full argument. My dad, especially when he was younger, would always be the more calm and understanding one. Now that they're older, my dad's starting to get cranky, so now when they banter, I hear my dad cranking up, too. There was only one time that they had a huge fight, and I was 9 or 10. I could hear them from my room because my room was nearest theirs. The morning after, and maybe one whole week after, my mom ignored my dad and wouldn't talk to him. They eventually made up, and that was the last fight they had that I know of. And I wish that when I settle down, I'd have the kind of relationship that they have.
On a side, the arguments come from us the kids and our mom. When I was really young, we often had spats - me and my mom. But, since, I've moved out and into a different city, there's no moment to argue when I go home to them. And, I think I've matured and am now more levelheaded.
@dmar24 (60)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Wow, its really great that you have parents who have a good relationship with each other. I am jealous of you...
I know that its really normal to have parents argue but mine is different because they disagree with a lot of things even when i was still a child. Whenever they argue its getting much more complicated and distress especially if they have loud voices and angry words to tell.