Why the girls like the bad guys..?

@siliguri (4241)
India
April 27, 2011 5:18am CST
Shocking but true this question is really killing my mind i notice it several times the girls doesn't like decent guy they always tend to bad guys who are addicted, having lots of more bad things. Yesterday me and my friend had talked about this topic and we both got the lot of examples of such things so girls what wrong with you are you happy to spare whole of your life to such guys..?
15 responses
27 Apr 11
There are loads of reasons for this kind of behaviour. For example, bad guys are often perceived as "exciting". Nice guys are "dull". Or the girl knows her parents will hate the bad guy and it's a form of rebellion against parental constraints. Or, if the girl doesn't want to annoy her parents (or they don't care), it can also be a form of rebellion against other authority (school, the government, society as a whole, conforming to social norms, etc.) Or, sometimes, the bad guy can actually be a really nice guy who's just pretending to be bad to impress his friends or as an act of rebellion for himself. Perhaps he's just massively rich and she's in it for the money.
@siliguri (4241)
• India
27 Apr 11
ha ha very well said especially the point no. 2
27 Apr 11
I've never understood that. Girl meets bad boy. Girl tries to "reform" (i.e. change) bad boy into nice guy. Girl fails, cries a lot. OR Girl meets bad boy. Girl tries to "reform" bad boy. Girl succeeds. Girl decides new nice guy is now boring. Girl whines, complains, moans and nags him endlessly. Boy gets fed up and leaves. Girl cries a lot. Why not just save us all trouble and figure out what you really want instead of playing games? It'd save a lot of tears. :)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
I love your description and scenarios on the possibilities of a girl dating a 'bad' guy. As a member of the female population, I can say that bad guys are irresistible becuase girls like adventure, excitement and a challenge when it comes to relationships and their partners. Those three key factors can be found in a notorious or a bad guy. I guess there is an attraction for women to 'reform' these guys and play the person who is wearing the pants in the relationship. Imagine, if a woman managed to 'tame' a bad guy, it would do wonders for her reputation and her self-esteem. In that situation, the power is being held by the woman and not by the man. Of course, the reverse happens if the bad guy remains bad and the girl is just in the relationship with him for fun and for the ride.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
12 May 11
because good guys felt so sleepy, and no challenge in everyday luxury.... while bad guys are more on entertaining, your personal problem will be temporary lost... hehehehe
@siliguri (4241)
• India
12 May 11
This is going wrong message to the society and everybody will try to become bad guy for the sake of girls.. A decent guys doesn't mean he is dull, sleepy, idle..etc, a good guy also keep one happy. this is not true a bad guy only makes fun not the decent guy.. isn't?
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
12 May 11
but sometimes, girls don't care whether your good or bad but if you have lots and lots of money for a girl to have a security in life.... they treat the guy seriously...
• Mexico
28 Apr 11
yes, they do like bad guys alot, why? i really dont know, honestly im not even close to bad guy, but one time a friend of mine and i cheat a girl, we were at the gym talking none sense like thise "·$%$· always are doing just right in front of a cute girl, she look so interested on our talking that finally got close to us and ask what bar we were talking about LOL i felt sorry for her, nice and cute girl usually hung around with these st""%·d guys, i feel jealous, most of the time they get the gals.
@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
28 Apr 11
dont worry not all girls go for the bad dudes.some girls go for the sweet ones.you will have your day if its meant to be ^_^
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
12 May 11
if you have kids, its another reason for a bad guy to change and become a good guy.... a responsible father.....
• India
28 Apr 11
Hi...frnd. It depend on the girl whether she likes bad boy or a good one. Many times girls fall in love with bad boys but those bad boys get improved and turn into good boys only due to girls....... this simply means that girls can change anything.....
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
12 May 11
especially when you have kids.... even how bad you are before, you surely turn to good....
@harck721 (372)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
I suppose that's a general trend, but it doesn't always apply. If I had to make a guess, it's probably because these so-called 'bad guys' are more exciting than the more decent guys around. It's something called the allure of the forbidden. However, I hope this comment doesn't offend, chances are the girls those guys are with aren't so decent themselves.
@siliguri (4241)
• India
27 Apr 11
By seeing your discussion it looks that you are a decent guy..thanks for commenting..
• China
28 Apr 11
When I was in high school,many beautiful girls in my class who like bad boys. Girls like them because they are cool,humor,and so on.Bad boys always make girls happy,stimulation.In a word,eveyone has their own rights,so you don't mind it. Hope you have a good day.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
12 May 11
true, as i also notice that, as i said, bad boys are fun and exciting to company with... your personal problem will temporary lost, and your frequently laugh at him and laughter is the best medicine at all....
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Girls liking bad boys is one of those great mysteries of life to say the very least. Why would they like someone like that? Well I can see one of two reasons for girls liking bad ones. Number one it is an adventure I would think, a challenge, to break from the boring drabness that life sometimes is. I came to that conclusion by observing the ultimate scientific experiment that was in my fact my high school days. On some level, girls think they can change these people to an extent, which I think is foolish but there you go. Also there are people who just like to rebel against society and the norms set. Not to mention to get a rise out of their parents. This happens during teenage years a lot but it does really does extent to their adult years sometimes. It really does give a certain thrill to rebel and goes back to the first reason in many ways, of getting more out of life, which to be honest, can be quite drab and dismal at times.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Girls like guys who they know can protect them. Some girls like pretty boys, but sometimes the pretty boys act too pretty. On the other hand, some girls like bad boys. I like bad boys, believe it or not girls like the chase just as well as a man like to chase. Nothing is wanted when it comes to easy.
@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
28 Apr 11
I dont understand the trend but I guess girls like such guys..because i dunno they find them more exciting? Anyhow that doesnt apply to me I always had more of a thing for sweet guys..the bad guys irritate me..I cant be around people who always make me mad.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
13 May 11
hi, yes, its really lovable to love a bad guy but sincere,than to a nerd and decent guy,i dont know why but they are the type of guys i want to have.love life is very nice when the relation is not only serious and romantic,but also a naughty but sincere.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
hello, I just also got in love in a bad guy but I do regret. ha ha SO, why did I like him it is because it trills me a lot, he is a bad guy right? I think I can make him change. So, it is really good for me because for love one person I can change his vices.I am not actually sure why I am attracted to those bad guys but I've already change since I got hurt. ha ha
@siliguri (4241)
• India
27 Apr 11
. By seeing what thing of his; you are saying him a bad guy..?
• India
27 Apr 11
Haha this is really a serious concern but I would not be bothered about it much because I had my share of luck.But tell you something gals like rebels having an awesome attitude.I dont think any sane gal falls for any addicted person.Aside from that gals may like to be the girlfriend of a bad boy but they never ever will want to marry them and bear their habbits for the rest of their lives.
• Argentina
27 Apr 11
I don't like bad guys, in some way. I like when a guy seems bad, for example, when he dressed in some way or he likes rock or etc. But not exactly bad guys, delinquents, with addictions and those kind of things. Even, guys they're somebody are the ones that I feel attracted, actually. I felt in love with my professor when I was younger, and being hot wasn't the big matter for me, I loved how smart he was, and the way of talking he had, also that he already had a career and car :) that was really sexy for me. Now I love men with suits.
• United States
27 Apr 11
It depends on the individual, some girls are attracted to them because they feel protected. Others just are attracted to them for their personality.
@mallu30 (461)
• India
27 Apr 11
The girls liking the bad guys means, due to immaturity this may happen. Attracted to luxuries, money etc., are also the reason to attract the bad guys. We have seen he instances that some of the filmy heroines joined hands with the mafia leaders.